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| balaenoptera |
Posted - 03/11/2013 : 12:07:47
Hi
I haven’t been on the forum for quite a long time. Unfortunately not because my pain has resolved. I was too much occupied with other stuff. I’m now having severe pain for two years. I will post my revised story later. It takes me some time, because English is not my native language. But I already have some questions to the community.
I would like to know from you how you deal with residual doubts in the TMS theory. Maybe doubt is the wrong word. I do believe 100% that emotional issues can cause severe physical symptoms and my story and my personal traits seem to be perfect examples for Sarno’s theory (as you will see in my story). But it’s always hard for me to be 100% sure that this is it what takes place in me. I have been to several physicians and they could not find any plausible cause. But I’m always afraid that I might just have something that escapes their diagnostic routine. So I am always only like 90% confident. And that might be the reason why I still have not made profound progress. OK, and I am very impatient. Have you faced similar problems? How have you dealt with that?
I am very confident that a lot of my pain and unpleasant sensations are due to conditioning. I almost immediately have unpleasant sensations while standing, and later on pain. I am aware that I am always looking at the sensations and the pain. I have some rare moments when my mind is distracted, mostly for less than a minute, and I realize: “You have not felt these sensations in the last 30 seconds”. Until now I have failed to prolong such moments by ignoring or accepting the symptoms. I almost always feel immediately stressed, frustrated or unhappy. Is there a better strategy?
My last question is for those that also have to deal with anxiety and maybe depression. Before the pain (and subsequently the anxiety) started two years ago, I already had a depression, which prevented me from taking necessary steps in my life. I assume that my mind created pain and anxiety to further prevent me from taking these steps. And also as a distraction from the feelings of shame and guilt that I am not able to do that.
To me it sometimes looks like a three way barrier. Like, if you plan to do something, first you have to overcome the first defense line, let’s say the depressive feelings. If you got that, you also overcome your anxiety. But then the last barrier, the pain, puts you down. Does that make sense to you?
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| balaenoptera |
Posted - 03/12/2013 : 05:18:34
Thanks all!
You are right, I have nothing to lose.
It's only this damned feeling that it looks like a journey that is too hard for me. That my mind is so rotten that I don't have the power to heal. That every issue blocks the other to improve. The life situation blocks the pain, the anxiety and vice versa.
And sometimes the idea that you have something physical that just has to be found and can be cured easily seems very alluring.
I am writing on my story. It's very detailed and very long. I hope the members won't be annoyed by its size. |
| shawnsmith |
Posted - 03/11/2013 : 17:17:31
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Originally posted by balaenoptera
..... I have been to several physicians and they could not find any plausible cause...... Does that make sense to you?
Sure does make a lot of sense. Many people on this message have been where you are now. Several physicians on and they all say you are healthy. Sounds a lot like TMS to me.
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other people have of you is inauthentic living – another unconscious role theego plays.” -- Ekhart Tolle |
| gigalos |
Posted - 03/11/2013 : 16:20:16
I use blind faith. Ofcourse there is a chance that I am wrong, but in that case TMS probably makes any pain that is purely physical much worse. So I can only win from believing it is TMS. Noticing that you don't feel pain when you are distracted should be a boost for your believe in the TMS component.
For me the way to start was to make an excel-sheet, put all Sarno's personality-traits plus anger in columns, make one column for behaviour in daily life/past and make one column for how I could change those patterns of behaviour. Then I filled the sheet row by row and in the end I made a short list of the most important ones that I should be able to turn in my favour.
From that day on I slowly started to improve.
So, start doing your homework, use my method or someone elses, but start working on it and BE PATIENT!! :)
Don't think in terms of barriers. An improvement of depressive feelings will probably be accompanied by an improvement in anxiety and also in pain. Slowly all three will improve in time.
take care and lift your face slowly upwards |
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