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Peg
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 Posted - 02/18/2009 : 16:02:07
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Hi Marsha,
Thanks for your kind response to my success story. I've read your posts and I know you are dealing with a relapse after many years without pain. I hope you're doing well now.
You mentioned going back for a refresher in October 2008. Did you attend the patient lecture on the 20th? I was there that night and met a great group of his patients. I really enjoyed being there.
Take care,
Peg
In questions of science, the authority of a thousand is not worth the humble reasoning of a single individual. Galileo Galilei |
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marsha
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Posted - 02/19/2009 : 14:17:04
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Dear Peg,
I was there with my husband ( a non Believer) and I think I remember you.
Are you “THE BOOK CURE” person?
So glad to be able to connect again.
Marsha
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Peg
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Posted - 02/19/2009 : 17:15:46
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Hi Marsha,
Yes, very nice to connect.
Yup! That's me. When one of the group asked if I was a patient of Dr. Sarno's and He pointed to me and said "No, She's a BOOK CURE, and there are thousands more like her! All I could do was to grin, smile and nod my head affirmatively. I was honored that he asked me to share my story with the group. I tried to be brief (not easy for me).
I remember you well, because your husband was originally from the New England area.
I also remember you were dealing with some significant back pain with this episode. I certainly hope you have seen some improvement. That night, I wondered what had been going on in your life before the pain began again, but thought it would be too forward of me to ask. (I hope you were checked out medically too)
You mentioned that night that your husband doesn't believe in Dr. Sarno's theory. I wondered if he might become more open to it. I also wondered if that bothered you very much. May I ask now? Does that bother you, that he doesn't believe in the psychological explanation for pain? (I don't like to say is he a believer, because that sounds too much like a religious cult kind of thing)
I think it would bother me quite a bit if my husband didn't believe it, because it would feel like he didn't believe ME (that might produce a little anger for me). So, if your husband doesn't believe in psychosomatic pain, then what does he think is causing your pain?
I asked my husband to read HBP even though he thought he understood it from listening to me talk about it. I explained to him that if he had a better understanding of the information, it would help him to understand ME better. I had to ask him more than once and I finally made it clear to him that it was very important to me, but he did read it.
Take care,
Peg
In questions of science, the authority of a thousand is not worth the humble reasoning of a single individual. Galileo Galilei |
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marsha
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Posted - 02/19/2009 : 18:04:20
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Hi Peg,
It would be nice if my husband believed that TMS was a valid explanation for chronic pain. He believes that my pain is caused by emotions but that his is real and caused by a physical abnormality. Sure, it would be great if he felt the same way I did but it hasn’t stopped me from believing 100% that TMS is and has always been the cause of my chronic pain. He would believe if he could. I suppose it is like asking a person to change religions. He can only believe what he believes. The medical community consistently reinforces his beliefs. Lately he has been attempting to read MINDBODY PRESCRIPTION but a good novel usually takes precedence.
We have been married for almost 42 years so I forgive him for not accepting the TMS theory. He is a really good man.
Actually, I have stopped trying to convince my friends who suffer with chronic pain to read and investigate TMs and Dr. Sarno. It seems to me that almost everyone I know is suffering with chronic pain. I mention Dr. Sarno, tell them about his books, and than I go my own way. I believe that only 20% of the population really can accept TMS as a diagnosis.
I am feeling much better since that meeting and joining this forum. Having the support and understanding of my peers has been most beneficial to me. I have learned that I am a “what if “person constantly contributing to my stress and adding to my emotional reservoir.
As a child I learned some really hard lessons having a mentally ill mother and a sweet weak father. Anger was the only emotion expressed in my home and we were only as good as the last thing we did which usually was not right..TMS comes naturally to me. Those things (too many to talk about) made me who I am. Always worrying and trying to please, having to be perfect and fighting for my life.
Yet with all that my life is good. I had a successful career, wonderful children, friendships that have lasted a lifetime. We have had our serious health issues and recovered.
I know that eventually I will post my success story on this site.
To you Peg and all the others that post on this site…..
Thank you. I see the light at the end of the tunnel.
Marsha
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Peg
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Posted - 02/20/2009 : 19:12:42
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Glad you're doing better Marsha. Sounds like you have a wonderful outlook.
42 years! Wow!
Take care,
Peg
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Thanks Marsha
