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Barbara Carroll
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 Posted - 03/16/2013 : 01:35:47
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I know that when I get angry I get symptoms.
How do u deal with this and let anger go so I don't get sick.
Thank u
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pspa123
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Posted - 03/16/2013 : 07:44:36
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| In Back in Control David Hanscom talks a lot about letting go of anger. One of his techniques is to spend time each day writing down your most unacceptable thoughts and immediately throwing them out. |
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RageSootheRatio
Canada
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Posted - 03/16/2013 : 08:19:24
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Hi Barbara,
I use a technique that I learned in Emotional Brain Training, which was adapted from the "Love Letter" Technique created by John Gray (yes, of Mars and Venus books fame.) Basically it is to go through and express a whole "FLOW OF FEELINGS" ... saying (shouting) or writing, "I feel angry that ... " until you don't have any more to say, and then going on to the other feelings... which if you are doing it optimally, will "come out" on their own.... from anger, will often come SADNESS (I feel sad that ... ) and then sometimes FEAR (I feel afraid that... ) and then I feel regret / guilt that ... ) etc .. .There is more information in John Gray's book What You Feel You can Heal, including a "response letter" as part of the process, which can also be very healing/ freeing in my experience.
There are also some other useful posts about anger (look for the ones by Darko) on these threads which you might find helpful:
Very high amount of anger - need help
http://www.tmshelp.com/forum/topic.asp?TOPIC_ID=6743
http://www.tmshelp.com/forum/topic.asp?TOPIC_ID=2862
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Barbara Carroll
USA
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Posted - 03/16/2013 : 10:04:25
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Thank u so much for your advice.
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alix
USA
434 Posts |
Posted - 03/16/2013 : 10:39:48
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For old anger, I agree, journaling is great.
For new anger that arises in daily life, I simply stop thinking and that completely negates it before it gets registered in the brain. It is radical and works great. |
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Barbara Carroll
USA
39 Posts |
Posted - 03/18/2013 : 02:54:36
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Hi Alix isn't that repressing?
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shawnsmith
Czech Republic
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alix
USA
434 Posts |
Posted - 03/18/2013 : 10:05:39
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Barbara,
It is not repressing because it never gets into an emotion in the first place. I preempt the stressful, upsetting situation and simply stop thinking, float through it.
If I am driving and I sense that somebody is going to cut in front of me, I just stop thinking and listen to the radio attentively, feel my hands on the steering wheel.
I am symptoms free at this point. I hear people (that have been healed by Sarno) say that when they have a twinge, they yell at their brain or try to reason with it.
For me, I just stop thinking and it is instantaneous, the twinge goes away.
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marsha
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Posted - 03/18/2013 : 10:21:29
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| Feel it nd let it go. |
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tennis tom
USA
4749 Posts |
Posted - 03/18/2013 : 10:23:17
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Repressing happens unconsciously, you are not aware you are doing it. Suppressing is conscious behavior, like "biting your lips", to prevent yourself from saying something you might be sorry for. As you become more aware of your thoughts, the "being in the now" thing--otherwise known as paying attention--you will become better able to deal with things as they happen consciously. This state of mindpower will prevent stuff from building up in your reservoir of TMS rage, and then spilling over the TMS dam, forming into TMS distraction symptoms, to prevent outbursts of socially unacceptable rage.
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DR. SARNO'S 12 DAILY REMINDERS:
www.youtube.com/watch?v=r0dKBFwGR0g
TAKE THE HOLMES-RAHE STRESS TEST
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Holmes_and_Rahe_stress_scale
Some of my favorite excerpts from _THE DIVIDED MIND_ :
http://www.tmshelp.com/forum/topic.asp?TOPIC_ID=2605
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"It is no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society." Jiddu Krishnamurti
"Pain is inevitable; suffering is optional." Author Unknown
"Happy People Are Happy Putters." Frank Nobilo, Golf Analyst
"Be careful about reading health books. You may die of a misprint." Mark Twain and Balto
"The hot-dog is the noblest of dogs; it feeds the hand that bites it." Dr. Laurence Johnston Peter
"...the human emotional system was not designed to endure the mental rigors of a tennis match." Dr. Allen Fox
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"If it ends with "itis" or "algia" or "syndrome" and doctors can't figure out what causes it, then it might be TMS." Dave the Mod =================================================
TMS PRACTITIONERS:
John Sarno, MD
400 E 34th St, New York, NY 10016
(212) 263-6035
Here's the TMS practitioners list from the TMS Help Forum:
http://www.tmshelp.com/links.htm
Here's a list of TMS practitioners from the TMS Wiki:
http://tmswiki.org/ppd/Find_a_TMS_Doctor_or_Therapist
Here's a map of TMS practitioners from the old Tarpit Yoga site, (click on the map by state for listings).:
http://www.tarpityoga.com/2007_08_01_archive.html |
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Ace1
USA
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Posted - 03/18/2013 : 10:45:01
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| Awesome reply Tom. Actually Dr. Sarno says in the divided mind, what if someone cant say something because of work, family etc. He said to just be aware that it bothers you. So the awareness somehow causes relaxation about the issue. The affirmations and the acting different without letting yourself and body strain to the stimulus, with time prevents its negative effects |
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