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| 2scoops |
Posted - 03/06/2005 : 14:57:13
I have read that trauma during infancy can make one prone to repress their emotions. I have been thinking and I remeber my mother telling me when I was a baby that I was allercic to milk. I guess it was a while before the doctors could figure this out. So I was very sick during my infancy, and I was constantly given something that was hurting my health. I rember my mother telling me that they thought I may not live, cause I was throwing up and having trouble breathing. Is tere a chance that an even such as this could be playing a role in my TMS? Or do you think it maybe something I'm looking too much into? I do have a tendency to rwad too much into things. |
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| miehnesor |
Posted - 03/07/2005 : 15:30:23
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Originally posted by 2scoops
I have read that trauma during infancy can make one prone to repress their emotions.
2scoops,
This is definitely true in my case. I'm guessing that infant trauma coupled with some parental immaturity is the root cause of my chronic tms. For me TMS functions to divert my attention away from my anger at my mother for not being there for me emotionally in infancy and early childhood. The amazing thing is that consciously I don't have any anger towards my mother. Additionally I have virtually no negative memories with respect to my mother. If it wasn't for the fact that she admitted to me that she reacted badly to my infant trauma I would have no way of knowing that unconsciously I am in a rage state. So despite feeling strange and maybe even a little bit guilty I must try to be angry about what actually happened to me. |
| Laura |
Posted - 03/07/2005 : 09:16:34
Dr. Robert Fulford, an amazing osteopathic doctor, talks about this in his amazing book Touch of Life.
It makes sense that birth/infancy trauma would cause trauma later in life. The one traumatic thing I remember was not during infancy but as a young child. I fell off of a roof of a building (tried to jump when someone was coming and thought I was in trouble) and when my mother saw me she screamed "She's going to die!!!!" Then, I was rushed to the hospital by my dad and a family friend (my mother came to the hospital after). I suffer from TMJ and have always had jaw problems. My lower gum line slants up (I believe from the blow to the jaw) and I get a popping or clicking noise in my ear when I open and close my mouth. To this day, I clearly remember the look of horror on my mother's face and way she reacted.
I don't remember too much of what went on as a baby but I'm told the day my parents brought me home from the hospital my mother laid me down on the floor and my brother stomped on my face. He hated me and wanted me outta there. We have never had a close relationship and he has always felt like I intruded on his space by my being born. Interesting stuff!
Laura
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| menvert |
Posted - 03/06/2005 : 19:27:51
well yes i would say it is significant,
i was born 6 weeks premature & alone in a humidicrib for weeks(little surprise i have people issues, yet get along with machines...) Sarno does mention lack of mother bonding is a fector....
but there is still not a lot one can do to address it. just add it to your list of 'things that add to my pool of rage'.
Personally im not convinced looking 'too much into' any specific [PAST] life event is very beneficial for the bulk of TMS sufferers.
Although for some people especially the ones Sarno would send to psychotherapy, it MAY be of use.
for me it is kind of a distraction - dwelling on or blaming past events, which often causes me a lot more self hate/why me type feelings..... because it is uncoucious emotions that matter the most i dont think it helps me. i generally know most of my events already, knowing them is good but im not sure exploring it too much is beneficial.....
that being said I will use such information BUT only if it is effecting me NOW... i can think ok this emotion/pain is related to this fear probably related to being born premature etc.
hmm i wonder if i made that clear as MUD :) |
