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Sunshine
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 Posted - 09/17/2004 : 18:19:13
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Hello there,
I am 30 years old and expecting my first baby. I had backache for the last 3 years. Before I got pregnant I used to take back pain medicine, it helps for a little while. But now that I am carrying extra weight on my tummy it has gotten worst. I am working with a Psychologist to help me find a solution. But she does not know much about TMS, I explained to her about Dr.Sarno book and how much I can relate to it. The moment I wake up and the whole day by the time I go to sleep all I think about it how much my back hurts. Can anyone else suggest some things that would help me? Working out was very helpful but I am so close to my due date than I cannot work out much. Like Dr. Sarno said just be aware and I know that I am. What else can I do to help me realize that TMS is all in the mind?
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Dave
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Posted - 09/17/2004 : 20:52:41
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The moment I wake up and the whole day by the time I go to sleep all I think about it how much my back hurts. Can anyone else suggest some things that would help me?
As simple as it sounds, stop thinking about how much your back hurts!
TMS exists to distract you. If it succeeds, it will continue. Clearly it is succeeding, so your back will continue to hurt.
When you find yourself thinking about how much your back hurts, tell yourself: STOP. Shift your thoughts. Say to yourself, "what's bothering me now?" Explore the things in your life that are causing stress -- things you are avoiding -- things you are putting out of your mind because they are too uncomfortable to think about -- things you are forced to do even though you truly resent it -- fears, both rational and irrational -- etc. There's a world of emotions that you are subconsciously not allowing yourself to feel. Try to feel them.
You might be surprised at what turns up when you explore the dark, forbidden areas of your emotions. Allow yourself to feel whatever it is, without judgement, without censorship, even if those feelings are uncomfortable for you to accept. Start writing in a journal if you don't already do so.
You must accept that the pain's origin is emotional. Recondition yourself to think about your problems instead of focusing on the pain. It's not easy. Think long-term, and don't get discouraged by day-to-day changes in the pain. It may get worse before it gets better.
If your psychologist practices Freudian psychoanalysis, she is trained to help you dig up your repressed emotions. It's up to you to accept that those emotions contribute to your pain. If the psychologist practices behavioral or cognitive therapy, it is unlikely that she can help with TMS awareness. |
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Sunshine
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Posted - 09/18/2004 : 10:21:52
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Hi Dave,
I will try my best to take your suggestion, thank you for taking the time to give me an advice. I will let you know how things go. I really appreciate it. Have a pleasant weekend. Sunshine
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Agata
USA
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Posted - 09/18/2004 : 13:19:45
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Dave covered what I would tell you. The only thing I would add is to give yourself some time. Some people get over TMS very quickly and some have to work on it for long time, including me. Pregnancy presents additional issues that may not have anything to do with TMS. Read Dr. Sarno's book every day, it will work sooner or later.
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Sunshine
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Posted - 09/20/2004 : 11:34:58
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Dear Agata,
Thank you very much for all your advice, reading everyone's messages and suggestion is helping me so much. I thought I was going to go crazy with the pain that I been carry for so long. I bought all Dr.Sarno books and re-reading them daily. Please if you have any other suggestion or can think of something you have experienced that will help me please let me know. I very grateful for you taking the time to reply to my message.
I will continue to be patient; I feel a little better knowing that someone out there understands TMS.
Have a pleasant day.
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Expecting Mother with TMS can anyone help?
