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tmsjptc
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 Posted - 08/16/2012 : 14:40:54
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SteveO, I like the reference to "tmsjptcxyz". I'm still getting a good laugh out of it as I write this response. My name is actually Tom and the long acronym is just me putting together the first letters of each person's name in my family. I appreciate all of your posts here and was always encouraged by the amount of issues and length of time you overcame.
Patrick, I don't know your age but am guessing that going back 25 years may have put you in a period of time that you weren't so worried about this job or financial goals. This isn't to say that this isn't your current stressor. But, we can harbor resentment and anger or anxiety about all kinds of things. For example, when I first learned about TMS and stopped blaming pseudo physical problems, I thought it was my boss that I was always seemingly at odds with. For me, one thing I learned is that deep down inside I wanted to be seen as super smart or the best at something. When my boss (or anyone else for that matter) would disregard my input, or worse yet did something without even asking my input, I would get unconsciously very angry and offended. But, my outward nature is to be calm, cool, and collected (the nice guy) so I didn't realize that I would automatically suppress the emotions. There were other things too, of course, but this was one simple thing I learned about myself. Do I still like to be right? Yes. But, now I am aware of my internal dialog and I tell myself that all I can do is my best. I cannot control how other people will respond to it. Hope this helps. Tom |
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Phila-PM
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Posted - 08/21/2012 : 17:38:33
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| I'm actually 31. I've been married almost 10 years I have a 1 year old daughter and a 2 year old son. To say things are stressful around here would be an understatement. I feel this TMS thing is winning and I'm fighting a losing battle. Ive only been introduced to this mind body concept for a month....again my impatient nature kicks in. I think my biggest struggle is the fear of the pain. It's been there so long I rarely remember having a day without it. I'd love to find a tms doctor I could speak with who might help discover some deeper issues I haven't thought of. |
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drh7900
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Posted - 08/22/2012 : 08:26:41
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Originally posted by Phila-PM
I'm actually 31. I've been married almost 10 years I have a 1 year old daughter and a 2 year old son. To say things are stressful around here would be an understatement. I feel this TMS thing is winning and I'm fighting a losing battle. Ive only been introduced to this mind body concept for a month....again my impatient nature kicks in. I think my biggest struggle is the fear of the pain. It's been there so long I rarely remember having a day without it. I'd love to find a tms doctor I could speak with who might help discover some deeper issues I haven't thought of.
Seriously...are you an alternate universe version of me from a year ago? lol
I'm 32, been married almost 12 years, have a 4 month old daughter and a 2 year old son (both of mine are adopted and we got them both when they were just 2 days old, but with adoption comes the whole package of separation/abandonment found in babies removed from their mothers). I know how you feel! My symptoms may be different (low-back pain and sciatica for the last 13 years), but our stories are similar. I know what you mean by the fear of pain being a struggle. It's the fear of pain that finally led me to pursue Disabled Vet plates and handicap placards for my vehicles. Interestingly, that happened just before I found TMS back in May. So now I have them and never use them lol...before I always needed them and never had them. Oh the irony.
I'm not yet fully recovered, and there are days where I feel like I lose ground I have gained, but overall, I am improving. Don't forget Sarno's daily reminders (if you need a link, they are in tennis tom's signature). DON'T focus on the pain. DO focus on what's going on inside your mind and emotions.
SteveO's book is an excellent testament to how someone with decades of suffering can recover fully. I'm glad you're reading it. I got the following checklist from SteveO as a sort of "Quick Healing Handbook"...maybe it can help you:
1) Have full belief in TMS. Don't ever think there is something wrong with your body.
2) Begin daily relaxation and breathing techniques from the gurus of relaxation. eg, DRMiller.com
3) Stay active, stay in motion, never let your brain keep you from doing something physical.
4) Don't underestimate laughter and music as healing tools. They add another stimulus to the brain that begins to unhinge the neural set that is associated with pain. In other words, add to the denominator of the rage to soothe ratio by increasing the pleasure in your life. This reduces tension along with the relaxation and breathing techniques.
5) Forget about your body altogether and go live. Read chapter 21 and the story of Marcellous. It was when he found his vocation and forgot about his body that he woke up one day free.
6) Don't underestimate the power of visualization and guided imagery. See yourself as healed and your body will follow your mind's eye lead.
7) Forgive someone that you need to forgive...let that pain go in your heart and your body will heal follow....
In a recent exchange with SteveO, we talked about laughter. He told me that at one point he realized he hadn't laughed in about 10 years. Laughter really is one of the best forms of medicine. When you find something that makes you laugh so hard that you can hardly breathe, you almost can't focus on ANYTHING but what's making you laugh. That forces you to live in the moment. That forces you to focus on what's happening RIGHT NOW. That's EXPERIENCING the moment...not just being in it.
As SteveO says, "Your body will heal in its own time". It's hard not to try to rush it...but the more you rush it, the longer it will take. Patience for people like us comes easier on the outside than it does on the inside, but we can't force it, and we can't rush it...we have to treat our symptoms as what they are...a signal that something within the mindbody isn't right and try to feel the emotions from which our brains are trying to distract.
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tennis tom
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Posted - 08/22/2012 : 09:25:26
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Originally posted by drh7900
I'm 32, been married almost 12 years, have a 4 month old daughter and a 2 year old son (both of mine are adopted and we got them both when they were just 2 days old,
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Abracadabra and here they are:
DR. SARNO'S 12 DAILY REMINDERS: www.youtube.com/watch?v=r0dKBFwGR0g
Great post Dustin! And for adopting you get a direct ticket to Heaven where tennis is played bare-foot on the grass.
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Bugbear
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drh7900
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Posted - 08/22/2012 : 11:04:52
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Did someone mention laughter? This really made me laugh out loud when I first read it and hope it does the same for some of you.
http://bigstory.ap.org/article/indian-court-tells-laughter-group-zip-it
They would hold their ear lobes, tilt their heads back, and stretch their faces wide into smiles. "Ooh ooh, ha ha," went the chant. Then they would sweep their arms to their toes and reach for the sky, opening their mouths wide to say, "Ha ha ha!"
That image made me chuckle lol. But some of this stuff made me take pause:
...Prabhakar Naidu, 45, who said that since he started laughing he's been able to walk up stairs without getting winded.
Manjula Raut, 68, said she joined the group after having heart bypass surgery. "I could not walk properly when I started," she said. "Now I'm feeling very nice. I come every day."
"I had a spinal cord operation," said F.B. Chavariya, 58. "Five, six years I'm doing this practice and now I'm OK."
Thanks for the article!
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Phila-PM
USA
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Posted - 08/23/2012 : 12:16:43
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| Dustin thanks for all your advice. It does sound like we're a lot alike. We should exchange emails or phone numbers and help each other out from time to time. Thanks to everyone else as well. |
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drh7900
USA
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Posted - 08/23/2012 : 17:14:48
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Dustin thanks for all your advice. It does sound like we're a lot alike. We should exchange emails or phone numbers and help each other out from time to time. Thanks to everyone else as well.
I sent you an email through the forum. If you haven't seen it, check your spam folder...even after I had received a few emails from the forum, gmail started sending them all to spam. I don't know what provider you use, obviously, but forum emails could be in spam.
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Phila-PM
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Posted - 08/28/2012 : 13:26:12
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| Dustin I never got your email. You can email me at patrick.malone27 @gmail.com. |
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