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| marsha |
Posted - 10/12/2012 : 15:40:56
If you behave like you are handicapped by pain you will be handicapped no matter how positive you are that TMS is the cause. |
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| marsha |
Posted - 10/13/2012 : 16:06:13
You cannot control how you feel but you can control how you behave ( act) .
You brain will adjust after a while. It is not easy to function while in pain. Give yourself a break when you have to but try to live as if the pain is not there.
Go ahead and live.
Pretend you are fine. |
| RageSootheRatio |
Posted - 10/13/2012 : 14:43:25
Hi Mala,
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But my greatest problem is how to not feel handicapped when crippled by pain despite trying hard.
Any thoughts on what to do?
I would say to myself: I cannot control how I FEEL. Feelings may come and go; some may linger for long whiles, but they are LIMBIC and I can't MAKE myself either FEEL something or NOT-FEEL something... I can't THINK my feelings away and I can't self-talk them away, because I FEEL HOW I FEEL and so I would say to myself: "I feel handicapped when crippled by pain despite trying hard. It is reasonable I would feel that way, given all I've been through, and given how my brain is wired and how I have been conditioned! It would be surprising if I *didn't* feel that way, actually! And so I expect myself to feel handicapped when crippled by pain despite trying hard."
And that would help me to "float past those feelings" ....
RSR |
| tennis tom |
Posted - 10/13/2012 : 06:39:19
Mala, how's your relationship with your husband? TMS is mostly caused by tensions caused by relationships. The affirmation below from Ace1's list is a good one. How are your sessions going with your therapist? I'm guessing since your therapist isn't TMS savy, he/she isn't helping much or you would be seeing improvement. Have you read SteveO's story of how he broke through his pain when sitting?
Ace1's List: "16. Remember, someone who can change their life to take out major stressors (quit a job, divorce etc) will get better faster than ones who cannot and have to accept their life the way it is and recondition themselves" |
| art |
Posted - 10/13/2012 : 05:30:40
Mala, This gets into fighing with yourself, and that's a fight we can't win. Calm acceptance is the way. Joyful acceptance even better. I've been reading your posts for a long time, and it's clear to me you have to get your anxiety levels down. Again, this can't be accomplished by struggling. I've mentioned a few times that deep, focused breathing whenever you begin to feel the fear...or despair...or any negative TMS feeding emotion is amazingly effective.
Along with self-affirmative thinking as espoused by Ace, that can truly be the road to recovery.
It's human nature...really a biological imperative...to struggle. But we have to find ways to quit fighting. The tools are there mala, you have only to pick them up.
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| mala |
Posted - 10/12/2012 : 20:39:33
A very good point. But my greatest problem is how to not feel handicapped when crippled by pain despite trying hard.
Any thoughts on what to do?
Thx
mala
Honestly, I sometimes really get fed up with my subconscious. It's like it's got a mind of its own.
Alexei Sayle
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