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smashist
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 Posted - 11/16/2007 : 09:52:49
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The following is an excerpt from my list of rage and stress generating phenomena:
PERFECTLY RECOVERING VS. RETURNING TO LIFE The recovery pressure is all around me. I'm experimenting with belief-system restructuring. I believe that knowledge is power in this case, if you can redesign the patterns in your head, you can eliminate TMS responses. TMS only sticks around because it's psychologically conditioned to be there, so I need to go back and start reconditioning the old way I used to live before anything bothered me. This, however, comes with a lot of pressure to perform, perfectly recover, etc.
OVERDOING IT, BATTLING Visualizations: I drive myself kind of crazy because I automatically attack every single little pinch or pang of discomfort instead of letting it be. When I'm in this fighting mode I don't really get anywhere, because I'm actually just giving the system attention when it doesn't deserve it. I should go do something else, something I enjoy, or at least something. Bottom line--there's nothing wrong, move on.
We all hear a lot of stories of people who recovered very fast from TMS and we're all jealous. I think that those people tend to have a calmer and better outlook on recovery, and their personality characteristics don't impede their progress as much. Mine, however, do.
So, enter my worst enemy: BATTLING.
When I'm fighting TMS manifestations, I get NOWHERE. The more attention I give them in my conscious experience, the more they latch onto me. The more I try to control them, the more they seem to exist everywhere I look. I can challenge the pain all I want, run miles, scream, and shout at it but it doesn't do me a lick of good.
So, what helps?
Destroying the FEAR.
Why was I battling it in the first place? I was afraid if I didn't constantly do something about it, it would keep bothering me and "ruining" my life. This is the problem right here. Still, I am afraid of the symptoms, and I'm putting wayyy too much energy into their destruction.
When Sarno says that knowledge is the penecillin, I think a huge factor in the demise of TMS is "calming the hell down." Knowing exactly what is going on banishes fear, provides a good outlook, soothes the intense rage and uncomfortable emotions, and provides for a stable ground to recover mentally from this whole thing.
Being in intense battle against your symptoms all the time = more stress, more pain, more frustration, and for me... NO PROGRESS.
Thanks
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fup
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Posted - 11/16/2007 : 10:50:26
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Hi,
I'm sorry to see you're having a bad time at the moment.
I feel for you. I think I'm a little like you. I totally obsess over my symptoms. Almost from the minute I wake up to going to sleep. I just can't seem to get rid of the fear or to stop trying new stuff, reading new books, forum posts etc. It's taken over my life. I know I just need to chill out and get on with life but the slightest discomfort makes me obsess.
I read your earlier post, when you were optimistic. Here:
http://www.tmshelp.com/forum/topic.asp?TOPIC_ID=3564
Have those symptoms come back to haunt you or are you frustrated because you're not getting anywhere with the remainder?
Also in your earlier posts you say that challenging and fighting the pain is the key to beating TMS. What's happened to make you change your mind?
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Jeff4460
USA
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Posted - 11/16/2007 : 11:50:55
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Speaking of FEAR...What do you fear? What scares the hell out of you? What do you refuse to let your conscious mind dwell on? (You don't have to answers these on forum in front of the whole world.)
Here's a couple examples of my experiences...
I was 8 years old when my father died. I'm now a father myself and as my duaghter approached 8 years old it was always in the back of my mind...what if I die and she grows up like me...without a father. How ridiculous is that! This silly unrealistic fear weighed very heavily on me for years. I never really knew how much it bothered me until I did the TMS work.
Medical tests. I put off a few medical tests for years because of my fear of hospitals. I finally went and had the tests done. After leaving the hospital, it felt as if a 100 pound weight had been lifted off my shoulders. I didn't have the results of the test and yet I felt a thousand times better.
People tend to focus a lot on RAGE and ANGER as a source for TMS. Don't forget about your FEARS!
Jeff
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Battling: months wasted, attacking fear now
