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painintheneck
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 Posted - 01/16/2008 : 19:02:08
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fix the TMS when it's your home life that is the source of stress?
I don't have many options. I have too much to do here and can't get a break. I can't work outside the home till I can get better and I can't get better till I can get a break. I can't get away from all of it either because of the symptoms I deal with every day. It is important to get better but I don't know how any more when I beg for a break and no one here cares.
I had a good couple months of no pain and here it is from my head to my neck and down my shoulders. Burning and tight.
I know the rage and emotions doing it but I can't make them stop because I cant stop the source of the feelings. |
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justme
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Posted - 01/16/2008 : 23:57:31
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Good question. I have been dealing with same situation here. My problem is getting distance from a toxic person. My therapist told me it might be a good idea to practice healthy disassociation when this person is acting out. I am able to do that intellectually, but not so emotionally. The emotions and attendant physical body sensations creap in about a half hour after an encounter with this person.
I am thinking that perhaps a program of regular meditation might be in order. This gives your mind time out from both the source of stress and the symptoms - leaves the mind to wander to solutions you may never come up with in your rational mind.
Now only if I could commit to that myself.
Best,
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Wavy Soul
USA
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Posted - 01/17/2008 : 04:08:10
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Healthy dissociation - ha ha!
I hear you when you say how hard it is to commit to meditation. But try this: one minute bursts in which you relax, focus on your breathing and absolutely let go of everything and allow yourself to soar into another dimension that is LARGER than the home situation, but includes it. This way it's not really dissociation but transcendence. If you do a couple or few one minutes a day, it seems to work better than trying to sit and struggle with your mind for longer.
Another trick is to do this each time you go to the bathroom. It's something you do alone with door locked (hopefully - unless your home situation is SERIOUSLY toxic!), and several times a day.
hope this helps xx
Love is the answer, whatever the question |
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curingCFS
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Posted - 01/17/2008 : 06:21:31
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painintheneck,
The most useful workable thing I've found for emotions, and feeling stuck is The Sedona Method.
The book is dirt cheap to buy and likely your library may have it.
It is so simple, and so powerful and really has made a world of difference.
In fact lately I've been experimenting with any twinges, starting up of "stuff". I was gonna keep this to myself and then report to ya'll in a month if it works well for the tms start-ups.
But I could hear your frustration and wanted to send you what I found useful. The method takes minutes. If I wrote it down you would not get the benefit because it sounds so simplistic and stupid and can't work. But that is the same thing I thought of Sarno. And now I will never leave that information behind for the rest of my life either. The Sedona Method is truly a powerful magic wand!
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painintheneck
USA
124 Posts |
Posted - 01/17/2008 : 09:26:46
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| I'll check it out, thanks so much Linda! |
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painintheneck
USA
124 Posts |
Posted - 01/17/2008 : 09:28:51
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Justme,
I am working on getting back into regular meditation as part of my anxiety therapy. I used to do it regularly and while it took practice to be able to feel any benefit I remember looking foreward to the quiet time after a couple weeks. |
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scottjmurray
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Posted - 01/18/2008 : 13:08:53
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quote:
I know the rage and emotions doing it but I can't make them stop because I cant stop the source of the feelings.
Generally, you don't have to remove whatever it is you think is the source of your rage. Being able to stand up to your brain and see the truth is what destroys the process. You don't need to resolve any emotional problems to make TMS stop. You just have to stop playing into your brain's games.
Author of tms-recovery.com
A collection of articles on emotions, lifestyle changes, and TMS theory. |
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painintheneck
USA
124 Posts |
Posted - 01/18/2008 : 18:39:23
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Doesn't work that way for me scott.
I can be totally pain free and have to deal with garbage and it flares up. I do brain talk or journaling and I know the confrontation is causing the symptoms but I can't get it to stop. Knowing isn't fixing, it's not enough. |
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armchairlinguist
USA
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Posted - 01/18/2008 : 18:52:02
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It can be either way. It can be that some things have to be fixed because they are just too threatening to our mental health. But it's not impossible that the problem is that you are still emotionally involed enough by your reactions that they haven't stopped because they still work.
If small stuff is bugging you, it's more likely the latter. If it's big stuff, I'd think seriously about the former. Change is never easy, but it's sometimes needed.
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It's not 100% belief that's required, but 100% commitment. |
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painintheneck
USA
124 Posts |
Posted - 01/18/2008 : 21:21:40
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| The burning in the back of my head, cheeks on my face, back of neck and down the center of my back is back tonight. I haven't had this particular symptom for a good couple months.I have work to do but sometimes when I can't get a break from the stress it's so hard to just not have the hopeless feeling overtake the progress one could make. I'm mad at feeling helpless and I am trying to change things so I can get my independance back. |
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