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Darko
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 Posted - 02/20/2012 : 17:15:38
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hahaha....if you gotta squeeze it out there is something wrong. Get a movie, Marley and me is a tear jerker, think about your loved ones and how you would react if they passed away....not nice I know.
There is another technique called Karma Yoga that I have used to tap into some powerful emotions. Does happen right away but it does happen quickly if you keep practicing
http://www.tmshelp.com/forum/topic.asp?TOPIC_ID=2529&SearchTerms=karma,yoga
Try it and see if it works for you. The idea is to completely focus on a small task, I roll my thumbs over each other, and think of nothing else. The emotion will bubble to the surface, but you must stay focused on the task even when the emotion comes and don't project the emotion onto anything. First will be anger then after a while sadness.....more after that.
You can always go to a body worker for a deep tissue massage. We call them body workers, as its a special massage that focuses on shifting the blocked energy. IT WORKS, trust me....I have cried uncontrollably during a session.
Basically it's all EFT.
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stevep
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Posted - 02/20/2012 : 17:21:03
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Marley and me is a great choice. I've been sitting here trying to think of a movie to get that going. And I'll look more into that yoga technique in a bit, thanks.
As for the massage....I love deep tissue massages. I used to get em a lot. However now that I've discovered TMS, I'm afraid I'm gonna focus on having them try to work out my physical pains, which works against the recovery no? |
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Darko
Australia
387 Posts |
Posted - 02/20/2012 : 17:51:45
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If you think the massage will fix your TMS then yes you are correct, if you go to just enjoy a massage and use it to connect to emotions then that is a beneficial thing....I would think.
Change your perspective of the massage....perspective is the most important thing in all areas of life and especially TMS
We TMSers get very rigid about things and that contributes to TMS. I have tried everything and SOME of the things Sarno says not to do I do, and it works for me. I have very little pain and the only reason I do have any pain is because I'm too lazy to connect to my emotions daily.
Experiment and see what works for you.....but the focus must ALWAYS ALWAYS be on the emotions, and not treating the physical.
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stevep
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Posted - 02/20/2012 : 18:12:22
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| Gotcha. That's actually something that was confusing me when I was pain free. I stopped going to bikram yoga because I was afraid of the times the teacher would explicitly state that certain positions are "good for the back" etc... |
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Darko
Australia
387 Posts |
Posted - 02/20/2012 : 18:42:42
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Yeah don't listen to their crap.....most people aren't as evolved as us TMSers 
Bikram is fantastic, and will have an excellent effect of your emotional state which is the most important thing, but stretching will not fix your backpain, trust me I've tried that too. If you go there with the intention that it will fix your back then you'll have problems as you be buying into your brains little lie.
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stevep
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Posted - 02/20/2012 : 20:31:32
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| Ok, gotcha. Maybe once I'm feeling a little better I'll start going again... |
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BecB
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Posted - 02/21/2012 : 08:34:30
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Hello,
I can relate to your post because I have had lots of little relapses and am having another painful day. I think I will not be fully cured until I don't 'fear' the relapses. That is way more easily said then done because the pain drives me crazy and makes me so mad. These emotions then fuel more pain and thus the cycle begins. Now that the pain is back I know I am starting to question physical causes again. I am thinking that there is something wrong with my teeth or nerves or jaw. It is hard not to when the pain is bad but again, that mindset will not help anything. I also think that for some, including myself, the relapses are part of the healing journey. You will get back on track. Take it one day at a time. It takes a while for our brain to unlearn this pain stuff but it will happen.
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stevep
106 Posts |
Posted - 02/21/2012 : 09:00:55
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| The crazy thing for me at least, is that I was totally not fearing another relapse. I kind of never even thought about the pain anymore. I was excited about life again and enjoying being able to exercise as hard as I wanted to. But then some stresses hit and BAM it's kind of worse than ever now... |
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Dave
USA
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Posted - 02/22/2012 : 10:25:02
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Originally posted by stevep
The crazy thing for me at least, is that I was totally not fearing another relapse. I kind of never even thought about the pain anymore. I was excited about life again and enjoying being able to exercise as hard as I wanted to. But then some stresses hit and BAM it's kind of worse than ever now...
This is typical. TMS is sneaky. You will win some battles but then it will fight back with a vengeance.
