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Screensize: 640 x 480 800 x 600 1024 x 768 1280 x 1024 UserName: Password: Format Mode: Basic  Help  Prompt  Format: Font Andale Mono Arial Arial Black Book Antiqua Century Gothic Comic Sans MS Courier New Georgia Impact Lucida Console Script MT Bold Stencil Tahoma Times New Roman Trebuchet MS Verdana   Size 1 2 3 4 5 6   Color Black Red Yellow Pink Green Orange Purple Blue Beige Brown Teal Navy Maroon LimeGreen Message: * HTML is OFF * Forum Code is ON Smilies [quote][i]Originally posted by Northerner[/i] [br]Six weeks or so ago, I changed cars after driving the same model car for 20 years, and when I got into it, my upper back felt uncomfortable and it was hard to breathe. Don’t worry – no heart attack – this has happened in years past now and then from what a physical therapist calls says is my ribs getting locked up. I can exercise freely, and exercise, which often makes the problem go away for a while. Sometimes I have some pain, but it is rarely excruciating. A physical therapist looked at the car, said it was too short for me and would never fit me, so I gave the car (which my parents gave to me) to my wife and started driving her car. I was fine when driving her car, but we knew it was also on its last legs, so I bought a new car for me that has much higher clearance and sight lines. Both cars have a lumbar support which seems to bother me, forcing me into a position that is uncomfortable. I am also now uncomfortable in my office chair. I can get the lumbar support removed, which would flatten the car seat to something similar to my old car, but am thinking that this is a recurrence of TMS. I’ve been dealing for almost the last two years with something irresolvable. My teenage daughter died in an accident in 2011. To make things worse, a month later, our whole area got hit by a major flood (one neighbor said that I must feel like I was going through the Book of Job, and as we were looking at a cavity that used to be a road, another neighbor said, “I’m not sure how you’re even functioning.” The flood and my daughter are all connected in my mind in one long, agonizing event. Over time, we’ve mostly recovered our property and town from the flood, but there is no recovery possible from the loss of my daughter. It is much worse than anyone who hasn’t been through it can imagine. Emotional states range from rage to trying to fix everything (called hypervigilance officially – an extreme perfectionism) to inability to concentrate to a feeling that somehow my life and my family’s life is now simply wrong. I could go on and on, but I’m still in a state of being overwhelmed by all of this. I’m mostly functional as far as work goes (I was enraged because I had to continue to work through all of this – there weren’t any breaks). Overall, the state is hard to describe, other than feeling deep loss, confusion, and countless other wild emotions. A friend who went through this told me it was three years before he could really work again; another who was retired when he lost his son told me he simply sat there for the first year, staring at the walls. I’m normally very physically active, but have cut back on my exercise, in part because I was trying to fix everything and in part because I was simply exhausted. I still exercise in some way almost every day, but not as vigorously or as long as I once did. I’ve spent a lot more time slumped in my office chair, staring at the computer, a habit I’m trying to get away from. I’m going back to journaling, and writing to my daughter (something I’ve done periodically since she died). I’ve also started reading the TMS books and watching the videos again. I’m just wondering if anyone else has been through some extreme type of emotional trauma, and had TMS come from it or had TMS return, and how you have dealt with it. [/quote]   Check here to include your profile signature.