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marsha

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Posted - 10/12/2012 :  15:40:56  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
If you behave like you are handicapped by pain you will be handicapped no matter how positive you are that TMS is the cause.

mala

Hong Kong
774 Posts

Posted - 10/12/2012 :  20:39:33  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
A very good point. But my greatest problem is how to not feel handicapped when crippled by pain despite trying hard.

Any thoughts on what to do?

Thx

mala

Honestly, I sometimes really get fed up with my subconscious. It's like it's got a mind of its own.

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art

1903 Posts

Posted - 10/13/2012 :  05:30:40  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
Mala, This gets into fighing with yourself, and that's a fight we can't win. Calm acceptance is the way. Joyful acceptance even better. I've been reading your posts for a long time, and it's clear to me you have to get your anxiety levels down. Again, this can't be accomplished by struggling. I've mentioned a few times that deep, focused breathing whenever you begin to feel the fear...or despair...or any negative TMS feeding emotion is amazingly effective.

Along with self-affirmative thinking as espoused by Ace, that can truly be the road to recovery.

It's human nature...really a biological imperative...to struggle. But we have to find ways to quit fighting. The tools are there mala, you have only to pick them up.

Edited by - art on 10/13/2012 05:34:40
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tennis tom

USA
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Posted - 10/13/2012 :  06:39:19  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
Mala, how's your relationship with your husband? TMS is mostly caused by tensions caused by relationships. The affirmation below from Ace1's list is a good one. How are your sessions going with your therapist? I'm guessing since your therapist isn't TMS savy, he/she isn't helping much or you would be seeing improvement. Have you read SteveO's story of how he broke through his pain when sitting?

Ace1's List: "16. Remember, someone who can change their life to take out major stressors (quit a job, divorce etc) will get better faster than ones who cannot and have to accept their life the way it is and recondition themselves"
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RageSootheRatio

Canada
430 Posts

Posted - 10/13/2012 :  14:43:25  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
Hi Mala,

quote:

But my greatest problem is how to not feel handicapped when crippled by pain despite trying hard.

Any thoughts on what to do?



I would say to myself: I cannot control how I FEEL. Feelings may come and go; some may linger for long whiles, but they are LIMBIC and I can't MAKE myself either FEEL something or NOT-FEEL something... I can't THINK my feelings away and I can't self-talk them away, because I FEEL HOW I FEEL and so I would say to myself: "I feel handicapped when crippled by pain despite trying hard. It is reasonable I would feel that way, given all I've been through, and given how my brain is wired and how I have been conditioned! It would be surprising if I *didn't* feel that way, actually! And so I expect myself to feel handicapped when crippled by pain despite trying hard."

And that would help me to "float past those feelings" ....

RSR
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marsha

252 Posts

Posted - 10/13/2012 :  16:06:13  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
You cannot control how you feel but you can control how you behave ( act) .
You brain will adjust after a while. It is not easy to function while in pain. Give yourself a break when you have to but try to live as if the pain is not there.
Go ahead and live.
Pretend you are fine.
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