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| mala |
Posted - 06/13/2013 : 22:43:50
I haven't been posting much but do check in from time to time.
My newest symptom is bad neck pain with headaches sometimes lasting the whole day. I never used to get headaches & it is horrible for me The pain extends all the way up my left shoulder into my neck & jaw & sometimes behind my eye. I am most comfortable when I'm lying down but when I get up in the morning the headache starts within 15 minutes. It is as if the muscles are straining to keep the head upright.
So I went to see a doctor yesterday who then took xrays. There is complete straightening of the neck, there is no normal curvature & there is facet joint arthroses . In other words arthritis of joints.
Of course I know what Sarno says facet joints being a normal aging thing which doesn't cause pain but would like some thoughts/assurance especially from people who have had the same problem & successfully overcome them.
I have been more active for about 6 weeks now walking for nearly an hour to an hour and half at least 5 days a week.
Thanks
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| balto |
Posted - 06/29/2013 : 06:06:58
quote:
Originally posted by mala
And it doesn't want to let go. I not only fear it I DREAD it.
When you're ready you will let go of it. Someday you will be ready to make the change. And only you can do it for yourself. No one can. Your fear, you negative thoughts are just an addiction, a bad life habit. and not until you're ready to make the "choice" and let go of your habit, the pain will stay with you.
Just like smoking and drinking. Addicts to those 2 substances know exactly how bad, how dangerous they are to them and yet they keep using it. There are thousand of ways to quit them and yet people still find it hard to quit... they can't until they are ready or they are "sick and tire of being sick"...
take a chance, choose a belief, be patient, be persistent.
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| mala |
Posted - 06/29/2013 : 03:23:46
TT, thx, will keep on looking for someone here. Think I like to have someone I can talk to face to face.
RSR sorry to hear that u r going thru a rough patch. I like the 'blowing on the baby's head' thing u recommended & have been trying that.
Back2it & Balto. Good posts about fear especially the bit about fear of fear of the pain.
Balto. You are spot on about FEAR. I think my body is on high alert constantly scanning for pain & reacting very strong to even the slightest bit now. Everything seems amplified.
I had to smile when reading what you posted about the snakes. I am not a bit scared of snakes. When I lived in India we just got used to them being around. They r in the garden sometimes even the house. I spent 20 minutes one time washing an outside bathroom to discover there was a big thick one behind the door. I chased a cobra that was going to attack my dog here in HK & often see them in country parks . I've been bitten by a scorpion & here's the best one - chased by a Royal Bengal Tiger. Managed to jumped onto the jeep just in time. What I remember about all those incidents is how not afraid I was. Encountering those things was like OK, this is life. Things happen I could have died but I didn't. Lets move on.
This physical pain however is another beast altogether. It has decided to plague my life , permeate my body, my very being. Has latched itself onto me sucking life out slowly. And it doesn't want to let go. I not only fear it I DREAD it.
Mala
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| balto |
Posted - 06/26/2013 : 08:28:02
quote:
Originally posted by mala
Balto & Back2it, I am not denying that I have fear. Its very obvious. How do you function 'normally' with pain. You say that I should accept. Well for me acceptance means going about doing what I can as normally as possible.
Maybe you guys could be more specific. For example how would you go about functioning normally when your head hurts like hell or you can't sit or concentrate on anything not even reading a book coz it burns 'down there' so much. What I do is get up & keep going best I can. Do like it ?of course not, does it bother me of course it does. So what specific techniques do you have that u could share with me. Just saying don't fear & accept is not really helping. Maybe you could give examples of how you guys did it. that would help a lot.
Our brain is always scan our body and the surrounding environment for sign of danger. It is a very helpful ability which had help our human race survived for thousand and thousand of years. When it see sign of danger it would alert us instantly using the "fight or flight" respond we often heard of. This respond help us get ready to fight or run, but it also created FEAR. When the danger has passed our body will revert back to normal after a while. But if this FEAR thought still exist and/or intensified, the symptoms will stay, "just in case" we need to "fight or flight" again.
Chronic "fight or flight" respond will lead to all kind of tms/anxiety symptoms. And it is all because of FEAR.
How to over come your fear? there are way but it will take effort and patient and consistent from you. If it easy we would be here talking to each other. If it easy then doctor Sarno and Weekes would wrote all those books.
