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Bento

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Posted - 07/13/2010 :  14:21:21  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
Isnt it possible that if a person tries this method and it doesnt work they may feel even worse for not only having the problem in the first place but also for not being able to heal themself. Its possible that it could induce feelings of hopelessness and guilt upon a person who is already suffering.
I dont think a person dieing of cancer is going to appreciate being told that they have created it with their own mind.

Darko

Australia
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Posted - 07/13/2010 :  15:05:51  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
Bento,
I'll have a crack at this......to answer the first part......yes it's possible. Anything is possible! However how do these feelings help???? They don't, so it's up to you to make sure you don't go down that path. Not always easy I know, but I'm on my third relapse at the moment and I can tell you that it's as much a mental strength game as anything.....otherwise I would have jumped off a bridge months ago. Do not give in to this rubbish, learn from it and move forward.....As for the second part....Don't tell them that then! My MO is to just 'mind my own business' and not go around telling people what is wrong or what they need.....because I don't have it all sorted out either. I work at getting my own life working as best I can and enjoying it, if others are interested in my results then I'm happy to share.....otherwise I mind my own business. This has served me well. Anyone dying of cancer is not likely ready to hear it's in their mind, and that's probably why they're dying. As I posted in another comment a few days ago I have found it helpful to 'test' peoples beliefs before I make any suggestions. People become identified with the crap that's in their heads....if you challenge that crap then you'll be met with hostility......most times even if you bring facts.

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art

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Posted - 07/13/2010 :  15:35:36  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
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Originally posted by Bento

Isnt it possible that if a person tries this method and it doesnt work they may feel even worse for not only having the problem in the first place but also for not being able to heal themself. Its possible that it could induce feelings of hopelessness and guilt upon a person who is already suffering.
I dont think a person dieing of cancer is going to appreciate being told that they have created it with their own mind.



Seems pretty far fetched to me. People can and do beat themselves up for all kinds of things, but from a practical point of view I don't see how this is a factor.

I'm not sure how you leap from TMS to cancer, so I'll leave that one alone
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Singer_Artist

USA
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Posted - 07/18/2010 :  21:37:59  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
Darko,
I really like what you wrote..It should help Bento a lot!
Karen
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Wavy Soul

USA
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Posted - 07/21/2010 :  19:25:02  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
oops - I had put this in wrong thread...

My 2 cents on blaming the victim is that most people who have accepted that they have TMS probably went through a defensive period where we felt "made wrong" by people who were implying that our illnesses weren't real. Personally, I had the "mystery illnesses" of fibromyalgia and chronic fatigue starting 30 years ago. People were just so excited to tell me it was my mind or unprocessed emotions, but was a cheese factory of processing my emotions and core beliefs compared to everyone I knew. So it didn't make sense, and it didn't help to be told my illness wasn't real.

It was Sarno's "distraction" theory that opened a new door for me, although when someone first gave me a Sarno book about back pain I threw it out in disgust. So I can understand why people don't want to hear about it. Since I introduce the idea of TMS to people as part of my professional activity, I have learned to be very careful about how I communicate. I don't want them to waste as much time as I did.

Thanks for all your intelligent thoughts.

Love is the answer, whatever the question
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