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Albert
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 Posted - 02/01/2005 : 10:56:26
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Sometimes specific incidences are viewed to be the cause of TMS pain.
Sometimes anger that has been repressed over the years and has taken the form of "Rage" is viewed to be the cause of TMS.
I was thinking that this is contradictory, but then after going over a current event realized that current events don't exist in isolation. For example, there are these two young attractive ladies at work who always visit with this young attractive guy at work. It often makes me jealous. I like this guy, he's a good guy, but when I really looked into it I felt some resentment towards him. I kept tracing things back and the annoyance of this situation is connected to numerous memories that all head back to when my self esteem started to feel bad, and I needed people to make me feel good about myself.
I reflected this way on several things, and it seems as if current events have the power they have not solely because of themselves, but because of all of the other memories that are connected to them. And I'm only talking about the stuff I can remember. I don't know about the effect of things I can't remember.
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Kavita
USA
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Posted - 02/01/2005 : 11:37:15
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Albert,
Your post reminds me of an excerpt from John Lee's Facing the Fire. He says that anger is almost always misdirected, meaning it's something else that happened prior that's really making you angry. The present day incidences then can set us off. I find this to be my experience. I think this is what you are getting at - am I right?
I completely identify with your sentiments. Growing up I always felt ugly because I am dark skinned and I never had a boyfriend. Thus I figured something was wrong with me. Despite the fact that I am married to someone who makes me feel beautiful, I still feel "ugly" compared to many other women I see, particularly those on magazine covers! |
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Albert
USA
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Posted - 02/01/2005 : 11:51:12
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That's what I'm getting at.
Regarding how people look, I've found on more than one occasion that a woman can seem really beautifull to me, despite what other people might think. It is more of a matter of how my mind/heart have opened up to her.
When a baby is born into this World does it start saying "you're ugly," you'r beautiful" ? No! Later on society will start to condition its mind so that such and such a person is supposedly beautiful and such and such a person is supposedly not beautiful. I don't really get the skinny supermodel thing.
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Originally posted by Kavita
Albert,
Your post reminds me of an excerpt from John Lee's Facing the Fire. He says that anger is almost always misdirected, meaning it's something else that happened prior that's really making you angry. The present day incidences then can set us off. I find this to be my experience. I think this is what you are getting at - am I right?
I completely identify with your sentiments. Growing up I always felt ugly because I am dark skinned and I never had a boyfriend. Thus I figured something was wrong with me. Despite the fact that I am married to someone who makes me feel beautiful, I still feel "ugly" compared to many other women I see, particularly those on magazine covers!
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Daily problems vs. inner rage
