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Posted - 10/03/2019 :  17:00:40  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
Ok here we go - So basically I had a 1 night thing with this girl that I have some history with. I have always "wanted" her, we hadnt talked in a year, and in the past we had sex once or twice and both times it was a mess because I had performance issues (theres more to that story but it doesnt matter).

Then a few weeks ago after not talking for a year we ended up in bed one night and were banging, but i was pretty inebriated and she was being annoying TBH so I couldnt cum. I kept going harder and harder and suddenly felt an extremely sharp "tearing" pain under my leg, in the thigh area close to the groin. I stopped and gave up, frustrated.

I woke up and the next day had an "inflammed" and throbbing pain in my left testicle area, or right near it. Ignored it for a week or so but it didnt go away, saw PCP and a urologist, they said they arent sure but looks like maybe an inflammed prostate?? Put me on advil and antibiotics in case it was an infection.

Their prognonsis didnt even make sense to me. To me it felt like a muscle tear/sprain. The pain sort of feels like my left nut is burning and then also occassionally being clamped in a vice. It comes and goes. I have only had sex a couple times since then, and each time it made the pain worse, so I have been unable to have the sex I want (different girl).

This is INCREDIBLY frustrating, as this is anew girl I am dating who is 15 years younger than me and i really like her, and I feel like a ****ing loser that cant bang his own chick. She hasnt had issues with it (vocally anyways), but Im beating myself up about it. On top of all this, my left leg (IT band) has also been completely ****ed in the last couple weeks. Its tight and has severe shooting pains down my leg to my foot all damn day long.

Im a wreck. I am starting to lose my ****. I dont know what is TMS and what isnt. Im PRETTY sure the IT band is, but then a small part of my brain says thats a tight hip which gets worse when I have sex (it does). And part of me wonders about the groin but another part is like, "hey you WERE banging REALLY hard while drunk for like 20 goddamn minutes, you tore something, take it easy."

I dont know what to do but I need your help. Thanks

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Posted - 10/03/2019 :  22:05:24  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
Sorry to hear about your pain, TMS can manifest itself in many forms, you may want to also copy your post over at the TMS Wiki for more opinions.




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Posted - 10/04/2019 :  07:58:41  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
"There's more to that story but it doesn't matter" -- it probably does. You had performance issues before for some emotional reason and that's worth facing and exploring within. The process just hasn't been broken, and pile on the frustration, anger, shame, whatever and you get a double whammy.

You've got this woman or the experience or whatever outcome you're seeking on a pedestal and are making it "too important" in your mind, and you're insecure about impressing her or whatever you want from her, the PRESSURE you are putting on yourself is causing these physical reactions. PRESSURE angers the unconscious.

Work on reducing the importance you're putting on the whole thing. Convince yourself it's not a big deal and getting to a place where you're relaxed and outcome independent, that's the only way to undo the PRESSURE COOKER. As for the pain/symptoms, you MUST believe and accept this is a TMS process and not an injury or infection, and proceed to ignore it like you would an irritating child.

To deal with your own insecurities, I recommend the audiobook for Psychocybernetics, you can find it free on Youtube.
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tennis tom

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Posted - 10/04/2019 :  09:13:57  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
Great TMS post Summabody!
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