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glowgirl
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 Posted - 06/22/2012 : 12:29:50
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i just got something so deep inside me that there is nothing wrong with me! other than OF COURSE my TMS!
Steve Ozanich's book really speaks to me. The Great Pain Deception. It is so thoughtful and informative. I am so "into it."
i realize that i got super depressed in 2008 when i had a sound injury to my ear which left me hypersensitive to sound (still am though not as much). This left me unable to go to parties, dinners, and i had to end my career. How horrible! Of course i am not having FUN! and to make matters worse my dear friend did this to me after i asked him to be more careful. and even though i have forgiven him it's changed my life.
i get ear pain when sounds are too loud and also there is always the risk of a "setback" if i am exposed to sounds that are too loud. Plus ringing in my ears.
Now i have hip pain, butt pain, you name it pain.
I just cancelled a long awaited dr's appointment with a specialist because i really know there is nothing wrong with me beyond the simple fact that SteveO says when he says "You are not having enough fun when you are having TMS - so speed things up or slow them down." This book has really reached me so deeply. Thank you Steve.
I don't know how it's all going to work out but I feel really good about cancelling.
ps my husband is an MD and he says he doesn't think there is anything wrong either though it has been hard for him to watch me suffer. of course he is a workaholic who travels extensively so we are both working through our issues through the TMS lens as of recent most sincerely... they just show up in different ways. Fortunately we love each other very much and are now really committed to anti-TMS.
SteveO's book really reaches me. I've been reading it to my partner. The other book we've been digging (doing) is The Presence Process by Micheal Brown.
thanks for this board. it's a long road, and i am taking such little tiny baby steps sometimes, it seems.
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Scottydog
United Kingdom
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Posted - 06/23/2012 : 02:58:15
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I agree fully that having fun could be an important part of a TMS free life.
TMSers often have a strong sense of duty and a, possibly, over-developed consideration for others. So having fun, which can seem self-centred doesn't come naturally. We beat ourselves up over what we 'should' be doing and feel guilty when we don't do it.
Ime it requires deliberate steps to find the 'fun' in your life, also a change in attitude so that when you are doing something you like you make a point of looking forward to it and feeling the cheerful anticipation and push the 'what I should be doing' to the back of your mind.
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SteveO
USA
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Posted - 06/25/2012 : 15:30:39
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Did you read where I listed the pieces of information I got out of each of Dr. Sarno's books that helped me to heal? It's at the very end of my book.
HBP had the most healing info for me. But I got one piece of information out of MBP that gave me another ah ha moment. It was when he mentioned the rage to soothe ratio. Indeed, the man has brilliant insight.
Tension levels can be fairly normal given a certain lifestyle with all of its demands, but if there is no counter soothing to lower the effect of tension, then the tension runs rampant. It stems from losing some of the joy in life from the simple things that we once marveled at.
Healing takes time glowgirl. Heal in YOUR time, not anyone else's. I suggest trying to feel productive again. Get that spark back in your belly that fires you to face the new day with goals and purpose driving you.
Steve
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drh7900
USA
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Posted - 06/26/2012 : 13:11:39
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I like that quote, "You are not having enough fun when you are having TMS - so speed things up or slow them down."
I've been doing my best to have more fun. I have played a couple of games of racquetball...I've gone bowling...unfortunately these things are spread out too far...I need to find more fun for my life.
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SteveO
USA
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Posted - 06/26/2012 : 13:54:54
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Hi Dustin, how you feeling?
One of the problems with TMS is that people lose the joy and fun in their lives. Life becomes too serious and mundane and predictable. They forget how to have fun or they think they don't have time. It helps to return to silliness and to discover the freedom of being a child again--but this time without worries. But to do this is to relinquish some control which the Type T dare not do.
Joy generates the highest frequency since it encompasses both love and appreciation. If people can learn to appreciate what they already possess they can free themselves from the burden of want. It is the cravings that cripple, not the moment.
Stop trying to heal..and heal.
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glowgirl
USA
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Posted - 06/28/2012 : 13:19:00
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thanks, SteveO for all your input.
Today marks the day I would have gone to the new specialist.
Cancelled THAT!
I do need to be productive again, the hyperacusis and all this other stuff really has knocked me for a loop and i am finally started to understand it.
Because on some level it is so hard to understand why one's own mind would be so self-defeating, isn't it?
but apparently, our programming can go haywire.
I am going to start looking for ways to have more fun and productivity in my life. my TMS definitely wound up in procrastination (freezing)- depression - hopelessness. Yikes. And if you saw me or knew me... i deserve way better than this! |
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drh7900
USA
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Posted - 07/07/2012 : 11:08:35
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Hey, SteveO, still doing rather decent. I am still struggling to stop monitoring my pain. I have had some additional stresses in my life in the last 2 weeks that have been cause for me to "actively suppress" some strong emotions. Unfortunately, it's been a little bit of a rough couple of weeks, but I anticipate the next couple f weeks to e different. The good news is that when those bad flare-ups hit, I know what's going on and I have been able to get most of the pain to subside within a minute or so. I did go bowling for about 1.5 hours on Thursday and had a blast. I do love enjoying my life again, but indeed to find more frequent fun :-)
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not having enough fun! (thanks, SteveO)
