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Hilary
United Kingdom
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 Posted - 10/10/2005 : 12:23:27
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Originally posted by exRSied
Opportunities. I have a fear of missed opportunities. I'm only 21 and I desperatedly fear not making the right desicions when that once in a lifetime "opportunity" comes.
So, what you're saying is that one of your beliefs is that "it is possible to 'make the right decision'".
Is that true? Are you absolutely sure it is true? Is it really possible to make the right decision? (and what does 'making the right decision' mean? people make decisions all the time today about things that they make other decisions about tomorrow. What the heck does 'making the right decision' mean anyway?
How do you feel when you think that thought (stressed? terrified? frozen with fear about making any decisions at all?)
Who would you be without that thought? (try to feel yourself as you would be without that thought. How does it feel?)
Read Byron Katie's book, she explains it much better than I can. I will, however, say that from the vantage point of my 37 years, there is no such thing as a 'once in a lifetime opportunity'. The sooner you rid yourself of that particular myth, the happier you will be. Opportunities come along like buses: life events just bring them along, and for the most part they are virtually impossible to miss. (What is "an opportunity", anyway? I've never once in my life done something that started with me thinking to myself, "what a great opportunity! I musn't miss this!"
By the way, I don't believe that life is suffering: I believe that we suffer when we argue with what's actually going on (reality), so when you accept reality you will alleviate your suffering!
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