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RageSootheRatio
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 Posted - 02/18/2013 : 07:28:37
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So as not to disrupt the other thread too much, I've started a new one, here ... To recap:
In addition to Fight, Flight or Freeze responses, I have also heard of a fourth: FAWN. This term was coined by therapist Pete Walker:
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I have named it the fawn response...the fourth ‘f’ in the fight/flight/ freeze/fawn repertoire of instinctive responses to trauma. Fawn, according to Webster’s, means: “to act servilely; cringe and flatter.”
I think this speaks to a perhaps more extreme manifestation of "People-pleasing" (if thinking about TMS from Dr Sarno's idea that 1/3 of one's "stress beaker" is personality-related) and it CERTAINLY would be mentally straining, if thinking about it re Ace1's mental strain model. (AND it can certainly be an "unconscious" / automatic part of how we relate to other people, which can be pretty enraging, actually!)
Here is a link to Pete Walker's article:
http://www.pete-walker.com/codependencyFawnResponse.htm
I also likes what he says in another article about forgiveness, that "When forgiveness has substance, it is felt palpably in the heart," and "It is almost always a byproduct of effective grieving and no amount of thought, intention or belief can bring it into being without a descension into the feeling realms."
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plum
United Kingdom
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Posted - 02/18/2013 : 10:24:03
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Thanks for this.
I've bookmarked the site to read around a little later. I think you've flagged something very interesting here. More anon... |
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alix
USA
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Posted - 02/18/2013 : 10:54:38
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| Thanks for this link. This article is enlightening. This is one of the best explanations on the link between childhood trauma and maladaptive behaviors we all seem to exhibit. |
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alix
USA
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gigalos
Netherlands
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Posted - 02/18/2013 : 13:38:39
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| Interesting stuff.. gonna read some of his articles. thank you |
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plum
United Kingdom
641 Posts |
Posted - 02/19/2013 : 05:47:37
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| Any one here read 'Women Who Love Too Much" by Robin Norwood? |
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Cath
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Posted - 02/19/2013 : 06:29:27
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| Wow! This is really enlightening. Thanks RSR (without wishing to "fawn" too much). Seems like I've been doing a lot of this all my life, and it was good to read about how this may have come about from early childhood. Although I don't consider myself to have been abused as such as a child, because my childhood was mostly a happy one, I grew up in an era where it was acceptable to strike a child for wrong-doing. I do remember being whipped on my legs for disobeying at a very early age. I guess it would be frowned upon today, and I certainly never struck my own child, or delivered such harsh punishments for speaking out of turn. |
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chickenbone
Panama
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Posted - 02/19/2013 : 08:21:50
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| Thanks, RSR, for the great article. I got a lot out of it for my own personal situation. It really helped me understand myself better and why I think and behave the way I do. |
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Fight, Flight, Freeze, FAWN
