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| alix |
Posted - 03/20/2013 : 13:49:08
I am reading the Bruce Ecker book , "Unlocking the Emotional Brain: Eliminating Symptoms at Their Roots Using Memory Reconsolidation" on Coherence Therapy that was introduced here by Dr.Alexander.
I elucidated a mystery in my life. I am okay at public speaking. I don't enjoy it and I have to rehearse of course. It is not exactly natural. English is not my mother tongue also which makes it a bit more challenging. As a VP, I had to introduce new employees, give pep talks etc... I can entertain the audience and my (lame) jokes are pretty well timed. I get positive feedback nevertheless. But mysteriously I would choke periodically and I could never understand why.
Well, the book reports an almost similar case where the patient could not assert himself during meetings at work despite the fact he was an expert and was expected to give an opinion. The therapist made him realize that if he was assertive, he would become like his father that was the in-your-face type and obnoxious.
Well my dad was an exec and at company picnics he had to make speeches to the employees and families. He would inevitably loose his audience in technical minute details. As a kid I would cringe. That was so embarrassing. My mother and I would look at each other in disbelief.
I suddenly realized that I would choke whenever I stopped being entertaining and started being slightly too technical and boring. As soon as I would see those eyes glaze in front of me.
It is a great book. Very technical, yet it can be a very good resource for us.
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| Birdie78 |
Posted - 03/20/2013 : 14:43:26
I have to say in his defense that he now sends me to a collegue for EMDR. So even if he decides that he does not want to use the re-consolidation tools on his own he sends me to somebody who does. He knows where in my case the boundaries of the analytical approach lie. Although I'd like to do the re-consolidation-process rather with him, I really appreciate that he's considering what's best for me (outside the analytical approach).
Kind regards from Germany sends Birdie |
| alix |
Posted - 03/20/2013 : 14:10:16
Birdie,
Your therapist needs therapy... You are challenging his beliefs.
Dr.Alexander said: "Denial, cynicism, and anger are very powerful defense mechanisms". It clearly applies to your therapist. |
| Birdie78 |
Posted - 03/20/2013 : 14:03:57
Alix, I read the book too and found it to be very, very interesting and enlightening, although it wasn't so easy to understand for me. But I guess I catched the main message!
My therapist understands English very well so I gave him the book because I thought it is very enlightening for every therapist, no matter which approach (mine is an analyst).
He gave me the book back telling me that this was not relevant to him and his work!?! I was a bit shocked to be honest.
But it's funny...since I read this book, every time I suffer from very intense symptoms, the same time I automatically try to remember some counteracting situation in the hope to take some re-consolidation place... .
Kind regards from Germany sends Birdie |
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