It is important not to get discouraged during relapses. You will lose some battles, but stay focused on the war. Use these times to reaffirm your belief in the diagnosis and address the emotional issues going on in your life that you might not be fully appreciating. |
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lynnl
USA
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Posted - 02/22/2012 : 11:01:37
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Originally posted by stevep
I think something that could really help me is if I were able to cry. I've tried a couple times these past few days, but can't really get anywhere. I squeezed out maybe a little moisture at best.
Speaking from my own experience, I think that is the one single biggest issue. Inability to let the emotions come out. My mother died in 1981. I could not cry at my own mother's funeral!
I wondered at the time, what is wrong with me. I loved my mother. Why can't I cry.
I'm all choked up and gasping and teary now as I recall and write this. And simultaneously I feel my pain instantly subsiding. But I wish I could just break down and bawl my eyes out.
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stevep
106 Posts |
Posted - 02/22/2012 : 12:18:30
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Originally posted by Dave
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Originally posted by stevep
The crazy thing for me at least, is that I was totally not fearing another relapse. I kind of never even thought about the pain anymore. I was excited about life again and enjoying being able to exercise as hard as I wanted to. But then some stresses hit and BAM it's kind of worse than ever now...
This is typical. TMS is sneaky. You will win some battles but then it will fight back with a vengeance.
It is important not to get discouraged during relapses. You will lose some battles, but stay focused on the war. Use these times to reaffirm your belief in the diagnosis and address the emotional issues going on in your life that you might not be fully appreciating.
I was getting discouraged at first for sure. Big time. I'm trying to get on with it and know that this is just a reminder that I cannot be complacent again. Thanks for the words... |
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stevep
106 Posts |
Posted - 02/22/2012 : 12:20:15
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Originally posted by lynnl
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Originally posted by stevep
I think something that could really help me is if I were able to cry. I've tried a couple times these past few days, but can't really get anywhere. I squeezed out maybe a little moisture at best.
Speaking from my own experience, I think that is the one single biggest issue. Inability to let the emotions come out. My mother died in 1981. I could not cry at my own mother's funeral!
I wondered at the time, what is wrong with me. I loved my mother. Why can't I cry.
I'm all choked up and gasping and teary now as I recall and write this. And simultaneously I feel my pain instantly subsiding. But I wish I could just break down and bawl my eyes out.
Lynn
Forum member Darko suggested watching Marley and Me. I think I'm gonna try that later  |
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Artgal5986
USA
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Posted - 02/22/2012 : 13:52:23
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I think what is most frustrating to me is that you hear of all the patients of Dr. Sarno that have been "cured" just by reading the book and in two weeks they are close to pain free and for me that is not the case. I think my own anger of being annoyed that I have to do all this work (and I am not a lazy person, I am really hard-working) to get rid of this thing that has been ruining my life. I am exhausted of thinking about pain, my emotions, and trying to get rid of my stress/pain. It would seem easier if it was a physical condition to take a pill for or get surgery, etc. I guess I have to get over that and just accept that it is going to be hard, but the benefits are worth it. I wish I felt more optimistic about it.
I am right with you stevep, it is discouraging to have a relapse. Any more insight Darko? I feel like you always have pearls of wisdom...how do you do it? (and I'm not being sarcastic, I'm being sincere!)
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Darko
Australia
387 Posts |
Posted - 02/22/2012 : 15:57:21
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Erica,
My wisdom comes from years of suffering, I started TMSing real bad ( had it from a young age when I think back) when I was about 22, I'm now 35 and in that time I have known depression to the point of being suicidal twice...I almost actually did it the first time. The best thing about rock bottom is that it's the bottom.....and coming up from there taught me many things. i had to in order to get my life back because I thought I was going to end up insane...seriously!
TMS is the best thing to have ever happened to me, because I'm now the strong man I am because of it!
Choose your pain Erica......it's not something you "get rid of" it's just a result of action or inaction. If you don't brush your teeth they'll rot, fall out and cause lots of pain.
If you don't allow your emotions to flow through your body youre telling your mind to protect you from them, they get stuck and rot. This throws the whole system out and you get pain.
acceptance is the first step for you.....resistance creates all suffering.
Where ever you are in your journey be cool with it....just focus on the emotions and let go of the EXPECTATIONS. It doesn't have to look a certain way.
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Edited by - Darko on 02/22/2012 15:59:39 |
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