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Screensize: 640 x 480 800 x 600 1024 x 768 1280 x 1024 UserName: Password: Format Mode: Basic  Help  Prompt  Format: Font Andale Mono Arial Arial Black Book Antiqua Century Gothic Comic Sans MS Courier New Georgia Impact Lucida Console Script MT Bold Stencil Tahoma Times New Roman Trebuchet MS Verdana   Size 1 2 3 4 5 6   Color Black Red Yellow Pink Green Orange Purple Blue Beige Brown Teal Navy Maroon LimeGreen Message: * HTML is OFF * Forum Code is ON Smilies [quote][i]Originally posted by patrickneil[/i] [br]I want to get better for many reasons. I want to get better to prove to myself that I can. I want to get better to be a better boyfriend, friend, student, son, worker, etc. I feel like I allow the pain to depress me or make me inferior in a sense, which in reality, is another barrier in itself. I let the pain depress me and keep me down, and I fear that it wont go away, which just perpetuates the pain and keeps me in a pain cycle. Once I can break this cycle, I know I will get better. I just have to break the cycle. The question which is left is how am I going to break the cycle? I know that fear is one of my BIGGEST barrier because its always been here. When the neck pain first started I wondered when it would go away and was appalled when my Dr. told me up to 6 weeks when I had spring break coming up, I wanted it gone then. Ever since, I have lived each and every day to get rid of the pain, to not be in pain, and mostly wondering when & if the pain will go away. Once I stop worrying about, the pain will lose its effect on me. Right now, my unconscious mind has me focusing on the pain rather than the stressors, but once I stop focusing on the pain, I will be forced to focus on the stressors and the pain will diminish. So my question, how do I stop focusing on the pain? I've been going through the TMS program for just under 3 weeks now and whenever I have a bad day I cant seem to shake the fear that the pain will last forever and the idea that I may need surgery. Just as an example, what i think is "I'm not better yet, and I'm about to graduate, and I have a really great networking meeting next week where I will probably get a job offer but then I fear that if I need surgery I wont be ready to start working there when I graduate and Ill have to ask for time off before i start to get surgery...." the mind just keeps racing [/quote]   Check here to include your profile signature.