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Screensize: 640 x 480 800 x 600 1024 x 768 1280 x 1024 UserName: Password: Format Mode: Basic  Help  Prompt  Format: Font Andale Mono Arial Arial Black Book Antiqua Century Gothic Comic Sans MS Courier New Georgia Impact Lucida Console Script MT Bold Stencil Tahoma Times New Roman Trebuchet MS Verdana   Size 1 2 3 4 5 6   Color Black Red Yellow Pink Green Orange Purple Blue Beige Brown Teal Navy Maroon LimeGreen Message: * HTML is OFF * Forum Code is ON Smilies [quote][i]Originally posted by inaned[/i] [br]Hello, everyone, There’s something worth sharing with you. I’m still having residual pain from my recent relapse of sciatica, but I’ll tell you this. I read Monte Hueftle’’s book “The Master Practice”. It was the ONLY place I found good enough definitions of the emotions blamed for the existence of TMS and how exactly these emotions get repressed every day. I my opinion it all can be narrowed down to two major issues – low self esteem (generating fear for one’s own life) and resisting the present (resulting in anger, perfectionism). In fact, it is down to one – low self worth. Then I got really curious why most people, not just the ones that eventually develop TMS, on a subconscious level think so bad of themselves. I went to discuss this specific question with an expert psychologist. Her answer was very intriguing. Humans, compared to all other living creatures, have the longest dependency period. We are completely helpless and dependent for our physical survival for almost 5 years after birth. Yet, from a very young age, sometimes as early as 12 months, we are burdened with expectations. Babies are expected to make their first steps around 12 months of age, and if they don’t, what a worry this is for the parents! We are expected to learn how to speak somewhere between 18 and 24 month of age. If this does not happen, again parents panic and this is directly felt by the kids (If people knew Einstein uttered his first words when he was 4 years old…and was labeled retarded). We are being exposed to expectations of what’s normal and what’s not and fears that something’s wrong or terribly wrong since our very first breath! We are being measured, labeled, tagged, named and moulded. We are being made believe we are not perfect if we do not fit the moulds and this belief evolves as we grow and get exposed to more expectations and social interactions. People are merely denied their God given right to develop naturally and freely, with their own pace. How about that? Well, no matter what the explanation, if people could genuinely understand they are perfect the way they are, that it’s OK to trust everything happens for the best, life would be much less stressful and somehow the fear generated by low self esteem will disintegrate. No fear, no pain. I have a friend who suffered a major spinal trauma. He’s in a wheel chair now, but is feeling just fine. He’s not unhappy. Every time he goes to the bathroom and sees the floor tiles in the corner, he sais “You see, this tile is not perfect, it’s a piece of something that was once perfect, but hell how could one finish the corner without it? “ There’s so much wisdom in his words. No matter how you think of yourselves, you have your exact and perfect place in the larger picture! It is such a relief to know this. Just a few words of gratitude for all the people that spoke to me in a language I was able to understand. Dr. Sarno to begin with, Dr. Schubiner, Monte Hueftle, and of course all you guys posting in this forum. I think it is really important to share our experiences and insights, because we speak and understand different languages (don’t take me literally here). Each view point may turn out to be the key for someone who still can’t figure it out. Be well! Ina [/quote]   Check here to include your profile signature.