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spasms
USA
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 Posted - 09/08/2007 : 13:12:33
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| I am new to this. I'm not sure how to handle my brain, that is, what to say when I'm having symptoms. Can anyone out there help? |
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stanfr
USA
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Posted - 09/09/2007 : 06:14:59
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| You talk to it like it's a third party. How would you tell someone else who is causing you harm to cut it out? Whatever you's say to thet person, say to yourself. |
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mamaboulet
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Posted - 09/09/2007 : 06:24:37
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I cuss. I laugh. I get snide.
"You really think you are clever, don't you, dumbass? What? You think I don't know what you are doing? You're like a dog hiding behind a tree with his butt sticking out, thinking that he's invisible because he can't see anybody. Well, I can see you and your little tricks. I told you before that you were on latrine duty, and I meant it. You've got about 3 seconds to get back to your job before I open a can of whoopass on you." |
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gezondheid
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Posted - 09/09/2007 : 08:11:27
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Dear spasms,
Apart from the braintalk, change your name. Spasms is the last signal you wan't introduce to your brain.
About talking to your brain. So many people, so many ways and so many situations. I:
- scream at it
- talk at it
- meditate at is
- make deals with it
- also thank it
- give it the right instructions (specific but short)
- don't puch or overdo my TMS work
- leave it for a few days
- know that you have to give it time to get used to the braintalk
Greetings from Holland
move-on |
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skizzik
USA
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Posted - 09/09/2007 : 09:59:36
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Originally posted by gezondheid
Dear spasms,
Apart from the braintalk, change your name. Spasms is the last signal you wan't introduce to your brain.
yes! you probably don't even realize your'e talking you your brain every day w/ that name. Not to mention everyone else who has to see it. Look at FORU's old name, thank God it was changed |
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Suz
559 Posts |
Posted - 09/10/2007 : 08:06:13
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| I have to say the most effective way I have found is to laugh at my brain and then completely ignore the symptoms. If I yell too much or get too annoyed, I actually feel I feed into the process. So I don't dwell on it. I tend to tell it off quickly, challenge it to give me more pain, laugh at it and then completely ignore and go about my day. I honestly think the Fear feeds into it. Once you have overcome the fear, the brain gives up. You just have to keep on going. |
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mamaboulet
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Posted - 09/10/2007 : 08:30:54
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I can't believe how much fear was running my life. I was often only in minor pain because
a)I stopped doing anything that I thought would make me hurt because of fear of pain.
b)I had two TMS equivalents already going (GI and anxiety/depression).
I was even afraid to take an occasional tylenol, because then I wouldn't feel the pain and would probably injure myself.
Now I've decided that it is pretty darned hard to injure myself in my daily life, even if I do whatever I want. The world has stopped being a cave and I've just gotten started. |
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Logan
USA
203 Posts |
Posted - 09/12/2007 : 08:36:36
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Last Saturday I had a flare up of right side neck/shoulder stiffness and a killer migraine that made it almost impossible to think clearly.
I knew it was TMS but even after 4+ years of being pain free (with the rare flare up like this one), it can be scary. I still will get a little sliver of dread like, "oh no, it's back!" and I will, if I let me, start worrying that I didn't really beat the pain and that I will have to go back to the hell of living with it every day.
I mean, this particular combo - the feeling that my right neck/shoulder is a throbbing rock of pain, coupled with the thought-stopping headache - that is the symptom that used to terrify me the most and it pretty much lost me every job I tried to hold for the 4 years I was suffering from what I thought was "whiplash" from a car accident; so it's a GREAT symptom for my brain to pull out of the TMS bag in order to distract me.
So, this is what I do when it happens. First, I get very angry with my brain and yell at it - out loud (I go in the bathroom and shut the door so my husband doesn't see how 'crazy' this looks).
This past Saturday I said stuff like, "F you, you F'ing F'er! Do you think I went through psychological hell and back for a YEAR to get well just to go back to this ****?! I've been pain free for four years! Who the F do you think you're fooling? I will not put up with this so just stop it right the F now! I know what you're doing. I know why! I know it's TMS. You're not fooling me with this bull****! Stop it NOW!"
I really let myself feel the anger, just get into the physical feel of the anger, the increased heart rate and pulse. I know the whole flare up is about not-feeling and expressing anger at something so I just blast that feeling of rage at the TMS daemon itself. I also started thinking about other sources of anger to show TMS it wasn't distracting me from crap.
It was pretty funny because once I let fly with the anger, I looked in the mirror and I could SEE the blood flowing back into the affected areas. My neck and shoulder were all of a sudden flushed red in certain, isolated spots.
To keep the blood flow going, and to keep that sliver of fear at bay, I used a trick that really helped me kick TMS's butt four years ago. I made up a sassy little chant that I could sing - at first, out loud in the bathroom and then silently to myself as I went about my business as an apparently "normal" person.
It went like this: "It's TMS, I know, I know. It's TMS but I run this show. It's TMS, I know, I know, you give it up and let the blood flow."
The key is to sing it with a swagger, confidence. Fake having no fear until the fear goes away.
I know all of this sounds like I'm a lunatic. But I think, as singer/songwriter Seal says, "we're never gonna survive, unless we go a little crazy."
I did take a couple of Excedrin to help the process last Saturday, I admit, but just a couple of hours later, I felt 100% better. No headache. No pain. The world came back into focus and I could think again. It really was a little miracle. |
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HilaryN
United Kingdom
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mizlorinj
USA
490 Posts |
Posted - 09/12/2007 : 12:04:20
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While I had tms pain I did get very angry, but I didn't direct the anger at me and I chose to speak kindly to my brain. I discovered other things I was angry about and let it rip. After all, my brain, by causing pain, was trying to protect me from feeling the feelings. So why yell at it. "ok here comes some pain, but hey brain, I know what's going on here. . ." then do some writing about other issues causing anger, fear, etc.
It works.
-Lori |
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DrGUID
United Kingdom
44 Posts |
Posted - 09/13/2007 : 03:23:11
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Originally posted by spasms
I am new to this. I'm not sure how to handle my brain, that is, what to say when I'm having symptoms. Can anyone out there help?
As well as talking, try listening to your inner self more. Try to do what it suggests (e.g. going out, not going out, getting something particular for lunch). My inner self is quite childish. Trust your instincts. A can of coke is sometimes all it wants, then it shuts up and leaves me back in control.  |
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Kristin
98 Posts |
Posted - 09/13/2007 : 13:14:43
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| I like your method Logan! It's playful. That's a quality our inner child can appreciate. |
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How do you talk to your brain?
