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amybcw
USA
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 Posted - 06/26/2005 : 13:37:40
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I am a fairly new member and find this forum very interesting and helpful. My story is similar to many others; have had pain for about 4 years, been to many doctors and alternative medicine people.My last diagnosis was "loose liagaments" and I had prolotherapy which helped after a couple treatments and then back to square one with terrible back pain. Anyway my doctor told me to get Sarno's book and BINGO!!! After learning that it is TMD my back pain has switched to back, leg and butt pain. I know this is common with TMS for the pain to move around. I am exercising again; running, lifting, etc. Have no problem doing physical activity. My issues are the fact that it is emotional. I'm frightened and anxious, obscessed with this whole TMS thing and it's making me feel STRANGE and all ALONE. Also feel like I'm never going to conquer the fear hurdle. I'm afraid the pain will never end! I'm actually more anxious since knowing I have TMS!
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marytabby
USA
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Posted - 06/26/2005 : 13:44:07
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| Sure, instead of feeling all alone, try to think how good it must be for you that you are not "one of the rest". Meaning that you are not going through your life with THAT pain anymore and that you are not falsely going from doctor to doctor trying to find a cure. You are already on your way now that the pain is moving around. It's moving because it knows you are on to it. Your brain is looking for another hidng spot. Happens all the time and believe me when I say, it's PROGRESS. NOw you just have to do a little more work in terms of the way you continue to make progress. Do the reading, tell your brain you're not going to take it, that you KNOW what it's doing, that it's trying to keep subconscious emotional issues hidden and that whether or not you get to the bottom of what it is or not, you WILL NOT tolerate the pain, as it's just a sham. Knowing why the pain is there is the name of the game, not always knowing what the emotional source is. It may come, it may not, because it could be LOTS of stuff. Just know you are in the right place, which is HERE! |
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nora
Canada
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Posted - 06/26/2005 : 13:52:15
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Hi,
WOW! Can I relate. Like you, I am also new to this TMS thing. I find myself obsessing and worrying about every little new pain that comes along. I think for personality types like ours, distraction can be of help. Seems to work for me, but it is tough. Glad to hear that you are exercising. This is something that I am having a tough time getting back into. I think as you gain confidence that your body will not fall apart, it will be easier to deal with these obsessive thoughts, and the pain will actually diminish.
Good-luck |
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Posted - 06/26/2005 : 14:08:37
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Hi Amybcw
You sound as though you are experiencing what I did around eighteen months ago - alone, strange and most of all scared. You will conquer the fear hurdle - you recognise that is what will sort things out for you.
I know what you mean about being obsessed with TMS - it dominated my life for a time. I couldn't concentrate on anything else - I became extremely self-centred.
One thing I did to overcome the fear was read widely on anxiety conditions. They did not deal with TMS, but I found attacking the condition from two fronts worked for me. My favourites were 'Taming Your Gremlin' by Rick Carson;
'Hope and Help for Your Nerves' by Dr Claire Weekes and 'Full Catastrophe Living' by Jon Kabut-Zinn. Quite a few people who post here have found these helpful; and there are many other good tried and tested books out there as well.
I should say that wide reading is not something that everyone here has wanted or needed to do, but I think, what the heck - if you're obsessing anyway, might as well put that obsession to good use.
The fear left me gradually, with set-backs along the way, but leave it did. If you do fancy having a look at any of those books, I'd go for the Rick Carson first; it's light hearted and humorous (I know it seems strange - a book about anxiety that is quite funny, but it works).
It's interesting that your doctor was the one who told you about Dr Sarno. Did you suspect that your problem was emotional in origin and he picked up on that from the things you were saying to her/him?
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Bonnie
Canada
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Posted - 06/27/2005 : 10:12:16
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Hi Amybcw, I'm fairly new here too, I was diagnosed with Fibromyalgia and Joint Hypermolity syndrome many years ago and I've been coping with the pain and hassle every since. I can totally empathize with what you're feeling. I found myself obsessing about every little twinge and yelling stop every time I turned around, searching frantically for whatever emotion had managed to slip through my net. I started feeling like one of those rats on a treadmill, very much like I had with the pain, obsessing about what to do and who to see and what to eat and supplements and all of that stuff. I had to let go of the stuff and keep using one of the positive affirmations I got from reading Louise Hay. "All is well, everything is working out for my highest good, out of this situation only good will come, I am safe."
I've taped the affirmations and I listen to them when I walk in the morning. It gives my whole day a boost.
This is a wonderful forum, I've been on others and people there seemed to wallow in what was happening to them, I wanted something positive, something where everyone was trying to get better or find positive ways to cope. I think I've found it.
Keep doing the program, it works. And yes it's lonely and I've found I have to be careful who I talk to about it, I've only mentioned what I'm doing to two people in my family, people I thought would be supportive. I found it's very easy to get knocked off course, even by reading some of the negative posts. Right now it's too new, it hasn't settled in for me solidly and I have to be very careful not to start second guessing myself.
I have a hard time getting my mind out of the way and allowing my body to take over and do what it knows how to do, heal. Some days I'm my own worst enemy. But coming here helps a lot to keep me gounded and on track.
I agree with the others who answered your post. Stay positive, I think most of us intuitively knew when we read the book that this was right, trust your intuition.
Bonnie |
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