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johnaccardi
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 Posted - 12/01/2008 : 06:59:46
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Hi everyone,
I hope everyone had a great Thanksgiving.
I'm the guy with the speaking symptoms and dry mouth feelings. I fear speaking, and I especially fear certain words that I know will be hard to get out. I will completely avoid asking a question, for example, if the question contains a difficult word. I'm guessing this fear is similar to pain sufferers' physical movements. Anyway, I have doubts that this feeling and fear will never go away. I feel like everytime I speak face to face with someone, I will be thinking of how my mouth feels.
I also know that people forget about previous disabling symptoms quickly...I have. I just need reassurance that this will go away like the rest.
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johnaccardi
USA
182 Posts |
Posted - 12/01/2008 : 11:20:28
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| Also, so many people on this forum seem to be in a situation where they know about TMS, they are sure they have TMS, they are applying the work, but results aren't being seen. This gives me some doubt. |
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roxygirl577
USA
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Posted - 12/01/2008 : 16:07:19
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| It's different for everyone. Some might see results in a day, some take a lot longer, months, a year. but it has to do with how dedicated you are to getting better and how well you take to this new type of living. Many people expect results soon and that's why they don't see them. You have to tell yourself that you don't care when or if you see results, and just go on with your life, and soon your pain will subside, without you even noticing. |
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Dor
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Posted - 12/01/2008 : 17:34:51
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When you no longer need reassurance than you will know that it doesn't really matter anymore for you will have found the answers inside yourself not from without. Of course it will go away, as soon as you stop giving it so much of your attention. The fact that you won't say certain words or that you stop to think about the wording shows that it still worries you. Is that OK? Sure it is, because things take time. But, you are still very much focused on yourself. Try focusing on the person you are talking to, focus on the conversation, focus on what is going on around you. This need not be forced. John, it is not about questioning TMS or any other thing. It is about what works for you. Do I think it is anxiety related? For sure. But, you have to keep working towards what makes you feel better, safe, and secure. Labels are only that - labels, be they TMS, anxiety, or whatever. They all, in my opinion stem from the same theories. When you hit on the right answers for you, even a small nugget of truth, then you will be on your way. I am not suggesting that TMS is not the answer, only that you have to believe it. Belief John, that is what works. Does it really matter what that belief is as long as it sees us to a safer place? Maybe, just maybe, the place to start is belief in yourself!! You have come this far, you have learned a lot, you have not given up, you are still searching, you are still looking for answers. For goodness sake, believe in yourself. John has always been there. John has not left you. The only thing you have to do is believe it to be true.
I am always thinking of you, believing in you, and knowing that this is just a temporary lapse in your life on the way to doing great things. Pyschologist? Wow, you are going to be great!
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johnaccardi
USA
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Posted - 12/02/2008 : 06:43:57
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Thank you so much Dor, your responses always help so much.
I went on a trip to Greece for Thanksgiving and upon returning to school I have felt this sudden wave of dizziness and depression. I feel not quite myself and I actually feel a lot like I did last year at the lowest point of my life. I don't know why I feel this way, I've been journaling, I've been doing the work. It seems like an endless cycle. |
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johnaccardi
USA
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Posted - 12/02/2008 : 07:04:52
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| I got back from my flight on Sunday at 6 oclock. I just looked up the symptoms of jet lag and they seem to match what I'm feeling pretty good. Am I really feeling physically induced feelings of jet lag or is that what my brain wants me to think? I guess time will tell, but I certainly don't want to attribute this to the physical...at the same time the idea of this being TMS doesn't feel good. |
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winnieboo
USA
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Posted - 12/02/2008 : 09:47:39
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Hi John,
Just popped back in for a moment...It boils down to two things: you have to be convinced your symptoms are TMS or anxiety and then, you have to direct your attention away from the symptoms. Easier said than done. I am 100% pain free, totally back to normal. Find a therapist, John. Not only will it be good for you, but consider it a part of your own training to be a psychologist. Most shrinks go through their own therapy at some point during their education. If you need an excuse for your parents, there it is: Mom, Dad, it's part of my training...
TMSers are obsessive. They obsess about their symptoms. It's a way to cover up many layers of difficult emotions. When you start to understand those emotions in therapy, the symptoms will begin to dwindle as you stop obsessing. |
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Dor
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Posted - 12/02/2008 : 11:43:26
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John, I keep wondering if you are happy at your chosen school. Why this wave of dizziness and not feeling good when you got back there. Was it jet lag or not wanting to be there? It seems to me that all of this began when you went off to college. Is there a connection there? Are you following your dreams? Is this the right school for you? You have had roommate problems and felt cut off from people at times. Might be worth thinking about. Lots of kids change schools and direction - no biggie, just trying to find your way. Maybe you are in the right place and do forgive me if I am wrong, but I have to wonder why all of this started last year.
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Dor
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Posted - 12/02/2008 : 11:53:07
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Why doesn't the idea of it being TMS feel good? Does that make you weak and not strong (like maybe you think your dad is)? Are you supposed to live up to something you just can't?
You are circling and circling around all of these different physical feelings. I understand, I really do, but what is really bothering you? I think you know down deep inside.
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johnaccardi
USA
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Posted - 12/04/2008 : 07:05:52
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The dizzy symptoms are gone, it was simple jet lag. I didn't want it to be TMS because it was a terrible feeling and I didn't want to have to deal with it long. Also, I didn't want to see the imperative stepping in.
Dor, I think I'm happy at in this school. I'm working toward my dreams, I never think that this isn't what I want to be doing. For the most part I like the people here... the problems I have are within me. Thanks for the psychologist compliment, that feels good. |
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Dor
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Posted - 12/04/2008 : 11:13:16
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Good John, good! I am so glad to hear that you are happy at your school and following your dreams. Thinking as a mom, that would be one of the questions I ask my own boys - are you happy and are you happy where you are. It is good to know that you are confident with all of that.
I was also glad to hear that it was only jet lag and that you are feeling much better. Yeah!
Keep going John. I seriously mean it. People are going to need you some day in your chosen profession and you are going to be able to come at it with empathy and compassion. I often think that the hardest things in our lives turn out to be gifts. Maybe this is yours. What a gift it will be to you and your patients when you can look at things with understanding. I am really proud of you. I truly am.
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johnaccardi
USA
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Posted - 12/06/2008 : 10:19:19
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Thanks Dor,
I will keep going. I'm workin so hard on myself and my academics. I know everything is going to work out, I can feel it. I gaurantee someday I'll be helping people with TMS. I'm going to devote my life to this theory...it saved me. If I didn't find "The Divided Mind" I know I would have killed myself by now. I owe everything to it, and I want to save people like I was saved. |
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