Think of your symptoms like a snake. You walk in a small alley and you happened to see a snake in front of you. You tried to turn around and see another snake in the back of you. Those snakes are sign of danger. Your body will instantly produce "fight or flight" symptoms and FEAR THOUGHTS flooded your mind. Now if you look closer, and you realize that the 2 snakes are just rubber snakes. What would happen to you now? Your body will instantly feel relief after a few long breaths. You will smile and look around to find the person who played the trick on you. You laughed and go on your merry way.
When we say accept your symptoms we mean think of your symptoms as rubber snakes. They are benign, they are their just temporary, they are not dangerous and nothing to fear. If you can take a leap of faith and accept that, if you can come to that realization, the Fear will just disappear and soon the symptoms.
You can also overcome your fear with exposure therapy. Keep exposing to what you fear and the fear will die. ("do the thing you fear and the death of fear is certain" - Ralph Waldo Emerson
). If everyday you keep facing those 2 snakes, just calmly and slowly move pass them, jump over them, carry a stick,... talk to yourself, explain to yourself that they probably not poisonous, and even if they are poisonous I'm going step on them, kick them, run away from them... and I can still go to the hospital.... Keep facing your fear, keep doing the things you normally enjoy doing despite all the pain. keep focusing on the good side of life. Keep your focus on other people's need, keep surrounding yourself with POSITIVE people, keep moving and moving and living. Eventually you will overcome your fear of those "snakes", overcome FEAR, and your problem will end.
It will take time. You need to be persistent and patient.
Have you tried Ace1's Keys? If you try that faithfully for a month and don't see any improvement you probably not ready.
Hope this help explain it Mala.
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| altherunner |
Posted - 06/22/2013 : 15:07:29
Hi Mala - my wife had early menopause (38) and was taking replacement hormones. I think bio identical hormones would
have been better, but her doctor knew nothing about them.
She quit a couple of months ago, and has been kind of
depressed ever since. I was thinking natural supplements
might be good to try. My niece had Poly-cystic ovary syndrome,
as well as diabetes, that her supplement really helped. |
| Back2-It |
Posted - 06/22/2013 : 08:15:52
Mala,
"Floating" is a term I borrowed from Dr. Claire Weekes. She is describing panic and anxiety and how to "get" through it. If you substitute "panic" for "pain" you have the same meaning. Somewhere I suggested listening to her CD "Passing through Panic", as her words convey her meaning more than the printed page, in my opinion. Essentially, she is urging affirmations, but also that you recognize that you have fear of the pain but also fear of the fear of the pain. You are stopped cold by fear even before moving. So even if you go about your daily actions, putting up with the pain, you still are essentially in a panic state -- a heightened state of anxiety. You must talk yourself down, change you thinking, and it takes time and it is not easy. The hardest thing to do, according to Weekes, is to "let time pass". Same as what they call "calendar watching" here.
A quicker access to this idea process is to read carefully and apply personally Ace1's Keys to yourself. Those Keys, I tell you, contain really all the information of most all of the "pain" authors out there, but it is free and concise. Read each word of the Keys and apply personally, and I think over time (don't focus on the time) you will find relief.
Maybe Balto can simply it, because he has a way of just getting to the heart of the matter.
See you on FB 
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| RageSootheRatio |
Posted - 06/22/2013 : 07:16:27
Hi mala,
sorry to hear it sounds like you have been in another very rough patch of late. I have had "another symptom rear its ugly head" recently, too and it can be so very challenging.
These things you wrote stuck out for me:
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I can honestly say that I have challenged every symptom forcing myself to continue. I have been having neck pain but I force myself to lift things, to drive.
For example how would you go about functioning normally when your head hurts like hell or you can't sit or concentrate on anything not even reading a book coz it burns 'down there' so much. What I do is get up & keep going best I can. Do like it ?of course not, does it bother me of course it does. So what specific techniques do you have that u could share with me.
I hate this. I don't know where to go & what else to do.
A suggestion of something else to try:
DON'T challenge symptoms and
DON'T force yourself to do anything!
And DON'T try to go about functioning normally, when you are in a lot of pain.
and DON'T get up and keep going "as best you can" and
DON'T do things you DON'T LIKE !
And then the related list of what TO do, instead:
Well, I like how one poster put it (Fredarm57 from WAY back in 2005:)
"Sometimes all you can do is ride out a pain episode. I saw Dr. Sarno in the early 1990's. During one of his lectures, someone asked him what to do when you had a severe pain attack. He replied, with a twinkle in his eye, "go to bed with a good book and a bottle of wine".
