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patrickneil
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 Posted - 02/19/2010 : 17:11:17
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I want to get better for many reasons. I want to get better to prove to myself that I can. I want to get better to be a better boyfriend, friend, student, son, worker, etc. I feel like I allow the pain to depress me or make me inferior in a sense, which in reality, is another barrier in itself. I let the pain depress me and keep me down, and I fear that it wont go away, which just perpetuates the pain and keeps me in a pain cycle. Once I can break this cycle, I know I will get better. I just have to break the cycle. The question which is left is how am I going to break the cycle?
I know that fear is one of my BIGGEST barrier because its always been here. When the neck pain first started I wondered when it would go away and was appalled when my Dr. told me up to 6 weeks when I had spring break coming up, I wanted it gone then. Ever since, I have lived each and every day to get rid of the pain, to not be in pain, and mostly wondering when & if the pain will go away. Once I stop worrying about, the pain will lose its effect on me. Right now, my unconscious mind has me focusing on the pain rather than the stressors, but once I stop focusing on the pain, I will be forced to focus on the stressors and the pain will diminish.
So my question, how do I stop focusing on the pain? I've been going through the TMS program for just under 3 weeks now and whenever I have a bad day I cant seem to shake the fear that the pain will last forever and the idea that I may need surgery. Just as an example, what i think is "I'm not better yet, and I'm about to graduate, and I have a really great networking meeting next week where I will probably get a job offer but then I fear that if I need surgery I wont be ready to start working there when I graduate and Ill have to ask for time off before i start to get surgery...." the mind just keeps racing |
Edited by - patrickneil on 02/19/2010 17:20:56 |
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Gibbon
United Kingdom
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Posted - 02/20/2010 : 01:55:34
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Whenever you start thinking about the pain, try to stop and ask "why am i in pain?" Do activities that take your mind off pain - eg go swimming. And then ask yourself when you've finished, "how come i wasn't in the same level of pain when my mind was distracted?"
I found swimming good as well because it's pretty relaxing - I had a few positive thinking mantras which i just repeated over and over to myself on every stroke
"TMS is real, the pain is just emotional"
"It's OK to not succeed in everything you do!"
Obviously you can personalise them for yourself.
I would also recommend thinking about signing up for a TMS course - either person to person or over the phone/online. It really does help!
See http://tmswiki.wetpaint.com/page/Find+a+TMS+Doctor+or+Therapist
Andrew
Check out the TMS website: www.rsi-backpain.co.uk |
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