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pandamonium
United Kingdom
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 Posted - 10/13/2008 : 03:58:56
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I know getting other people to buy into TMS can be hard and there's no point wasting time on some people but I wondered if there was a "set" of questions that you could ask a potential sufferer to see if they'd be receptive?
For instance I work with a guy who's had back pain for 3 years and am thinking about lending him Healing Back Pain. Another woman I know has suffered for years and when I told her about my experience of TMS she couldn't get past the "But I've got a slipped disc".
Obviously because I am a "helper" I'd like to help my colleague and because I am a perfectionist I want a 100% sucess rate 
So I was wondering if I could ask him for example:
a) would you say you repress your anger?
b) would you say you are a perfectionist?
c) would you say you are a people-pleaser?
And then if his answers are favourable I could lend him the book.
What sorts of questions would you ask?
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Effie
USA
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Posted - 10/13/2008 : 05:44:23
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I've thought about this, too, because I work for a couple of people who I am SURE have TMS. I know that before I was ready to accept that I had TMS, I would NOT have been receptive to anyone's telling me that I had TMS, so I have avoided saying anything to them. I have resolved that the next time the subject of MY health and how I'm doing now comes up in a conversation with them, I will share with them everything I know about TMS and Dr. Sarno in the context of how I got better, with no emphasis on the fact that THEY may be suffering from it. So that way, if they want to make the connection THEY can do it, not me. I think it's something each person suffering from it needs to discover and accept on their own.
I had thought about posting this same question, here, though -- has anyone tried telling friends and coworkers that they may have TMS? How did you attempt it and what were the results? |
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martyinbklyn
USA
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Posted - 10/13/2008 : 07:23:47
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| I've basically done what you suggested, which is, when someone I know tells me they're having back problems (or carpal tunnel, or think they're getting arthritis), I mention my experience, and offer to lend them the book if they're interested. I don't push TMS as the only possible cause for their pain, but offer it as a possibility. The reactions vary from: (i) people being insulted that I think their pain isn't real (I had one guy actually get angry because he'd had surgery, and he thought I was suggesting he hadn't needed it -- I don't know if he did or not, but I hadn't offered a thought on that point one way or the other); (ii) curious, but cautious about the idea that it wasn't an actual injury causing the pain; and (iii) excited that it might be the best explanation, since they hadn't done anything physical to bring on the pain. I've given away about a dozen copies of "Healing Back Pain", and have yet to have someone give it back to me without positive feedback. I think if you leave yourself open to people's reactions, whatever they might be, in the hope that your experience might help someone in pain, it's worth it, no matter what their reaction might be. |
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winnieboo
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Posted - 10/13/2008 : 08:11:24
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If a friend confides in me that they are suffering, I offer my experience. I've given the book to three people: one is pain-free after YEARS of neck and back pain (and that has been so exciting!), one is in psychotherapy and better, and the other is just reading the first pages of "Healing Back Pain."
I received one unfavorable response from a friend whose daughter suffers with a long list of aches and pains...I gave her the book and shared that I'd reached a point of being 95% pain free, 95% of the time, but she insisted that her daughter's pain is "real." That response is tough! For the longest time, it made me feel like I was a head case.
I've now learned to simply say "my pain is real, too. I have an injury too. However, that's not what causes my pain." That seems to give people pause.
In the end, each person has to be open, or ready to hear, or completely fed up, to be receptive, and that's ultimately out of our control, as helpful as we all want to be. |
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pandamonium
United Kingdom
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Posted - 10/13/2008 : 13:37:23
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Thanks everyone, it's good to know that you've all debated the best way to mention this to people as a possibility. I think I will tread carefully, don't want him thinking I am a nutter.
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hambone
USA
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Posted - 10/13/2008 : 13:47:38
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| Panda: The real "nutters" are the conventional doctors who refuse to be open to breakthroughs like Sarno's method. When the public ever learns of their wilful incompetence they will be enraged. It is really tricky to see someone in pain and know the cause but not be able to help them. |
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pandamonium
United Kingdom
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Posted - 10/13/2008 : 14:13:05
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I agree Hambone, it's tragic eh?
One breakthrough I have had is that one of my friends is a yoga teacher and a Reiki Master, I told her about my experiences with TMS and she believes in it, she is very openminded. When I saw her recently (having not seen her all year) she right away said I looked happier, more relaxed and less drawn, and she wanted to know how come? She's told me that when she comes across someone who fits the bill she will test the water and see if they want to meet me to have a chat. So hopefully the word will spread.
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Helping others with possible TMS