In terms of what other things I do:
- I try to use the "40% rule" when I don't feel well (ie only do 40% of what I think I CAN do.)
- Be very gentle with myself and reduce my expectations.
- Eat something yummy.
In other words, I do try to make myself feeeeeel better (as opposed to "work on my TMS") if that makes any sense.
In terms of "female issues" ... there is a technique which I think I used some time ago, that I think was quite helpful (had forgotten it until now!) I note the article says it "controls arousal of the sympathetic nervous system" so I think I might start using it again, just for my general TMS! I can't find the original link anymore, so not sure where I got it from, but here it is, copied:
quote:
Here we are at a time when the greatest number of baby-boomer women are entering their menopausal years. And research is showing that hormonal therapy presents a long-term risk and little benefit. So what is a woman to do when troubled by hot flashes, often controlled by hormone replacement therapy?
Research on biofeedback by Erik Peper, PhD, and colleagues at San Francisco State University, suggests that a technique called effortless diaphragmatic breathing could be a first step to reduce hot flashes and symptoms of premenstrual syndrome. In a recent journal, Biofeedback, Dr. Peper spells out how to perform one of the helpful exercises:
Imagine that you are holding a baby. Now with your shoulders relaxed, inhale gently so that your abdomen widens. Then as you exhale, purse your lips and very gently and softly blow over the baby’s hair. Allow your abdomen to narrow when exhaling. Blow so softly that the baby's hair barely moves. At the same time, imagine that you can allow your breath to flow down and through your legs. Continue imagining that you are gently blowing on the baby’s hair while feeling your breath flowing down your legs. Keep blowing very softly and continuously. He suggests you practice exhaling like this the moment you feel any sensation associated with hot flashes or PMS.
Dr. Peper speculates that you can control arousal of the sympathetic nervous system that activates hot flashes through self-management approaches like this.
Just some more ideas to add to the table. I know how hard it is to feel like one is in a pit!
Hoping you are feeling a little better soon,
RSR
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| tennis tom |
Posted - 06/22/2013 : 06:52:12
quote:
Originally posted by mala
Very hard to find good therapists here in HK let alone one who is TMS savvy. This is the second one that I have seen. The first started making me do EFT within 15 minutes of my first session after I told her about my back pain. Sigh.
Mala, seeing two therapists is not a very good sampling of ALL the therapists in HG. If you can't find one there, try working with one by Skype or phone, it's been shown to as be effective as seeing one in person. Given your family history, TMS symptom substitution, and long history here, it sounds like therapy could be very beneficial for you. Take a look at the "Links" above or my sig for TMS practitioners. Also Nicole Sachs, who's new book is on the TMS book list above may be helpful to you, she worked with Dr. Sarno for years and doesn't b.s. around.
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TMS PRACTITIONERS:
John Sarno, MD
400 E 34th St, New York, NY 10016
(212) 263-6035
Dr. Sarno is now retired, if you call this number you will be referred to his associate Dr. Rashbaum.
"...there are so many things little and big that are tms, I wouldn't have time to write about all of them": Told to icelikeaninja by Dr. Sarno
Here's the TMS practitioners list from the TMS Help Forum:
http://www.tmshelp.com/links.htm
Here's a list of TMS practitioners from the TMS Wiki:
http://tmswiki.org/ppd/Find_a_TMS_Doctor_or_Therapist
Here's a map of TMS practitioners from the old Tarpit Yoga site, (click on the map by state for listings).:
http://www.tarpityoga.com/2007_08_01_archive.html |
| indiana |
Posted - 06/22/2013 : 06:05:24
quote:
Originally posted by mala
Hi Marlis,
Thx for your reply. I can understand not wanting to talk about stuff that goes on & I will not press you on this issue. I do feel however that we wouldn't feel so crappy & scared if we knew what others were going thru. I'm not talking about shared misery but intelligent women talking about what's happening to them physically, mentally & emotionally, how they are coping or not, what's worked or not & whether or not they have used a TMS based approach successfully. I am not by any stretch of the imagination a crazy woman but there r days when I feel very alone & think I'm going mad becoz of what's happening to me.
Many here have mentioned the link between hormones & TMS so this would be a good place to discuss this. That's why I posted my latest physical symptoms. I hope more women will chime in.
