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Scottydog
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Posted - 12/08/2005 : 13:37:42
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Hi folks,
When you think how important looks are to us, especially in our teens, we should expect to feel some suppressed rage for not being one of the lucky ones with nice features and a great figure.
anne
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Posted - 12/09/2005 : 02:07:01
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In my part of the world, Art - to call someone decent is a high compliment - it means honest and honourable - an all round good person. It's easy to forget that there are differences in how words are used in different areas of the English speaking world.
Having said that - I think you are on to something when you suggest that I might believe that deep down men like my husband and yourself don't really believe that a woman's worth is not measured by her chest measurement.
It's a case or my conscious brain accepts and believes it, but the subconscious does not. This is the first time that I have seriously thought about the real reasons why I opted for such serious surgery - at the time, I remember saying to my husband that there was evidence that psychologically women who have reconstructive surgery do better than those who don't.
It was the first question that I asked the anaesthetist on waking from the general anaesthetic, "Has she (the surgeon) done my reconstruction?' My thoughts were not on the removal of cancer - they were on my appearance. That says a lot about my true feelings, I think.
You know what I find disheartening about all this emphasis on appearance these days? It seems to getting worse all the time. (Can you believe this? The radio is on in the background right now - and there is a discussion going on, on whether it is ethical to give cosmetic surgery vouchers as Christmas gifts).
Men are falling into the trap as well. Time was that most men did not worry about their appearance nearly as much as women, but that is changing - cosmetic surgery is on the agenda of more and more men now as well.
I'm still glad I had that surgery, though, and if there are health problems in the future because of it, well , that's my own fault - I went into it knowing the risks.
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art
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Posted - 12/09/2005 : 17:17:45
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Hi Anne,
Actually, I would say "decent" means the same thing here, though that can change slightly depending on context. One might say, so and so is a "decent" musician, meaning he's average, or a cut above average, but not spectacular. But when used in a moral sense, so and so is a "decent" person, it means that he or she is a "good" person, with a "good" heart, and "good" values...
I agree with what you say about men and cosmetic surgery. There's an awful lot of pressure on both sexes to look good. In my mid-fifties now, I'm more aware of that than I used to be. In the last few years, I've noticed I've become pretty invisible to younger females..Even though I'm not single, this is a painful thing I've found..I used to really enjoy going into a store say, and getting a nice smile from the gal behind the cash register...I can only imagine how it must be to women of a comparable age...Looks are so over-valued in our society, and for most of us it's a struggle to accept the inevitable changes that come with the advancing years...No wonder so many people, men and women both, opt for surgery... |
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holly
USA
243 Posts |
Posted - 12/13/2005 : 16:31:09
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So I would like all of your opinions on whether I should be out and open about my implant removal or buy a padded bra(which I will anyway) and keep my mouth shut. I feel equal each way to go on this but must pick one. I would love your opinions on this! It's a tough call! (I went from an A cup to a D cup by the way) |
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art
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Posted - 12/14/2005 : 15:15:17
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Hi Holly,
I don't think I'm of much used to you on this question. It's such a personal thing.
Since you had such a big change to begin with, people must have noticed and presumably you were comfortable with that.
Since I'm a pretty private person, I wouldn't tell anyone anything unless they asked. Even then my answers might vary depending on who was doing the asking...
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almost there
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Posted - 12/14/2005 : 18:41:16
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Holly, I probably would say nothing and wear the padded bra...at least for the immediate time being....give yourself a break....you have been through enough for right now....you don't owe anyone anything....really.....you don't have to be explaining to every Tom, Dick and Harry what's what with you....there will be plenty of time later to send your message....should you chose to do so! I applaud you for having your implants removed...this could not have been an easy decision....regardless of the discomfort you were experiencing....I think you have done the right thing....this is your life, your health and your quality of life we're talking about! Be good to yourself....be well! |
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holly
USA
243 Posts |
Posted - 12/17/2005 : 07:58:36
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I didn't get the surgery done yet.( sorry if I made it seem that way) I will be doing it in March. That is my plan. I am very scared as it is big surgery and it absorbs much of my time as far as thinking and researching about it etc. I am bummed that I even have to deal with this!! It us always lurking there in my mind!! |
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holly
USA
243 Posts |
Posted - 12/21/2005 : 20:25:03
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I saw a professiional in NYC and she advised me that I would come out all deformed looking if I removed my implants so i am not doing anything since I am not sick (right now) from them. I did however post on that site about this forum as I think 50% of the people there just might belong here!! Happy Holidays All! |
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Candy
Canada
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Posted - 01/11/2006 : 16:32:52
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Hi my name is Candy i have had my breast implants for 15 yrs and was involved in an auto accident , couseing them to rupture due to the shoulder restraint .. im am looking for any information i can find regarding this type of injury and with what frequency this occurs as i can not find any info in my area , any replies would be greatly wellcomed . |
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elise8
USA
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Posted - 01/13/2006 : 10:35:16
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If you know they have ruptured, as it seems they have since you were in a car wreck, then I say have them removed. I have posted in this thread and mentioned a web site to go to if you have questions about removal. My sister in law was just in a car wreck. I did not know she had implants. I just found out. She is having them removed ASAP as the shoulder strap also ruptured hers. I also had a friend who had hers removed because of rupture. She is very happy now with no implants. She has been detoxing for a year becaUse after the rupture the silicone migrated all over her body causing severe symptoms. Ruptured implants need to be taken out, do not let anyone tell you otherwise. Also not all ruptures show up on mammograms. An ultrasound can be more diagnostic or if you notice the shape has changed or any pain. Take care Elise
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holly
USA
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Posted - 01/16/2006 : 17:50:29
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Candy, Check out www.explantation.com. I actually found out about it from here! But I warn you you (like I) are not going to like the reality of what you read. I worry every time I go to that site but i know they are right! Let me know what you think. |
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