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mala
Hong Kong
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 Posted - 01/15/2010 : 19:01:40
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Acknowledge to yourself how you are feeling. I feel..., and state how you feel. It could be angry, sad, lonely, depressed, scattered, stressed or guilty. Do not allow yourself off the hook by saying I don't know what I feel. This isn’t about knowing what you feel it is about feeling what you feel
I copied this from Monte's latest post.
In all honesty I never had any of those feelings till I started having pain. Now I feel that I am angry, sad, lonely, depressed & all the above. I wasn't this personality before but have become one since I started reading Sarno and others. In fact I was fearless.
The pain has changed me into a TMS type person. I wasn't a TMS type person before the pain.
Does anyone else feel like this?
Good Luck & Good Health
Mala |
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catspine
USA
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Posted - 01/16/2010 : 22:25:51
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Yes Mala i can relate to what you say and I was fearless too, for the longest time there were no questions about emotions or feelings even during the worst pain episodes until I got better reading from Dr Sarno and others, I guess it's part of the cure...
More than ever before TMS the feelings and emotions become a huge part of the whole picture especially if those have been ignored or repressed for too long and I think Monte has a good strategy.
I believe you 'll be able to overcome the annoying part as your condition improves but in the meantime those of us stuck with this condition must 'give the fire its share' until it has nothing left to burn.
It can be a tough one but it doesn't have to be, try to enjoy the ride as much as possible.
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heart a tact
USA
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Posted - 01/24/2010 : 14:44:41
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i feel this way too-- before this pain fiasco began, i was a real go-getter. straight a student, touring with my band, cycling miles every day, skateboarding, snowboarding, very confident... then i hit a wall, so to speak.
now i am realizing, however, that these bad feelings pre-date my pain by years. i was simply good at repressing them. I was a sensitive little boy, but I found relief from the discomfort of feeling 'weird' in heavy metal music, 'extreme' sports, marijuana, working hard at school, and being successful professionally. I was especially proud that I could balance having a 'straight' day job and a night life where I let loose a bit more.
now i realize that all of these things were distractions. i have been uncomfortable in social situations, unsure of myself, wanting to be taken care of, and scared of independence since my childhood. now i figure i might as well face the music... it's not worth causing myself pain over, that's for sure. |
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mala
Hong Kong
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Posted - 01/24/2010 : 17:48:33
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now i realize that all of these things were distractions. i have been uncomfortable in social situations, unsure of myself, wanting to be taken care of, and scared of independence since my childhood. now i figure i might as well face the music... it's not worth causing myself pain over, that's for sure.
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Hi heart a tact,
Thx for the post. What you have mentioned in yr post which I have quoted is probably true of most if not all people. We have all at some time or another felt insecure & scared. It is part of growing up. We all have been unsure of ourselves about different things in life - parents, friends, jobs, marriage all present challenges. To me that is normal.
So why doesn't everyone have pain?
Good Luck & Good Health
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Edited by - mala on 01/24/2010 17:52:19 |
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catspine
USA
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Posted - 01/24/2010 : 18:48:40
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Hi Mala
You wrote: quote:
So why doesn't everyone have pain?
Although not everybody has pain an enormous amount of people do and a lot of them are misdiagnosed everyday (for example Remember Dr Sarno talking about an epidemic of back pain) because until recently the medical profession was not trained to work with it when it is TMS and was reluctant to considering the fact that psychological factors influence our health far beyond what they thought was possible. Consequently all this people are redirected to the MDs or specialists for treatments they may not really need.
Also in our society emotions are not really welcome to display and end up likely to be repressed or looked down on (consider the widely use phrase "Oh! He/she was very emotional about it!") If that doesn't have a negative co-notation than what does? Generally speaking try to tell someone that your TMS condition is psychosomatic instead of purely physical and watch their response. You can see the questions on their faces and may end up very quickly in a category where you surely don't belong. Maybe they don't know what to do with emotions.
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heart a tact
USA
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Posted - 01/27/2010 : 18:33:58
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Originally posted by mala
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now i realize that all of these things were distractions. i have been uncomfortable in social situations, unsure of myself, wanting to be taken care of, and scared of independence since my childhood. now i figure i might as well face the music... it's not worth causing myself pain over, that's for sure.
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Hi heart a tact,
Thx for the post. What you have mentioned in yr post which I have quoted is probably true of most if not all people. We have all at some time or another felt insecure & scared. It is part of growing up. We all have been unsure of ourselves about different things in life - parents, friends, jobs, marriage all present challenges. To me that is normal.
So why doesn't everyone have pain?
Good Luck & Good Health
Mala
I think that many people do have pain. I think that every person I've ever met who has a re-occurring pain/injury experiences tms.
for some of us it is more chronic or more disabling than others, since we're all different...
but every guy i know with a 'bad knee', i think it's tms.
weak stomach? probably tms.
headaches? migraines? almost everyone gets those! and theyre probably tms.
or how about tendonitis? "tennis elbow"? tms! |
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susan828
USA
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Posted - 01/28/2010 : 15:15:38
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Heart a tact, every bad knee is not tms. We can't attribute everything to that, really. I had a bad knee, there was a cyst and a very bad tear where I could not walk or sleep. I had 3 consultations before choosing surgery. Even the physiatrist who does NOT do surgery and will do everything to avoid a pt. having surgery, told me I need surgery.
Even Sarno advises that people need to make sure. If you're familiar with the nutrition guru Dr. Weil...he is an expert on alternative medicine but will be the first to say get your appendix out if it's inflamed. My knee was swollen out to Mars...this is NOT TMS. I think we have to learn how to differentiate the two and not ignore some potentially life threatening thing, believing it's TMS. We don't want to me like the doctors who used to tell people "It's all in your head"...we don't want to do that to ourselves when it's something indeed structurally that needs addressing. My knee had the surgery and I am so glad I did it, short recovery and pain free for 15 years now. |
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