I am currently in a meeting for doctors and I observed the following which I think will be helpful. There were 2 doctors in the front row, they were both young, looked liked in their 30s. One was balding with thick glasses, the other had a full head of hair and no glasses. The one with glasses was fidgeting through the whole conference which was 3 hours long. The one without glasses was at peace just sitting still and comfortable. I am still working on myself, so I could see my urge to want to fidget and move around, but I resisted and conditioned myself to be comfortable and it worked very well.
Ace1, there's the tinkling of pennies dropping here. I can't really define this sense in words, not yet leastways; but I am starting to twig. All this, in some distant way is penetrating beyond the intellect. Sorry to be so vague.