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shawnsmith
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 Posted - 01/09/2012 : 08:24:07
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This note is written for me. You can read it if you like but no big deal if you don't.
Shawn, you have to learn to be patient. You live in a world which demands instant results, instant gratification, instant everything. No wonder you get pissed off when things don't go your way or don't turn out within the time frame you want. Dr. Sarno says 6 weeks -- Hoorah! But 7 years later you remain in pain, because you are obsessed with looking at the calendar and lamenting how time is passing you by. You are conditioned -- mostly by the mass media -- to demand satisfaction now! But guess what? life does not always work that way. Sometimes, in fact many times, things do not go your way and there is not a thing you can do about it. That is reality and it will gob smack you in the face time and again whether you like it or not. People will let you down, fail to meet your expectations, lie to you, manipulate you, be rude to you, break their promises and totally ignore or disrespect your opinions. That is reality and, as I said, there is not much you can do about what others chose to do.
But what you can do is examine how you react to what other people do or the situations you find yourself in. That is where your real work lies. How do you react when people are rude to you, ignore you or disrespects your opinions? What happens on the inside when they break their promises or manipulate you in some way? You already know the answer to that question -- you fume on the inside. It fills you with anger, sorrow, disappointment and even low self esteem. You take everything personally. You want everyone to listen to you, to respect you, to look up to you, to hang on your every word and agree with everything you say. But guess what, it is not going to happen, so you are going to have to learn to adjust your attitude because people are not going to change for you. This takes patience, a lot of it.
I will write more later, but think about this for awhile and I will give you another topic -- obsession -- to think about later. |
Edited by - shawnsmith on 01/09/2012 08:24:23 |
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tmsjptc
USA
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Posted - 01/09/2012 : 15:20:43
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Shawn, it may have been just for you, but your post rings true with me. I loved the part "You want everyone to listen to you, to respect you, to look up to you, to hang on your every word and agree with everything you say". OMG, I am so guilty of that! Or at least, I had been. I used to go to meetings and get flare-ups of pain (on top of the daily chronic stuff) that pushed my pain level from a 2 to a 6. I now realize it was because someone didn't listen to my opinion.
Thanks for posting. |
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bryan3000
USA
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Posted - 01/10/2012 : 00:44:23
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Nice job!
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-1/2010 - Developed chronic sinus problems. ENTs/Docs can't find anything
-5/29/2010 - Doc gives cocktail of allergy meds which induces first ever panic attack/anxiety.
-7/16/2010 - Anxiety stays/worsens - put on Xanax
2/1/2011 - Began Xanax taper - Withdrawal starts - full body chaos
-6/11/2011 - Last dose of Xanax. Physical/emotional chaos continues for several months.
-Now: Taking it day by day, looking for real answers and ways to heal myself without medical poison. |
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Patience -- Note to self
