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Racer
USA
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 Posted - 06/17/2013 : 07:51:48
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In the past, I have seen crying increased the pain. Instead, when I started realizing the emotions with affirmations started to help.
Why letting out emotions through tears doesn't help, worsens instead of reducing?
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Birdie78
Germany
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Posted - 06/17/2013 : 08:16:28
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Could have to do with many things. In my case crying made my father very upset so it was better not to cry. I also know males who were told that boys don't cry. I often get a strong headache when I cry because in former times the need to cry made me tense up everything to avoid it.
Kind regards from Germany sends Birdie |
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Ace1
USA
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Posted - 06/17/2013 : 08:41:48
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| Well if the crying gives a sense of relief, then it helps. If the crying is associated with increased tension and or fear then it increases symptoms. This is partly why I don't agree with dr sarnos theory fully. |
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tennis tom
USA
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Posted - 06/17/2013 : 09:37:35
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quote:
Originally posted by Ace1
Well if the crying gives a sense of relief, then it helps. If the crying is associated with increased tension and or fear then it increases symptoms. This is partly why I don't agree with dr sarnos theory fully.
Hi Ace,
Just curious how long you "shadowed" or worked with Dr. Sarno at NYU Rusk?
Thanks,
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jaya
USA
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Posted - 06/17/2013 : 10:54:26
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quote:
Originally posted by Racer
In the past, I have seen crying increased the pain. Instead, when I started realizing the emotions with affirmations started to help.
Why letting out emotions through tears doesn't help, worsens instead of reducing?
notice....crying is a form of stress...lot of bodily functions go into making someone cry--- |
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RageSootheRatio
Canada
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Posted - 06/17/2013 : 12:02:42
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Racer, I really agree w/ Ace. I do believe it is a very individual thing because there is no "one-size-fits-all" theory.
I do believe, as jaya points out, that crying IS a form of "stress" because "it does require a lot of bodily functions" AND expressing any strong feeling is "stressful" ... like expressing rage or anger, for example.
At the same time, that stress can ultimately be a GOOD type of stress, as Ace points out, if it ultimately gives a sense of relief. Then it is ultimately helpful.
I also believe that it is not a static thing ... in that SOMETIMES in one's experience, crying might be helpful, whereas the next day, it might NOT be helpful. Trying to STOP tears can also be stress-inducing, but as birdie points out, that might be LESS stressful than crying in front of a dad who is not-accepting of tears.
For me personally, I would say that crying has been helpful to me, generally speaking. AND, is also a natural part of a "flow of feelings" ... where expressing anger turns it into sadness, then into fear, etc... (so that one does not get "stuck" in a particular feeling state.)
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