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icelikeaninja
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 Posted - 08/13/2013 : 20:28:34
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You are so right. Iam constantly reliving if I did something right or wrong and constantly looked or think about every possible option.
Everything always turned out good but I always feared the worst or thought I could always get a better outcome.
So you are right some self love. Heck I wouldn't treat someone I love the way I treat myself...
**Sure I can lay down on a bed of nails and not have pain but why am I having back pain when laying down on a soft mattress? |
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Back2-It
USA
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Posted - 08/13/2013 : 23:14:19
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Originally posted by icelikeaninja
You are so right. Iam constantly reliving if I did something right or wrong and constantly looked or think about every possible option.
Everything always turned out good but I always feared the worst or thought I could always get a better outcome.
So you are right some self love. Heck I wouldn't treat someone I love the way I treat myself...
And rethinking does not cause stress and a build up of stress and thinking about your thinking about it, does not cause more stress? Sooner or later we learn the answer to that.
I would bet you wouldn't treat a stranger or even an enemy the way you have treated yourself at times, much less somebody you loved. The question to answer -- I had to-- was why? The answer is in learned behavior at an early age, and the good news is that even old dogs do learn new tricks, but they have to practice and have patience.
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marytabby
USA
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Posted - 08/15/2013 : 04:36:17
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Newsflash: After me finally speaking up in a HUGE way about feeling neglected, not cherished, not made to feel like I matter and that I'm not gonna be his quasi therapist or AA sponsor anymore, the boyfriend broke up with me Monday. It was a huge relief. I felt like I dodged a bullet. Tuesday morning I woke up and decided NOT to take the overactive bladder meds. Had a perfect day. Felt great. Did the same yesterday, no meds... had a perfect bladder day. Guess what, people? Toxic relationships are the first place I'm gonna look next time my "feminine" nether regions are screaming in pain to me to pay attention. Something was very wrong but I wasn't listening. I am HEALED, CURED and he did me a huge favor.
PS: I lent him "Mind Body Prescription" two months ago for his 10 year unbearable "neck arthritis pain". He has not read the book. He never will. Too bad. |
Edited by - marytabby on 08/15/2013 06:32:38 |
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Bladder Pain - RageSootheRatio, can you read?