Regards
Mala
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Hej Mala,
You may call it shyness or being prude but I have difficulties going into womens stuff on this forum with many male members. I am probably old school but there it is. Having said that yes it would be great if we were able to discuss it with other women (i don't know if it could be on this forum as it would be of no interest to male members or readers). Last year I had hurtfull bladder problems and I even found a forum here in DK with a few desperate women with the same symptoms (having already seen doctors and specialists). Some recommended some natural remedies (which had helped them). When I mentioned it to my doctor he dismissed it completely (surprise surprise).Just knowing somebody has the same problem can sometimes give you some comfort.
I have just realized that if you don't want to take hormones (and I don't)it is very difficult to know what natural remedies would make a difference. Some are even not without risk and you have to be careful. I had PMS which bothered me a great deal before my menopause and then came the hot flashes and red cheeks and on it went. Somehow it is all connected. Now I think that's how our bodies work and there is not always you really can do something about it but just let it pass. Some have hot flashes, others have something else or the lucky ones hardly feel a thing. Our present life situation, whether we are fulfilled and satisfied or not and our approach to life probably also have something to do with it (just a guess).
I take the TMS approach as I don't know how to deal with hormone imbalance and since it has only been a few months I have only made little progress but I keep going. Hopefully my progress will have an impact on that too but I cannot be certain. Maybe it is just a beast which cannot be tamed.
I wish you all the best
Marlis
NB Now I have mentioned a few womens problem anyway. I hope I have not annoyed anybody. |
| mala |
Posted - 06/22/2013 : 04:28:11
Hi Marlis,
Thx for your reply. I can understand not wanting to talk about stuff that goes on & I will not press you on this issue. I do feel however that we wouldn't feel so crappy & scared if we knew what others were going thru. I'm not talking about shared misery but intelligent women talking about what's happening to them physically, mentally & emotionally, how they are coping or not, what's worked or not & whether or not they have used a TMS based approach successfully. I am not by any stretch of the imagination a crazy woman but there r days when I feel very alone & think I'm going mad becoz of what's happening to me.
Many here have mentioned the link between hormones & TMS so this would be a good place to discuss this. That's why I posted my latest physical symptoms. I hope more women will chime in.
Yes, considering & reminding ourselves that we r luckier than some does help to cope but I would really prefer a short but quality life than one which is dragging along painfully. Sigh.
Warm Regards
Mala
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| indiana |
Posted - 06/22/2013 : 03:40:41
quote:
Originally posted by mala
TT, I am not taking any antidepressants. None of the docs think I need it. I was seeing a therapist but she turned out to be more interested in selling me things & asking me to detox & do energy healing.
Balto & Back2it, I am not denying that I have fear. Its very obvious. How do you function 'normally' with pain. You say that I should accept. Well for me acceptance means going about doing what I can as normally as possible.
Maybe you guys could be more specific. For example how would you go about functioning normally when your head hurts like hell or you can't sit or concentrate on anything not even reading a book coz it burns 'down there' so much. What I do is get up & keep going best I can. Do like it ?of course not, does it bother me of course it does. So what specific techniques do you have that u could share with me. Just saying don't fear & accept is not really helping. Maybe you could give examples of how you guys did it. that would help a lot.
Back2it, sorry u r so negative about Facebook. I love it coz it has helped me to stay in touch with my family & friends & locate my students from around the world. I know every single one of the 500 odd people except for 4 whom I don't know personally but are actually from this forum. I have reunited with long lost friends I went to school with in India, I have a group of 250 ex Gurkha students whom I taught here in Hk. They r married, have kids & let me know what's happening & we often meet up when they r here or I am in their part of the world. I have visited them in England, Nepal & Sri Lanka. I have my group of literature students & we review books, films & I go to their weddings & meet their kids coz they know how to get in touch with me. Nothing wrong with that really. Its quite the opposite of what you think it is.
Marlis, thank you for yr very kind words. Yes hormonal changes can be horrid. I too do yoga & take natural stuff. I take ginger tea everyday . And eat a predominately eastern diet with fish, veggies, clear soups. I was recently given some estrogen tablets for vaginal irritation. I'm reluctant to use them coz I have uterine fibroids & estrogen actually makes them grow. I'm looking for something natural . Sigh! Quality of life isn't what it used to be. Do you have any other symptoms apart from the red cheeks? I have actually read Andrew Weil . Have got a couple of his books.
take care all.
Mala
Hello Mala
I have plenty of other symptoms but mentioning them would not be suited for this forum. Together with the TMS symptoms they make a "nice" coktail.
I think getting older can just be a p..in the a.... in all sorts of ways specially for women (maybe men just don't talk so much about it).
