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Racer
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 Posted - 04/22/2013 : 06:55:40
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How to deal people who constantly nag at us, which results in tremendous rage builds within?
Are there any options available other than the list below?
1. Where someone can't "run away" from their "situation", have the responsibility to be with, and "manage".
2. Not getting back into arguments, ear plugs doesn't help as well. |
Edited by - Racer on 04/22/2013 06:57:57 |
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tmsjptc
USA
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Posted - 04/22/2013 : 09:25:22
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| Racer, have you read The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle? This is just my opinion, but for me the knowledge and awareness of what takes place with your ego and "unconscious mind" (as he calls it) was tremendously helpful. Stuff like people nagging or complaining or pushing you just don't have the same effect on me anymore. If you'd like to explore this, there was a recent post on this forum from someone providing lots of links to both written text and audio files of Eckhart Tolle's work. |
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Racer
USA
129 Posts |
Posted - 04/23/2013 : 06:07:44
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Originally posted by tmsjptc
Racer, have you read The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle? This is just my opinion, but for me the knowledge and awareness of what takes place with your ego and "unconscious mind" (as he calls it) was tremendously helpful. Stuff like people nagging or complaining or pushing you just don't have the same effect on me anymore. If you'd like to explore this, there was a recent post on this forum from someone providing lots of links to both written text and audio files of Eckhart Tolle's work.
Thanks. My search was unsuccessful. Can you give the correct topic link? |
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tmsjptc
USA
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Posted - 04/23/2013 : 12:58:58
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| The topic was "Thoughts Make You Suffer / Mindfulness (Tolle etc)". Right now it is on the 2nd page of topics since it hasn't been responded to or updated in a few days. |
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shawnsmith
Czech Republic
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Posted - 04/23/2013 : 13:54:15
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Originally posted by Racer
How to deal people who constantly nag at us, which results in tremendous rage builds within?
It has nothing to do with what they are doing, and has everything to do with how you are reacting. Placing the blame of your feelings -- and yes they are yours and no one else's -- on something or someone external to yourself is evading the source of the real problem. How do you know you have a problem? You feel it in your body-- YOUR body, which is reacting to people and things creates a reaction -- rage, sorrow, happiness, etc. But it is how you react and not what they are doing. Yes, there is a way to reverse this.
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“Living up to an image that you have of yourself or that
other people have of you is inauthentic living – another unconscious role the ego plays.” -- Ekhart Tolle |
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Racer
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Posted - 04/24/2013 : 11:51:21
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It has nothing to do with what they are doing, and has everything to do with how you are reacting. Placing the blame of your feelings -- and yes they are yours and no one else's -- on something or someone external to yourself is evading the source of the real problem. How do you know you have a problem? You feel it in your body-- YOUR body, which is reacting to people and things creates a reaction -- rage, sorrow, happiness, etc. But it is how you react and not what they are doing. Yes, there is a way to reverse this.
Definitely I feel it on my body. Keeping quite or conceding defeat (even when I'm right), will immediately manifest as headache, and sleep disturbance. Often get a feeling of myself being confined in a cell, giving importance to "responsibilities". |
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