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 The number one cause of strain
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Ace1

USA
1040 Posts

Posted - 02/02/2013 :  14:29:53  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
The urge to be faster than you currently are or to be doing something more productive or fun.

bryan3000

USA
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Posted - 02/02/2013 :  14:43:12  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
Completely understand.


Any ideas on methods to regularly challenge this mindset?
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chickenbone

Panama
398 Posts

Posted - 02/02/2013 :  14:59:31  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
I caught myself doing that today, after a bad night's sleep, and paid dearly for it.

Just being constantly AWARE of when you are in strain mode is usually all it takes to fix it. Shine the light on it, bring it fully into your consciousness. But don't scold or argue or deny it. Affirmations worked well for me here like "I take my time" "I have all day" "I enjoy doing this", etc.
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plum

United Kingdom
641 Posts

Posted - 02/02/2013 :  15:43:33  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
Aye. Numero uno stupid habit here too.
Slightly offset by happy realisation that this is fairly recent and so body has form for better, wiser practices.

Ace1, indulge me in another question.
Aside from mindfulness, awareness and othersuch wonderful contemplative delights, what say you regarding pleasure?

And by this I mean genuine guilt-free, lowdown, fabulous and body-zinging pleasure.
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Ace1

USA
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Posted - 02/02/2013 :  15:48:37  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
So the way to fix this is what chickenbone said but also to just sit in that situation and DON'T GO WITH THE URGE. Sit in you discomfort and see it and affirm that you comfortable and patient.

There is nothing wrong with pleasurable activities as long as once again you aren't too anticipatory about it or too crazy about it, or you start using it as a drug to lessen your strain or to feel good about yourself.
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plum

United Kingdom
641 Posts

Posted - 02/02/2013 :  15:59:23  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
Having used pleasure in every wrong way you describe I can comfortably state I really understand. It's interesting and I've noticed that awareness involves a sinking into the moment, a freedom where I *am* the affirmation as opposed to the yearning becoming yet another strain. At the moment it all comes and goes and my best guess this is the nature of the beast. Tis early days.

Edited by - plum on 02/02/2013 16:03:09
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shawnsmith

Czech Republic
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Posted - 02/02/2013 :  16:46:02  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
quote:
Originally posted by plum


And by this I mean genuine guilt-free, lowdown, fabulous and body-zinging pleasure.



Well, I guess I will go take a cold show now. Sigh............
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