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GTfan
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 Posted - 04/12/2013 : 06:15:01
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I am a classic "goodist" by Sarno's terms. I put a lot of pressure on myself to please others even by sacrificing my own happiness. What is the best way to handle this for emotional and physical health?
Should I try to be narcisist or is just acknowledging the fact that my unconscious is enraged by my behavior enough?
"No matter how far life pushes you down, no matter how much you hurt, you can always bounce back." - Sheryl Swoopes |
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Peregrinus
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Posted - 04/12/2013 : 06:30:00
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Originally posted by GTfan
Should I try to be narcisist ...?
GTfan:
Your first problem is that you think that narcissism is the only alternative to sacrificing your self interest for others. In both cases you are seeking the approval of others. Others cannot provide you with an identity or a reason to live. When you rely on others to provide you with a sense of value you will constantly be disappointed and suffer stress. |
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balto
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Posted - 04/12/2013 : 07:24:25
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GTfan, try not to think of the behavior as forced upon you. Try to think of it as compassionate, try to think as doing charity work, but do set a limit and learn to say no when you really don't want to.
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No, I don't know everything. I'm just here to share my experience. |
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tennis tom
USA
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Posted - 04/12/2013 : 07:35:19
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Originally posted by GTfan
I am a classic "goodist" by Sarno's terms. I put a lot of pressure on myself to please others even by sacrificing my own happiness. What is the best way to handle this for emotional and physical health?
"No matter how far life pushes you down, no matter how much you hurt, you can always bounce back." - Sheryl Swoopes
Learn how to say: "No, but I"ll think about it." And I would change your sig, it makes you sound too much like a victim.
tt/lsmft
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DR. SARNO'S 12 DAILY REMINDERS:
www.youtube.com/watch?v=r0dKBFwGR0g
TAKE THE HOLMES-RAHE STRESS TEST
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Holmes_and_Rahe_stress_scale
Some of my favorite excerpts from _THE DIVIDED MIND_ :
http://www.tmshelp.com/forum/topic.asp?TOPIC_ID=2605
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"It is no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society." Jiddu Krishnamurti
"Pain is inevitable; suffering is optional." Author Unknown
"Happy People Are Happy Putters." Frank Nobilo, Golf Analyst
"Be careful about reading health books. You may die of a misprint." Mark Twain and Balto
"The hot-dog is the noblest of dogs; it feeds the hand that bites it." Dr. Laurence Johnston Peter
"...the human emotional system was not designed to endure the mental rigors of a tennis match." Dr. Allen Fox
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TMS PRACTITIONERS:
John Sarno, MD
400 E 34th St, New York, NY 10016
(212) 263-6035
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Here's a list of TMS practitioners from the TMS Wiki:
http://tmswiki.org/ppd/Find_a_TMS_Doctor_or_Therapist
Here's a map of TMS practitioners from the old Tarpit Yoga site, (click on the map by state for listings).:
http://www.tarpityoga.com/2007_08_01_archive.html |
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GTfan
USA
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Posted - 04/12/2013 : 08:00:19
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Originally posted by tennis tom
quote:
Originally posted by GTfan
I am a classic "goodist" by Sarno's terms. I put a lot of pressure on myself to please others even by sacrificing my own happiness. What is the best way to handle this for emotional and physical health?
"No matter how far life pushes you down, no matter how much you hurt, you can always bounce back." - Sheryl Swoopes
Learn how to say: "No, but I"ll think about it." And I would change your sig, it makes you sound too much like a victim.
tt/lsmft
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DR. SARNO'S 12 DAILY REMINDERS:
www.youtube.com/watch?v=r0dKBFwGR0g
TAKE THE HOLMES-RAHE STRESS TEST
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Holmes_and_Rahe_stress_scale
Some of my favorite excerpts from _THE DIVIDED MIND_ :
http://www.tmshelp.com/forum/topic.asp?TOPIC_ID=2605
==================================================
"It is no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society." Jiddu Krishnamurti
"Pain is inevitable; suffering is optional." Author Unknown
"Happy People Are Happy Putters." Frank Nobilo, Golf Analyst
"Be careful about reading health books. You may die of a misprint." Mark Twain and Balto
"The hot-dog is the noblest of dogs; it feeds the hand that bites it." Dr. Laurence Johnston Peter
"...the human emotional system was not designed to endure the mental rigors of a tennis match." Dr. Allen Fox
======================================================
"If it ends with "itis" or "algia" or "syndrome" and doctors can't figure out what causes it, then it might be TMS." Dave the Mod =================================================
TMS PRACTITIONERS:
John Sarno, MD
400 E 34th St, New York, NY 10016
(212) 263-6035
Here's the TMS practitioners list from the TMS Help Forum:
http://www.tmshelp.com/links.htm
Here's a list of TMS practitioners from the TMS Wiki:
http://tmswiki.org/ppd/Find_a_TMS_Doctor_or_Therapist
Here's a map of TMS practitioners from the old Tarpit Yoga site, (click on the map by state for listings).:
http://www.tarpityoga.com/2007_08_01_archive.html
Hmmm, I guess I never really analyzed the quote that deeply. So you are saying that instead of acting like I am a victim of "life" causing me to hurt, I need to accept the fact that it is my own doing?
"No matter how far life pushes you down, no matter how much you hurt, you can always bounce back." - Sheryl Swoopes |
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tennis tom
USA
4749 Posts |
Posted - 04/12/2013 : 09:30:01
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| Yep, change your thinking, you are what you think. |
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GTfan
USA
84 Posts |
Posted - 04/12/2013 : 12:26:40
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I changed it to something that reflects the fact I am falling on my behalf instead of getting "pushed" down.
You’ll fall down, you stumble, you land square on your face. And every time that happens, you get back on your feet. You get up just as fast as you can, no matter how many times you need to do it |
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tennis tom
USA
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Posted - 04/12/2013 : 18:12:03
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That sounds more positive.
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DR. SARNO'S 12 DAILY REMINDERS:
www.youtube.com/watch?v=r0dKBFwGR0g
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Edited by - tennis tom on 04/12/2013 18:12:44 |
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