I try to compare myself with others with serious illnesses etc. and concentrate on the things I am still able to do and be grateful for that. I don't succeed with that all the time of course. I wonder if we lived in a country where we had to work to just survive and not had the time to think about ourselves so much and our various symptoms would we have them the same way or at all? Accepting that we will never be completely painfree and without "something" as when we were younger is the hardest thing. Sometimes I think if my TMS symptoms get better I will just have the hormonal sh.... to deal with so maybe I can't win them all but thanks to this forum I have made progress in many ways and like you I live healthily. We can only do our best.
Good luck
Marlis
Marlis
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| mala |
Posted - 06/22/2013 : 02:34:11
Hi there Al, Thx for the info on Lorna Vanderhaghe. I have been to her site & it looks interesting. She has written a lot of articles that I'm going to browse thru. If its not too personal may I ask why your wife was taking hormones? Don't worry if u feel you can't say & gosh no Al I would never poke your eyes out. You have always been very kind & helpful to me & I appreciate yr support a lot. Regarding the connection between pain, hormones & depression I agree with u completely but its not an easy relationship to figure out. I know for a fact that I was 100% OK till I had my fibroids removed when I was 40. I was never sick, didn't even know what depression was, never had any issues with my periods before that. In fact I had 7 fibroids & never had pain nor bleeding. The only way they were discovered was because i was very thin at the time except for my tummy which had started to look abnormally big. Everything started happening after that bl...dy operation. Its the chicken & egg situation. Which came first.
I didn't know what Tylenol 3 was till I looked it up. Its tylenol with codeine. Isn't that pretty powerful. Hope u don't have to take those any more though I wouldn't mind some myself.
Back2it
quote:
I did the same thing, went about my business, but never gave in, surrendered to the pain, fought it on different levels at different times, which kept me tensed. I "put up with it", in other words. Instead of going with the current, floating, I would still at some level be swimming upstream.
Also you know you have fear, but when you realize you have fear of the fear (essentially programed panic), then you reach a more sublime level.
My pain was chronic and constant and hurt walking, standing and sitting. When I finally understood that I was afraid of my fear, I calmed my self by just telling myself that it was anxiety, and that anxiety was tensing my muscles and contorting them in ways I could not even understand. The constant repeating of this idea -- thinking psychologically, I guess-- desensitized me. For instance, when I jogged in severe pain, and it felt like my side was ripping out, I had to consciously run that script through my head.
Thx for that. Its very useful. May I ask how you do the current 'floating' thing.
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Don't be sorry about my negative views on FB. Everybody has their likes and dislikes. You have found it positive; I have found it to be a poor substitution for real life interaction.
I have found that it has enhanced real life interaction. But anyway to each his own.
TT
Very hard to find good therapists here in HK let alone one who is TMS savvy. This is the second one that I have seen. The first started making me do EFT within 15 minutes of my first session after I told her about my back pain. Sigh.
Regards All
Mala
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| tennis tom |
Posted - 06/21/2013 : 23:48:08
quote:
Originally posted by mala
...I was seeing a therapist but she turned out to be more interested in selling me things & asking me to detox & do energy healing.
This behavior sounds like no psychotherapist I've ever heard of, if not unethical. Try to find one that is TMS savvy. |
| Back2-It |
Posted - 06/21/2013 : 23:28:52
quote:
Balto & Back2it, I am not denying that I have fear. Its very obvious. How do you function 'normally' with pain. You say that I should accept. Well for me acceptance means going about doing what I can as normally as possible.
I did the same thing, went about my business, but never gave in, surrendered to the pain, fought it on different levels at different times, which kept me tensed. I "put up with it", in other words. Instead of going with the current, floating, I would still at some level be swimming upstream.
Also you know you have fear, but when you realize you have fear of the fear (essentially programed panic), then you reach a more sublime level.
My pain was chronic and constant and hurt walking, standing and sitting. When I finally understood that I was afraid of my fear, I calmed my self by just telling myself that it was anxiety, and that anxiety was tensing my muscles and contorting them in ways I could not even understand. The constant repeating of this idea -- thinking psychologically, I guess-- desensitized me. For instance, when I jogged in severe pain, and it felt like my side was ripping out, I had to consciously run that script through my head.
Sorry I cannot be more specific. Maybe reading closely word by word Ace1's Keys will add to further understanding.
