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| Sylvia |
Posted - 03/31/2013 : 09:31:57
In a survey of 104 of my TMS patients I found that the perfect-good drive was either the predominant factor, or a very significant factor in 94 percent of the cases. Based on life history, I found that:
31.5 % of the patients studied, the perfect-good tendency was the primary contributor to the TMS rage, and that childhood abuse and life pressures were less important.
36.5 % of the cases the perfect-good drive and life pressures appeared to be equally significant contributors.
17% the perfect=good drive and childhood abuse were the most important.
8%, all three factors were equally important.
3.5% child abuse was the primary contributer.
2.5% life pressures were the most important contributer.
Page 103 Divided Mind.
Doesn't this tell us where most to focus our time and efforts? I think if one has horrendous child abuse then focus on that.
This to me is so much about personality. So now what?
Give it to me in purist Sarno language please, no derivitives, or slants.  |
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| Ace1 |
Posted - 03/31/2013 : 13:41:31
You see I think Bryan really understands and he mentions that this is slow going. This is what I feel is the right track for most of the difficult cases. At one point you'll know what you have to fix, but it will be a slow process. There are some that are quick healers, but they usually are not as intense or fixated as most of us here. I had a nurse who had palpitations to the point that she became desperate. She started taking meds which didn't really help. I caught her a few months into her illness. (this is a very good thing that I caught her early). At first she told me she is a very laid back person and she didn't think stress applied to her, while in the back of my mind I was like "whatever". I printed her my keys to healing. I guess one day he was desperate and started to follow them, by just thinking about something in her life she would feel the start of her palpitations. This made her make a few changes in her life to try and resolve them and she started think about things in a new way. In a couple of months she was 99% better. |
| bryan3000 |
Posted - 03/31/2013 : 13:11:19
Pspa,
I think it easily could be. Though, it's still habitual and you still have to work on those daily habits and thoughts while you're going after the underlying factors, as I understand it. Challenging daily thoughts, behaviors, etc. That's just as big of a part of it as recognizing that it came from childhood. (Most things do.)
I also believe that perfectionism can result from an array of childhood issues and some (like mine) may even amplify into adulthood.
The guys I'm working with basically have a formula where you go after daily thoughts and behaviors, while concurrently addressing that underlying issue.
(For example... if you can't let the dishes sit in the sink for a couple of hours because it makes you anxious... why? Probably because you're trying to uphold some standard from childhood or some guilt factor, so that is addressed so you can change the behavior along with the understanding of WHY you are changing it.)
To me, most of our behaviors can be pretty easily identified as far as a source. Once you have that, you can work on uprooting that belief set.
That approach has been working for me. But, it's slow going as you know. This is a lifetime of thoughts and habits. |
| pspa123 |
Posted - 03/31/2013 : 09:43:55
Isnt perfectionism itself a response to something else though like low self esteem? |
| bryan3000 |
Posted - 03/31/2013 : 09:40:24
The anxiety specialist I've worked with said that perfectionism and over-responsibility were among if not the highest causes of hidden anxiety and stress. (TMS)
Ace talks of strain being a prime contributor and I can't help but think of perfectionism and poor boundaries like being overly responsible when he does. It all makes perfect sense, really.
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