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| GTfan |
Posted - 05/22/2013 : 06:44:38
Well, as I had this second wave of groin pain come over me last week I started to really review Sarno's 12 reminders and the great list of material that Ace put together on this site.
As I started to really analyze my feelings in every situation, I realized how rushed I am at doing everything. I had never really thought about it before.
I rush to get to work, rush to finish eating, rush to get home. Unbelieveable how much pressure I put on myself to get to future events instead of just living in the present and enjoying it. I feel like this is contributing heavily to my TMS.
You’ll fall down, you stumble, you land square on your face. And every time that happens, you get back on your feet. You get up just as fast as you can, no matter how many times you need to do it |
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| plum |
Posted - 05/23/2013 : 05:37:26
icelikeaninja,
Here in the UK (and probably elsewhere, no doubt), people joke that men can't multi-task. Your comments reminded me of this joke:
Who says men can't multi-task?
They can masturbate, watch porn and keep an eye on the door.
In all seriousness though, rushing is a huge contributor, if not the big gun, behind tms. I've taken four of Ace1's Keys which highlight this beautifully. You really need to treat the Keys as a whole but for the purpose of this thread, here are 4 gems.
8. The problem is really a mental strain (mentally excited, hyped up, on edge, or uneased feeling) related to a perceived stressful situation that is then manifested into a physical strain/bracing/constriction in usually one part of your body which leads to symptoms. It becomes somewhat a type of automatic HABIT and mode that you go into as a conditioned reaction. IT BECOMES A HABITUAL STRAIN that you don't see any more. The primary problem is the mental strain but the physical strain plays a role too. Therefore your goal is to be at peace with everything and do things with ease. If you begin to get the start of a symptom, don't strain into it more or try to force the affected area to function (it’s hard for me to fully explain this, but you should be able to understand). Accept the symptoms and work on the mental strain and conditioning. You will think that the way you react/feel is normal (and that you are not in a hyped up mode) because it is so habitual, but if you have symptoms, it is there. Also, it is your goal to prevent the strain or reaction/mode in the first place, because after you strain the resultant pain/symptoms do linger for a bit before they dissipate even if you try to relax.
14. One of the biggest sources of tension and strain is being in a rush or wanting to be somewhere other than where you are right now. It’s not being fast per se, but the strain that can be associated with it. Another way to look at this is one is always projecting themselves into the future or pushing their body even past its limit as if one can make it go faster, which one can't. You for example may want to get to work so intensely, that anything that gets in your way will cause a conflict and thus pain, be aware of this and work on this. I also believe that the symptoms make the person want to rush more because when someone is in pain or uncomfortable, they just want to get tasks of daily living just "over with". I think this somehow intensifies the strain and illness and makes symptoms present almost all day, with every task present in life. Also a lot of times there is a feeling to escape the symptoms themselves and that somehow perpetuates them too. When someone has symptoms and they can't figure out what’s bothering them, it is usually the need to be in a rush, to escape, or to just want to get a task just out of the way. Another one is the feeling that one should be doing something more productive than what they are doing right now. See if you can recognize these feelings when they happen and try to resolve them by not going with them, acting the opposite, and using the affirmations. One very good way to recognize this is by asking - AM I OK BEING IN THIS SITUATION I AM IN RIGHT NOW? The recognition in its self helps relax these rush feelings and helps you direct your mind power techniques. Recognition is VERY helpful.
15. The URGE to just be finished with something or to want to get somewhere quickly so bad is I think equivalent to the pain/symptom, but it has just become dissociated from its original meaning, which why it is just pain/symptom. (This is along the same lines of what is said in #14). Another way to think about this is you have made (conditioned) yourself to be uncomfortable in almost every situation and the urge is to escape. Try not to reinforce this urge by going with it. Act as if you have nowhere to go. You have to just sit in these situations and make yourself comfortable again to get better. It is also helpful to recognize and put your attention on this urge/strain if you can find it and try to bring back its meaning to it. Then use an affirmation in the background of this.
16. Along the lines of what is stated in #14 and #15, when in a rush to get something over with, we tend to hold our breath until whatever is completed so we feel we can breathe again. The lack of breath tends to accentuate the physical strain we talked about earlier. Therefore, when having symptoms, or when you get into a hyped up mode, it may be helpful to encourage continuous breathing without pausing. Also don't valsalva or bear down when put in a sensitized situation. |
| icelikeaninja |
Posted - 05/22/2013 : 22:15:44
Gail,
I thought this was true in changing all aspects of my life.
What was interesting was my tms came about my future ex wife moving in. Deep down I knew it was a mistake to let her move in let alone marry her 4 years later.
I think Tms was my body saying "ditch the B9tch" but I really dont blame her for everything, I just think she was a trigger for what was going to happen either way.
