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shawnsmith
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 Posted - 06/01/2007 : 06:38:23
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WHAT WOULD MY HIGHER SELF SAY ABOUT THIS?
by Susan Jeffers, Ph.D.
You are not alone. Everyone has a down-time occasionally. We lose sleep as we obsessively think about a situation that upsets us greatly. We forget to notice the beauty of the day as we listen to the voice of our Lower Self driving us crazy. It is at just such a time that we need to ask ourselves "What would my Higher Self say about this?"
"Susan", you may be asking, "How do I know what the voice of the Higher Self sounds like?" That's easy. If it is a positive, loving, caring, creative and confident voice, it is the voice of the Higher Self. If it is the voice of anger, upset, gloom and doom, it is, of course, the voice of the Lower Self. Aren't you happy you have a choice between the two? And you definitely have that choice.
Let me give you an example: If your head is filled with gloom and doom as you obsess about having lost your job, you are definitely living in the arena of the Lower Self. It sounds like this...
"I can't believe my bad luck. A cutback and I'm the first to go. I'm really angry at my boss. I'm such a loser. I'll never find another job in this economy. How will I pay my bills? It looks really bad on my record that I lost this job." (And on and on and on in a self-defeating manner.)
It is at just such a time that you need to pose the question, "What would my Higher Self say about this?" And the peaceful and comforting answer from your Higher Self would sound like this...
"Not to worry. I am a creative and talented person who can always find another job. I trust that I will find exactly the kind of job that I need. I'm simply on the path to an exciting new adventure. My job does not define me. My life is rich and full. It's all happening perfectly." (And on and on and on in a life-enhancing manner.)
Just the other day, I was feeling very upset about a particular business issue of my own. I had lost sleep the night before as I obsessed about the situation at hand. When I got to my desk the following morning, my tired eyes focused on the little card that I had placed on my desk months earlier that says, "Susan, what would your Higher Self say about this?" (Yes, we ALL need reminders!)
As I focused on this all-important question, I was prompted to do the following exercise: I sat down at my computer and first composed a scenario of my Lower Self speaking. It sounded something like this...
"I feel very angry about what he has done. I would really like to punch him in the face and sue him. I'm calling my lawyer tomorrow. I have lost my respect for him and realize for the first time that he has absolutely no integrity. Oh, I can't believe he did what he did!"
(Note that this is a mild version of what I actually wrote! The real version is unprintable!) As you can see, this was definitely a lose-sleep kind of attitude. I then asked myself the all-important question, "What would my Higher Self say about this?" I got a very different answer, indeed! I then typed into my computer the following words from my Higher Self...
"I trust that he did not do this intentionally. A lawsuit is not the answer. I respect his work and trust that we can lovingly reach an amicable solution that will correct the situation at hand. We will make it a win-win situation for both of us. It's all happening perfectly. One step at a time, and it will all be handled beautifully."
Wow! Read these two versions again and you can see that the Higher Self offers much better solutions to any problems that may come up and definitely guarantees a better night's sleep! What I did next was to print out my Higher Self response and every time I started thinking about the troubling situation, I simply read it a few times to keep me in a positive, powerful and loving state of mind. Magic!
One of the suggestions that I offer in Feel the Fear and Beyond, is to create ten or more post-its or 3 x 5 cards, to put on your mirror, in your car, on your desk, in your diary, and anywhere else you will see them that says...WHAT WOULD MY HIGHER SELF SAY ABOUT THIS? Then when you find yourself in a Lower Self state of mind, you will be reminded to sit down and take a little time to write down a Higher Self way of seeing the situation.
To practice this valuable tool right now, think of something that you are worried about in your life and ask yourself what your Lower Self would say and then what your Higher Self would say.
I AM WORRIED ABOUT _____________________________
What would my Lower Self say about it?
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What would my Higher Self say about it?
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A big difference, indeed! I trust you can now see that you can have choice in the way you think about upsetting events in your life. I guarantee the thinking of the Higher Self, the best of who you are, will always make you feel more positive, loving, safe, confident, caring and powerful. What a wonderful way to go through life!!!
This is just one of the many, many tools that are available to help you in your Journey through life. And these tools are meant to be used for a lifetime. Yes, every day of our lives can bring us difficult and frustrating and hurtful and scary experiences that can put us in the realm of discomfort and fear and give us sleepless nights. You can imagine the fear I felt when I was told that I had breast cancer many years ago. But because I had my precious bag of Spiritual tools, I was able to transform what could have felt like a tragedy into a triumph. No matter what life hands us, these Higher Self tools are there to remind us that "All is well. We will handle it all."
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Dave
USA
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Posted - 06/01/2007 : 07:58:20
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Interesting article, though I'm not sure how it applies to TMS.
In these terms, it would be the "lower self" that is the source of the unconscious rage and thus needs to be explored. If we limit ourselves to a "higher self" view then we are likely to repress the anger and feed TMS.
Reminds me of a Seinfeld episode...
"Serenity now!!!!"
(Insanity later) |
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stanfr
USA
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Posted - 06/01/2007 : 08:30:47
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| I am reading Shciffer's book right now, only part way through but it seems to me his theory would imply that the 'higher' self is just the more mature hemisphere (?) Im still struggling to decide how this applies to TMS. I found (see recent post) that my TMS equivalents are predominantly on my right side, and I know my right brain is the 'perfectionist' side (presumably the 'higher self') but i can't figure out how this applies to the symptoms--it almost seems like the left brain is thwarting the right by creating the symptoms. |
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mizlorinj
USA
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Posted - 06/01/2007 : 09:06:30
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Very good. Thanks for sharing.
In the Solution program (www.thepathway.org) we call that our "nurturing inner voice" and it is just what we need to hear at that moment. It takes time to replace a "harsh inner voice" which is what most of us have. Sometimes that's the voice of a harsh and angry parent we had, or mean sibling. But it can be replaced with our own (or someone else's) comforing voice and then that nurting inner voice is so nice to hear. True comfort. It's about realizing that "I have me."
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shawnsmith
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