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tcherie
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 Posted - 01/12/2010 : 09:57:51
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Ok, I am having a relapse. Fortunately its mild, but annoying nonetheless, and it gets me down. We all just want to feel good right?
I am discouraged by my relapse because I have accepted that it is TMS, so I thought I was passed it. So I am now confused about why I am going down this road again?
I knew it wasn't physical before the relapse happened, but it did. But I was starting to go through a period of stress (my busy season at work). I have been through this for the past 12 years. Why can't I handle it now.
So what is it that I need to do?
1. Is it just knowing that its TMS and waiting it out (saying to myself its just pain, who cares)?
2. Is it changing how I think and trying not to be anxious (saying to myself I am so happy to be at work and be this busy)?
3. Is it becoming a pleasure seeker and doing things that send positive endorphins through my system (I need to smile all the time or that means I am going to be in pain again)?
4. Is it changing my environment and removing things that make me upset and angry (self-explanatory)?
5. Is it all of the above, or some of the above.
Thanks. I am really serious about this because if this is going to be something that may happen time and time again, I need to find a healthy way of looking at it. |
Edited by - tcherie on 01/12/2010 13:38:26 |
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catspine
USA
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Posted - 01/12/2010 : 14:47:39
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Tcherie
First thing is you don't want this to grow out of proportion so it's good if you catch it early. Use waiting only to get the answers you can't find any other way.
Life is ups and downs.
Maybe you pushed your luck too far and left your symptoms free comfort zone.
If you've been pain free for a while try to identify the new entries in the data base of your emotions.
TMS is always looking for confusion and ways to creep in . It is part of you in a way until you can tame it back to where it is on sleep mode.
You seem to have answer built in your questions # 2-3-4
Be careful with #3: pleasure is essential to a balance life but you don't want it to become a form of repression of you emotions.
To eliminate the conflict which TMS often feeds on you need to do what YOU think is right.
Be patient understanding comes with time... |
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Judith Friedman
USA
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Posted - 01/12/2010 : 16:38:24
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| Tcherie: re #2, "trying not to be anxious" sounds like some dangerous repression of emotion. You can't stop being anxious by "trying". Acknowledge being busy is good for business but causes you real and very reasonable anxiety. Changing your thinking is great, but denying your emotions will sabotage you. I liked Monte's recent post on "being with" however you feel. |
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sarita
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Posted - 01/12/2010 : 17:09:38
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| "being with" is indeed an amazing way to relieve it...check out peter levine's "healing trauma" |
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tcherie
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Posted - 01/13/2010 : 13:45:24
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Thanks to all,
Judith, I am going to look at monte's post and see what "being with" is all about. |
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Confused - Knowing its TMS vs. relieving anxiety