Seriously I am not living the life I should be and I think that is the reason why. As tms personalities we are just content on saying "yes" and helping people before we help ourselves. We constantly second guess if we have made the right decison and when we figure it out. Boom it manifests somewhere in our body. |
| gailnyc |
Posted - 05/22/2013 : 18:41:02
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Originally posted by bryan3000
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Originally posted by icelikeaninja
Sorry to take over this thread just gave me good insight. I conciously love the feeling of the rush but maybe sonewhere deep i am enraged at this
Maybe, but just my opinion... I wouldn't get too wrapped up in deep, subconscious "maybe's." First off, you'll never know what's really happening deep in the subconscious and second... creating worry and fear about what's happening down there seems to just add another layer of complication and fear, to me.
I know what you mean about enjoying the rush of stress, being busy. I used to thrive on it... until I had a total breakdown. I prided myself on being able to thrive in environments where others panicked. Working long hours. Being in 5th gear all the time. But, our bodies weren't built for that all the time.
A simpler way to look at it than mucking with deep hidden emotions is... to be in the high-alert, multi-tasking state... your body is forced to produce high levels of stress chemistry.
It's the same thing your body does when you don't sleep enough. It increases it's cortisol level to keep you functioning. Well, at a certain point... this taxes your system because the body wasn't designed to stay at that level. So, it's going to let you know one way or another... in my case starting with small pains, then big ones, then total collapse.
Balto and Ace of posted a lot of great info on this topic around here. I suggest having a dig through the archives and checking it out.
Bryan and ice--I can totally relate. I used to LOVE the feeling of the rush. As I look back on it, I think I was addicted to adrenaline.
But then I had a breakdown--I like to say I had a nervous breakdown in my foot. All the stress, all the pain, all the anxiety ended up there.
Sarno said you don't have to change, just acknowledge. I have found this not to be true for myself. Maybe the healing process is different for different people, I don't know. But I have been working on FEELING my emotions more and cutting down on my anxiety response and that's what's helped me.
Gail |
| bryan3000 |
Posted - 05/22/2013 : 11:58:21
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Originally posted by icelikeaninja
Sorry to take over this thread just gave me good insight. I conciously love the feeling of the rush but maybe sonewhere deep i am enraged at this
Maybe, but just my opinion... I wouldn't get too wrapped up in deep, subconscious "maybe's." First off, you'll never know what's really happening deep in the subconscious and second... creating worry and fear about what's happening down there seems to just add another layer of complication and fear, to me.
I know what you mean about enjoying the rush of stress, being busy. I used to thrive on it... until I had a total breakdown. I prided myself on being able to thrive in environments where others panicked. Working long hours. Being in 5th gear all the time. But, our bodies weren't built for that all the time.
A simpler way to look at it than mucking with deep hidden emotions is... to be in the high-alert, multi-tasking state... your body is forced to produce high levels of stress chemistry.
It's the same thing your body does when you don't sleep enough. It increases it's cortisol level to keep you functioning. Well, at a certain point... this taxes your system because the body wasn't designed to stay at that level. So, it's going to let you know one way or another... in my case starting with small pains, then big ones, then total collapse.
Balto and Ace of posted a lot of great info on this topic around here. I suggest having a dig through the archives and checking it out.
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| icelikeaninja |
Posted - 05/22/2013 : 11:04:51
Sorry to take over this thread just gave me good insight. I conciously love the feeling of the rush but maybe sonewhere deep i am enraged at this |
| bryan3000 |
Posted - 05/22/2013 : 10:51:43
Ice,
Being efficient and organized enough to be productive is a good thing, no doubt.
But, being rushed is more of an attitude. It's the feeling and intent behind what we are doing. It's a subtle nuance, but I'm pretty sure two people can do the exact same thing and one can feel very rushed and pressured, while the other one doesn't.
Sarno may not make specific mention of it, but almost all other treatment modalities do.
It's almost universally considered to be detrimental, as I understand it. |
| icelikeaninja |
Posted - 05/22/2013 : 10:45:51
Really? I thought it was excellent to multi task etc. i did not know this contributed. I thought as long as i new i was a perfectionist goodist i wouldnt ha e change? |
| bryan3000 |
Posted - 05/22/2013 : 09:45:00
quote:
Originally posted by icelikeaninja
Really? Rushing contributes to this? I never live in the moment and i thought nothing was wrong w that.
So this co.trbutes to tms?
TMS=anxiety.
Pretty much every major mind/body healing philosophy in the world includes learning how to be in the moment and accept where you are. Check out the thread "Ace's keys to healing" as he uses being strained as a major tenant of his healing outline.
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| icelikeaninja |
Posted - 05/22/2013 : 09:31:51
Really? Rushing contributes to this? I never live in the moment and i thought nothing was wrong w that.
So this co.trbutes to tms? |
| Ace1 |
Posted - 05/22/2013 : 06:59:15
Thanks for the compliment gt fan. Yes this is the major cause of tms. Until you learn to "live again" by letting things take the time and patience that they need, the tms will continue. It really takes a lot of practice but if you keep at it you will get better with time. |
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