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Nikky
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 Posted - 05/09/2008 : 08:23:16
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Has anyone experienced have TMS and feeling shame about it? I
conquered TMS many years ago, but it has reocurred I feel a lot of shame about this reoccurrence, and naturally Ican't get rid of it. I feel that everyone is so successful in working Sarno, and I feel like should be able to work through it again, but >I'm having trouble. Is ahme part of the problem for anyone else? |
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AmyAJJ
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Posted - 05/09/2008 : 08:31:02
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When I have noticed shame re: my TMS I've seen that it's part of my perfectionist, goodist thing. As if I have to do EVEN THIS right and good and perfect, ya know?
At different times I have found myself jealous of others who are healing, or who don't have TMS **** to deal with like I do in the first place.
That is just a reflection of how I relate to people in a bigger picture though. When someone has more than I do, is better at something than I am, I am likely to go into thinking that there's something wrong with me and then I get hard on myself with the perfectionist stuff.
See if you can tell your mind that it's the perfectionist in you that is creating the shame that you're not making better progress. Reread any of the Sarno books that you have with the sections on Goodist, Perfectionist, etc. The personality ones.
That's what I'd suggest. I have experienced shame as you're talking about. I find it's connected to the bigger picture of there being something wrong with me, and inadequacy is one of those personality things that be fertile ground for Sarno.
You're normal, my friend. |
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AmyAJJ
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Posted - 05/09/2008 : 08:33:43
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P.S. I had gotten rid of my initial pain from Sarno's book nearly a year ago. I also recently had a relapse of pain after several month of being pain free.
It has been about 2 months now and I'm finally healing this bout of back pain. It has taken more attention and diligence on my part and really "Getting" the part about talking to my mind. That has made all the difference this time around.
Some of these 2 months has included anger at not getting well sooner, jealousy, shame, etc. It's all part of it.
Stick with it as best as possible and continue to do your TMS reading and work as best you can while also learning to talk to your pain and remind it of the things that are suggested in the books. |
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2scoops
USA
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Posted - 05/09/2008 : 10:53:38
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| Healing the Shame that Binds You by John Bradshaw is a good book about shame, probably the best book about it. |
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