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corky21
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 Posted - 11/08/2007 : 05:29:13
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| Okay, I've been reading every day. I read the first, the second, and now the Divided Mind. I'm also reading at the same time Dr. Scott Brady. I believe, I believe, I journal and self talk. Last night when I was washing my son in the shower, I bent over and a terrible pain when up my leg and butt. OUCH!!!! I was calm, and said I am stressed and angry that I have to do everything so perfect, etc. etc. Then I went to bed. This morning the pain is still there and it feels like my mid back is about to go. WHAT DO I DO? I keep saying its hormones screwing with me and try to not think about it, but I'm feeling like I'm slipping down the anxious slope again. |
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armchairlinguist
USA
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Posted - 11/08/2007 : 10:07:31
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Keep on twith the work. You'll have some setbacks. The important thing is not to do the natural thing, which is to panic and think 'It's not working'. It is working. It takes time. It's not a linear process.
If the pain has an emotional hold over you, then you have not won the battle yet. If you can truly receive the pain as purely a signal of internal psychological processes, then you will have reached a major victory and turning point.
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It's not 100% belief that's required, but 100% commitment. |
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corky21
USA
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Posted - 11/08/2007 : 14:17:52
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| Okay. I'll try. I'm better. I was really not thinking about it most of the day and I'm up and doing the stuff that needs to be done. Thank you. |
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armchairlinguist
USA
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Posted - 11/08/2007 : 15:29:21
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Great! Sounds like you are on the right track. Best wishes.
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mgfilm
USA
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Posted - 11/08/2007 : 19:06:02
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I am fully a believer and I still have strong painful setbacks. Even during the setback I have no doubt- but I do have a lot of stress with two kids, too much work, and in this most recent instance busted pipes and falling ceilings. It's been about two months now and each week the sciatic pain goes down a little. I took advantage of a free massage certificate I had last week and it helped- but I think mostly as I thought of it as an aid in helping myself relax rather than a cure for the pain. I've been working on breathing deeply when standing over the crib for hours at night- and that has helped as well.
It's a subtle dance- toughing it through the pain- and listening to the pain- which is often telling me that I am pushing myself a bit too hard and the stress of it is bringing up a lot ofissues that need dealing with - in this case pushing through the pain is also kind of an avoidant act-
it just ain't so simple but it is a great help to know that it can, will, and does get better. |
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corky21
USA
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Posted - 11/09/2007 : 05:31:23
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I know what you mean. Maybe its just doing things we really don't want to be doing. We hate to admit it because we are good moms, dads, employees, etc. And when pipes go I know the stress of that; I lived that nightmare 25 years ago. I love my son dearly, but I have finally realized that I'm angry my life changed because of him. Terrible to say, but its true. I left a great job, friends, etc. and am basically bored and lonely and don't love doing the caretaker thing. I'm not a baking cookies type (wish I were cause I love that type). I realized that most of my aches started 4 years ago when I retired. I had flareups in my stressful jobs over the years too, but it always went away when things were better, so I believe 100% in this. I just got discouraged there for a bit yesterday when I felt that pain up my leg and buttock when I bent over.
I'm better today. And hoping to stay that way. All the best. |
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mamaboulet
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Posted - 11/09/2007 : 07:06:50
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Originally posted by corky21
I know what you mean. Maybe its just doing things we really don't want to be doing. We hate to admit it because we are good moms, dads, employees, etc. And when pipes go I know the stress of that; I lived that nightmare 25 years ago. I love my son dearly, but I have finally realized that I'm angry my life changed because of him. Terrible to say, but its true. I left a great job, friends, etc. and am basically bored and lonely and don't love doing the caretaker thing. I'm not a baking cookies type (wish I were cause I love that type). I realized that most of my aches started 4 years ago when I retired. I had flareups in my stressful jobs over the years too, but it always went away when things were better, so I believe 100% in this. I just got discouraged there for a bit yesterday when I felt that pain up my leg and buttock when I bent over.
I'm better today. And hoping to stay that way. All the best.
Boy do I have sympathy. I too am in a longterm round of caregiver/housekeeper/cook, with no outside job and very few friends (we moved back here less than a year ago). Even my goodist side wants to scream at my mother for being so dependent that we had to move her in with us. And even a little catering on the side hasn't helped my current down in the dumps self esteem. I feel useless, lonely, bored, and sick of mundane responsibility. I'm depressed and I want to hit somebody. I'm just glad I found Sarno before I went into this mess, or it would be worse. I just wish that depression, anxiety, and stomach problems weren't my body's TMS equivalents of choice, because I'm not ready for another round of them. I find it easier to talk to a painful wrist or neck than to my depression and anxiety (they just look at me with glazed eyes and tell me to go away and leave them alone). |
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DrGUID
United Kingdom
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Posted - 11/09/2007 : 07:19:14
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Setbacks are quite common, I'm in a bit of a slump at the moment as my subconcious doesn't like my new office...
You need to try not to focus on your symptoms, as I've found the most effective solution is not to think about them at all. If I do get the odd twinge, it goes again in a couple of hours. Keep going, it can be done! |
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Setback..What should I expect?
