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Beckie
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 Posted - 08/16/2010 : 04:07:19
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| Hi everyone I really need your help and advice. 2 weeks ago I fell over my dog and fractured my left leg I understand it is a bad fracture and I have joined the 1% club I had an operation and have a plate 8 screws and a bone graft. I had been doing really well with the TMS for my back pain and had been working through Howard Schubiner book unlearn your pain I really thought I was getting somewhere. Now I am petrified that once I start PT to learn to walk again my back will all start up again I had a spinal fusion last year. I am not allowed to put any weight on my leg for 8 weeks and am told it could take up to a year or more to walk properly my life has been turned upside down I am having to stay with my daughter and have a bed in her livingroom with a commode it is just a nightmare. I dont seem to be able to move on I am really angry that this has happened to me and only see years of pain ahead of me it doesnt help lying around on my own all day with just my thoughts. I was getting on so well for the first time in years. I keep reliving the accident and going over and over what will happen to me. I dont know if I am still in shock but somehow I need to move on and really need some encouragement advice and help . . . thats where you come in! Please help get me on the right road again I have really lost my way and feel more and more depressed as the days go on. |
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Darko
Australia
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Posted - 08/16/2010 : 06:32:04
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Hi Beckie,
I will offer you some advice......be warned some of it may be a little on the harsh side. I truly do want to help you, and you will get loads of comments here with many suggestions, but at the end of it you will need to take some MENTAL action!
1- WHY the hell do you keep going over the accident!????!!!!???? WHAT purpose does this serve? Does it help you in ANY WAY??? Did you know that the mind doesn't know the difference between what actually happens and what you think about......so you keep punishing yourself with this pointless action. Stop it now! This alone is creating so much stress and negativity in your body
2- I'm afraid you're just going to have to open your arms up to your current life situation and really truly ACCEPT it! Resistance is going to do ZERO for you.....well actually it will do something for you and that's make your life much worse than it needs to be. So you choose :-) Acceptance is a major key to life!
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I am really angry that this has happened to me and only see years of pain ahead of me
I'm sure you're clever enough to know this is not going to do you any good. Change what you see in you mind and if the mind starts dribbling c**p to you say the magic words "thanks for sharing" and don't buy into the drama.
4- Anger turned inwards leads to depression......perhaps it might serve you better to write about it and really FEEL the feelings and get them out of the system, then change the way you think so as to not pump more negative emotion into the body. Change what you think about and see in your mind!
5- You could take this as an opportunity to get to know your daughter better, learn a new skill, self-development, meditate. LOOK, it is what it is, so why not make the best of it, you have a great opportunity here!?
6- Be confident and know that when you do the inner work you will be pain free, do not focus on the pain or fear it......you will only attract it.
Get in front of the mirror and give yourself a really good talking to, then set some goals.....ones that make you uncomfortable. Set yourself a daily tasklist, even if it's just doing little things. Create new habits and feel good about yourself.
I understand you feel really bad at the moment, that's ok! I really do sympathise with you, but that's not going to help you. Understand your mind is just trying to protect you and it's all drama drama, so thank it for sharing and get control.
The universe gives you exactly what you need to learn, you can use this to grow spiritually and mentally or implode.
You can and will handle this fine, don't allow your mind to trick you into thinking you can't!
Good luck
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tennis tom
USA
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Posted - 08/16/2010 : 10:03:48
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Darko gives good advice. If I may add to it, now is a good opportunity and likely a necessity for you, to get some TMS psychotherapy for your depression. You can do this by phone. It may be covered by your insurance, your doctor may need to prescribe it.
There are lists of TMS therapists at the links here on the home page, the TMS wiki and tarpit yoga. If your insurance doesn't cover it, you may need to pay for it out of pocket but it would be money well spent. Depression is just as much a medical condition that needs treating as your broken limb. If it's any consolation, as mentioned in Dr. Sarno's books, bones heal relatively quickly and may be stronger than before.
Best wishes for a speedy recovery.
TAKE THE HOLMES-RAHE STRESS TEST
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Holmes_and_Rahe_stress_scale
Some of my favorite excerpts from _THE DIVIDED MIND_ :
http://www.tmshelp.com/forum/topic.asp?TOPIC_ID=2605
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Beckie
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Posted - 08/17/2010 : 01:00:37
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Thank you so much Darko all you said makes so much sense and its exactly what I needed dont consider it harsh at all. I read it last night and again this morning and have made a copy of all your comments. Today is a new day and as you say I need to accept my current situation and get some good out of it and I will. I actually feel more settled today because of your advice I will keep you posted on how I am doing.
Many thanks
Beckie
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Darko
Australia
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Posted - 08/17/2010 : 02:12:53
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That's great to hear Beckie!
I'm pleased to be able to help, just make a little note to yourself that you will on a regular basis fall of the rails and will need to have a talk to yourself.
I've created a display folder where I write down all the great inner game things I need to remind myself of constantly and make it a habit to look at it daily.
Helps me keep control over the mind
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Tibial Plateau Fracture
