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Erata
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 Posted - 12/09/2008 : 10:46:02
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I know that there have been postings about narcissistic parents and psychopathic bosses, but I wonder if anyone with TMS has been involved with, or been targeted by, non violent or violent psychopathic or sociopathic people.
A few of the classic traits of such individuals include: compulsive lying; lack of empathy and guilt; superficial and glib; irresponsible and manipulative. The impact from a relationship can be enormous.
Three years ago, after my husband of 20 years abandoned me, our daughter, animals, and home, I was in a kind of shock and began researching his actions and behavior, which led me to read about psychopathy and I realized the denial I’d been in for two decades and the impact on my health. I’ve had classic TMS symptoms and related disorders since I was a child, and it’s interesting to me that not long after I met the man I soon married, I began experiencing debilitating back pain, was diagnosed with a herniated disc and spent almost two months in bed. I was about to sell my house and move away with him and, in hindsight, I can understand that my mindbody was trying to tell me that there was something very wrong with the impetuous decisions I was making.
Most current research and writing has focused on the traits present in the individuals with that personality disorder and less with the traits of those targeted, but I’m struck that many of the same traits (of targets) are present in sufferers of TMS, especially being a ‘goodist’, and including being conscientious, responsible and self-sacrificing.
For anyone interested, who thinks (or ‘feels’) that their symptoms (emotional and/or physical) may be connected with such encounters and relationships, there are several books, including ‘Without Conscience’ by Robert Hare, and ‘The Sociopath Next Door, by Martha Stout.
There is also a website, (which includes resources, links and forums) dedicated to those who are recovering, at www.aftermath-surviving-psychopathy.org
Many people who post on the site suffer from post-traumatic stress and complex PTSD, often relating back to childhoods raised by psychopathic or narcissist parents and one wonders how many sufferers of TMS and severe TMS, (Fibromyalgia, CFS, etc) may also be connected.
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roxygirl577
USA
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Posted - 12/09/2008 : 16:08:03
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thank you so much for this...I will definitely check out those books!
I have delt with a sociopathic uncle who stole a business away and all of our money from my family after my dad passed away at 13 years old. And I just got out of an abusive relationship with a man who has borderline personality and I really believe he has the qualities of a sociopath...During this relathionship is when my pain erupted. Thank you so much for the book recommendations. |
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hottm8oh
USA
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Posted - 12/10/2008 : 08:32:42
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My TMS symptoms started when I was 20, I believe as a result of childhood trauma. I'm certain my mother has narcissistic/borderline personality disorder.
I strongly recommend "Stop Walking on Eggshells" by Paul T. Mason and Randi Kreger. |
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Erata
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Posted - 12/10/2008 : 09:11:23
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Thank you for the book recommendation. I should point out that the two books I recommended by Hare and Stout are more about the personality disorder rather than recovery.
Stout also wrote a very good book, ‘The Myth of Sanity’, which addresses the impact of childhood trauma.
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Has anyone been targeted by a psychopathic individ