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Back2it, sorry u r so negative about Facebook. I love it coz it has helped me to stay in touch with my family & friends & locate my students from around the world. I know every single one of the 500 odd people except for 4 whom I don't know personally but are actually from this forum. I have reunited with long lost friends I went to school with in India, I have a group of 250 ex Gurkha students whom I taught here in Hk. They r married, have kids & let me know what's happening & we often meet up when they r here or I am in their part of the world. I have visited them in England, Nepal & Sri Lanka. I have my group of literature students & we review books, films & I go to their weddings & meet their kids coz they know how to get in touch with me. Nothing wrong with that really. Its quite the opposite of what you think it is.
Don't be sorry about my negative views on FB. Everybody has their likes and dislikes. You have found it positive; I have found it to be a poor substitution for real life interaction. I also find it very mundane and boring. How many pictures of Spot do I have to or want to see? Or pithy quotes copped from low grade self-help authors? To each his and her own. I think when its effects are finally studied, many decades from now, it will prove to be a net negative in the way humans relate, but if it is something you like then enjoy it the way you wish. I personally use smoke signals  because I'm kind of a traditionalist and and enjoy the challenge of crafting a message out of smoke.
"Bridges Freeze Before Roads" |
| altherunner |
Posted - 06/21/2013 : 21:57:09
Hi Mala - sorry to hear you are in so much pain. i used to take tylenol 3s to be able to get out of bed in the morning. Where i live,
there is a local woman who has a supplement company that is really popular, her name is Lorna Vanderhaghe. You can google her name to
read about her books and supplements. My wife was taking hormone supplements, but stopped and I am going to also talk to her about it.
(when i feel brave). I have a niece with type 1 diabetes who took 1 of her products and lost weight, and was able to lower her insulin
injections. I think hormones/pain/depression are linked. You are far away and can't poke my eyes out, so i feel comfortable telling you
this. Best wishes, Al |
| mala |
Posted - 06/21/2013 : 21:32:02
TT, I am not taking any antidepressants. None of the docs think I need it. I was seeing a therapist but she turned out to be more interested in selling me things & asking me to detox & do energy healing.
Balto & Back2it, I am not denying that I have fear. Its very obvious. How do you function 'normally' with pain. You say that I should accept. Well for me acceptance means going about doing what I can as normally as possible.
Maybe you guys could be more specific. For example how would you go about functioning normally when your head hurts like hell or you can't sit or concentrate on anything not even reading a book coz it burns 'down there' so much. What I do is get up & keep going best I can. Do like it ?of course not, does it bother me of course it does. So what specific techniques do you have that u could share with me. Just saying don't fear & accept is not really helping. Maybe you could give examples of how you guys did it. that would help a lot.
Back2it, sorry u r so negative about Facebook. I love it coz it has helped me to stay in touch with my family & friends & locate my students from around the world. I know every single one of the 500 odd people except for 4 whom I don't know personally but are actually from this forum. I have reunited with long lost friends I went to school with in India, I have a group of 250 ex Gurkha students whom I taught here in Hk. They r married, have kids & let me know what's happening & we often meet up when they r here or I am in their part of the world. I have visited them in England, Nepal & Sri Lanka. I have my group of literature students & we review books, films & I go to their weddings & meet their kids coz they know how to get in touch with me. Nothing wrong with that really. Its quite the opposite of what you think it is.
Marlis, thank you for yr very kind words. Yes hormonal changes can be horrid. I too do yoga & take natural stuff. I take ginger tea everyday . And eat a predominately eastern diet with fish, veggies, clear soups. I was recently given some estrogen tablets for vaginal irritation. I'm reluctant to use them coz I have uterine fibroids & estrogen actually makes them grow. I'm looking for something natural . Sigh! Quality of life isn't what it used to be. Do you have any other symptoms apart from the red cheeks? I have actually read Andrew Weil . Have got a couple of his books.
take care all.
Mala
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| indiana |
Posted - 06/20/2013 : 11:22:34
quote:
Originally posted by mala
Pspa I agree that a straight neck does not mean pain. At least I understand it intellectually.
Art, I should know the drill by now but with each new symptom I am becoming more & more fearful. I am really suffering & can’t seem to see the light at the end of the tunnel despite all that I know & have read about TMS
Balto I know exactly what you mean about the conditioning of those dogs. I feel like one of them Trapped. Only I feel that the dog is luckier than I am coz maybe it doesn’t even know its trapped . It can’t intellectualize it. I think I am more fearful now that ever before. I am despondent. Despite being in so much pain I have tried to live as if nothing is wrong, doing everything I possible can as normally as I can. I still have a somewhat active life but with no real enjoyment. From the time I get up till the time I go to bed I am in pain & obsessing about it.
