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skizzik
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 Posted - 10/11/2007 : 17:42:32
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Heard a couple of local stories, one about a child molested, and another about a child loss.
Both hit home hard since I have 3 of my own.
I think were all brought up in this society to hear stories like this and then were not supposed to complain about our "trivial" problems. Someone has it worse, way worse.
Great, now our inner child, so selfish and narcissistic is totally bottled up. The IC then continues to build steam every time we get a dose of bad news, and we think we're being so stoic and good by not complaining and just being happy w/ what we have.
Then we feel miserable, or get physical symptoms. We're told just think positively. We read books like "the secret", and just keep a stiff upper lip.
All that "positve thinking" applied to a mind thats overfilled w/ rage is like throwing a clean tablecloth over a table w/ dirty dishes, and resetting the table. Try eating off that set up. Then don't clean up, and toss another tablecloth over it for the next meal. Soon, the table is useless.
The inner child is going nowhere soon. It's here whether we like it or not. So is the conflicting parent in us as well.
Where did "modern civilization" go wrong? When did we lose the ability to express ourselves, one the very things that makes us unique from animals?
Dr. Brady brings up how he informed a family in a 3rd world country of the death of a loved one and was amazed and scared when they screamed, and shouted and pounded on the walls of the clinic right in front of him. There was no repression, they let it out.
In our society, you're seen as so strong if you can hold your emotions, and deal w/ a situation like that on your own, not in front of anyone.
Dr. Brady also went on to say, that BP is the most prevalent reason for a patient to see him next to respiratory problems. However, his trip to the 3rd world country, and the visit from hundreds of patients there showed only one to have a back issue, and that was because an ox fell on his back . |
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lidge
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Posted - 10/11/2007 : 18:28:30
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Interesting point about emotion in third world countries.
Think of the images of chest pounding, wailing and crying you see on the news when death has occurred in these countries.
You don't sense that they are being told to calm down but rather are being held up by other people while they let it go.
Then think about reporters here putting mikes in the noses of
people who just lost a loved one- somehow they are almost dispassionate about it- they'll show up for interviews the next day
(well some of them). The do it because its expected of them.
Growing up the model for this was Jackie Kennedy - you know Kennedy's Dont Cry etc. etc.
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skizzik
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Posted - 10/11/2007 : 18:59:06
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| Funny you should mention the Kennedy's and no crying. If you do a search on google like "John F. Kennedy Back Pain" you'll be astounded as he suffered from excrutiating back pain and hid it from the world. |
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Penny
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Posted - 10/11/2007 : 19:18:52
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quote:
Originally posted by skizzik
Where did "modern civilization" go wrong? When did we lose the ability to express ourselves, one the very things that makes us unique from animals?
Stephen Hawking said (and Pink Floyd made the saying famous) "For millions of years mankind lived just like the animals. And then something happened that unleashed the power of our imagination ... we learned to talk..."***
Good thoughts Skizzik! We've talked about repression of joy actually being a problem too. When we get really excited about something, or really enjoy our food, or jump up and down like toddlers with glee people will look at ya funny. It's like we have to live in apathy denying the joys and the pitfalls in life.
*** for anyone interested in a great book that tries to explain when and why IT went all wrong for humanity, check out ISHMAEL by Daniel Quinn.
>|< Penny
"Feeling will get you closer to the truth of who you are than thinking."
~ Eckhart Tolle
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lidge
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Posted - 10/11/2007 : 19:33:18
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Re Kennedy and Back Pain- if you read An Unfinished Life you get the scoop on that. Janet Travell, mother of Trigger Point therapy was his doctor. I never knew that he was wearing a back brace in Dallas,
that's why he didn't slump over the way you would have thought after the first shot- then the fatal one hit him.
Given his war injuries you have to wonder about his various maladies-
but reading about his upbringing at the hands of repressed authoritarians Rose and Joe makes you wonder. |
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