I can honestly say that I have challenged every symptom forcing myself to continue. I have been having neck pain but I force myself to lift things, to drive. I had some considerable burning in my vagina recently. The doctor thinks its vaginal atrophy due to lack of estrogen, which can lead to thinning of the vaginal walls. She gave me some cream. I used it for a week. I read that I shouldn’t eat spicy food & no alcohol so I deliberately started doing both & it went away only to be replaced by headaches. Then 3 weeks ago I resumed exercise by going for long walks. Then last week I went bowling & next day the burning down below starts again as if I strained something especially where I have my fibroid. Now its excruciating again . Non stop. Last 2 days I have curled up into a ball and have been crying. I am really at my wits end. I have even been having really bad thought, I’m ashamed to say.
Back2 it, like you I am tired of doing the doctors rounds not because they are bad or incompetent or negative, but becoz they don’t offer much.
I was a healthy person right up till I was 40. I was fearless. I can honestly say I did not find myself on every page of sarno’s book like many here claim. I have not discovered anything new about myself nor found myself. I am not a better person becoz of the pain. In fact I want my old life back I want the old mala back.
I hate this. I don't know where to go & what else to do.
Mala Singh Barber. I'm on facebook. Look me up
I am sorry for your pain.
I am very new to TMS so I cannot give you any advice on that having strange symptoms myself and still struggling. I have a theory though that part of my condition is due to hormonal imbalance and that could be the reason for other women (specially being in the menopause) having all sorts of disturbances in their bodies.
As an example when I was in puberty I had these very red cheeks and got all hot all the time specially when I woke in the morning. Extremely annoying. It disappeared again when I had my children and reappeared stronger than ever when I went into menopause. There is not much to be done about it, certainly not taking pills.
I started doing yoga exercises in winter, mainly for my back and stiff neck but also to calm me down. They are a few very simple back exercises such as the cat and one called downward facing dog. I do them every day at the same time for about half an hour. Sometimes less. This has helped a great deal for my back, neck and jaw pain and therefore for my well being. The last few years I got severe back pain in my lower back as soon as I started gardening in spring. This year I feel nothing and my back feels quite good. I can bend and lift and do anything.
Apart from eating healthy food with a lot of herbs I drink peppermint tea every evening and also eat a lot of ginger in and with my food and take turmeric pills. I read that this is good for your immune system. Even though your pain is TMS it can never harm you to do yoga (it is also distracting) and eat well.
I can also recommend the homepage of Andrew Weil. He gives some good advice.
All the best
Marlis
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| balto |
Posted - 06/20/2013 : 07:23:35
Mala, the one thing that jump out from your post is FEAR. Your life, your thoughts are full of FEAR.
Instead of working on your symptoms, work on eliminate your FEAR.
The symptoms are physical or mind, who care, so what, you don't have to fear it. Fear only make your symptoms worse even if it is truly physical.
No fear no pain. Pure and simple.
No one can get rid of their symptoms without letting go of their fear. No one.
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| Back2-It |
Posted - 06/20/2013 : 07:04:59
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Originally posted by mala
...Art, I should know the drill by now but with each new symptom I am becoming more & more fearful. I am really suffering & can’t seem to see the light at the end of the tunnel despite all that I know & have read about TMS
Sometimes knowing less is more. It is a system problem and relating it all to specific maladies only keeps the fear of the fear alive. Ignorance is sometimes bliss and cure.
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Balto I know exactly what you mean about the conditioning of those dogs. I feel like one of them Trapped. Only I feel that the dog is luckier than I am coz maybe it doesn’t even know its trapped . It can’t intellectualize it. I think I am more fearful now that ever before. I am despondent. Despite being in so much pain I have tried to live as if nothing is wrong, doing everything I possible can as normally as I can. I still have a somewhat active life but with no real enjoyment. From the time I get up till the time I go to bed I am in pain & obsessing about it.
Mala, it appears that you are "putting up with it" and not accepting the cause, which is panic and fear of the fear of the symptoms and pain. As dear old Dr. Weekes uses to say in that lovely Aussie accent: "you must utterly accept the symptoms..." and " function with the painful neck or stiff this or that, because it is just as good and functional as the "old" Mala self -- only different for awhile. WILLINGNESS to accept and continue will lead to improvement, I promise. Notice "willingness".
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I can honestly say that I have challenged every symptom forcing myself to continue. I have been having neck pain but I force myself to lift things, to drive. I had some considerable burning in my vagina recently. The doctor thinks its vaginal atrophy due to lack of estrogen, which can lead to thinning of the vaginal walls. She gave me some cream. I used it for a week. I read that I shouldn’t eat spicy food & no alcohol so I deliberately started doing both & it went away only to be replaced by headaches. Then 3 weeks ago I resumed exercise by going for long walks. Then last week I went bowling & next day the burning down below starts again as if I strained something especially where I have my fibroid. Now its excruciating again . Non stop. Last 2 days I have curled up into a ball and have been crying. I am really at my wits end. I have even been having really bad thought, I’m ashamed to say.
Again, back to Dr. Weekes: do not challenge or test the symptoms, but rather "practice" normal functioning, because with practice you have the chance to better yourself each time, while testing is pass or fail, and failure leads to despair, while practice leads to hope. Have you listened to her CD? Much better than the book, in my opinion, because the resonance and strength of what she is saying is better heard than read. My opinion.
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Back2 it, like you I am tired of doing the doctors rounds not because they are bad or incompetent or negative, but becoz they don’t offer much.
It is because they cannot offer much to a person in panic, because they do not know how, and that is not what allopathic doctors do. I might add that many "TMS" doctors, while meaning well, cannot offer physiological explanations for your pain, because of their unfamiliarity with the effects of severe muscle hypertonicity and referred pain. Most doctors spend very little time in study and practice with muscular and skeletal studies, and the tendency for specialization further removes them from the overall body mechanics, so while they can pronounce you "healthy" they can still not tell you why you hurt. A serious weak leg on the stool of recovery, in my opinion.
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I was a healthy person right up till I was 40. I was fearless. I can honestly say I did not find myself on every page of sarno’s book like many here claim. I have not discovered anything new about myself nor found myself. I am not a better person becoz of the pain. In fact I want my old life back I want the old mala back.
I hate this. I don't know where to go & what else to do.
The old Mala never left, only has encountered fear and panic and can regain the past by understanding the main impediment to "cure" is FEAR OF THE FEAR.
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| tennis tom |
Posted - 06/20/2013 : 06:20:11
Mala are you taking anti-depressants?
Are you seeing a psychotherapist?
Have you ever seen a TMS doctor or practitioner? |
| mala |
Posted - 06/20/2013 : 05:32:45
Pspa I agree that a straight neck does not mean pain. At least I understand it intellectually.
Art, I should know the drill by now but with each new symptom I am becoming more & more fearful. I am really suffering & can’t seem to see the light at the end of the tunnel despite all that I know & have read about TMS
Balto I know exactly what you mean about the conditioning of those dogs. I feel like one of them Trapped. Only I feel that the dog is luckier than I am coz maybe it doesn’t even know its trapped . It can’t intellectualize it. I think I am more fearful now that ever before. I am despondent. Despite being in so much pain I have tried to live as if nothing is wrong, doing everything I possible can as normally as I can. I still have a somewhat active life but with no real enjoyment. From the time I get up till the time I go to bed I am in pain & obsessing about it.
I can honestly say that I have challenged every symptom forcing myself to continue. I have been having neck pain but I force myself to lift things, to drive. I had some considerable burning in my vagina recently. The doctor thinks its vaginal atrophy due to lack of estrogen, which can lead to thinning of the vaginal walls. She gave me some cream. I used it for a week. I read that I shouldn’t eat spicy food & no alcohol so I deliberately started doing both & it went away only to be replaced by headaches. Then 3 weeks ago I resumed exercise by going for long walks. Then last week I went bowling & next day the burning down below starts again as if I strained something especially where I have my fibroid. Now its excruciating again . Non stop. Last 2 days I have curled up into a ball and have been crying. I am really at my wits end. I have even been having really bad thought, I’m ashamed to say.
Back2 it, like you I am tired of doing the doctors rounds not because they are bad or incompetent or negative, but becoz they don’t offer much.
I was a healthy person right up till I was 40. I was fearless. I can honestly say I did not find myself on every page of sarno’s book like many here claim. I have not discovered anything new about myself nor found myself. I am not a better person becoz of the pain. In fact I want my old life back I want the old mala back.
I hate this. I don't know where to go & what else to do.
Mala Singh Barber. I'm on facebook. Look me up
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