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| balto |
Posted - 03/23/2012 : 05:10:09
I think living alone or don't have many friends and loveone around is one of the biggest cause of mental illness. These news articles point that out.
http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/health-17475240
http://forums.psychcentral.com/archive/index.php/t-191748.html
This one for Tennis Tom: http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/health-12860916
http://www.thedailybeast.com/newsweek/2011/10/30/andrew-weil-s-spontaneous-happiness-our-nature-deficit-disorder.html
http://www.emaxhealth.com/6705/richer-countries-are-more-depressed-poorer-ones
My thought is: When you get rich, you can afford a place of your own and worship, and protect your "privacy", whick lead to isolation, which make you more prone to mental health problems. |
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| wrldtrv |
Posted - 03/26/2012 : 20:18:29
This has become more of an issue for me in recent years. Aging, I suppose. I have always been somewhat of a loner, craved my time alone, and even used to take long vacations to Europe and other places alone. Though sometimes lonely, I relished the challenges of the road.
That all seemed to change several years ago, and now the idea of going on vacation alone seems not only depressing, but scary. Not that I wouldn't still do it if I had no choice, but I find it easier to visit relatives in one place or the other. I found that I am more of a people person than I imagined, and more importantly, I am not the island I thought I was. |
| tennis tom |
Posted - 03/24/2012 : 10:44:42
quote:
Originally posted by shari
One thing worse than being alone is wishing we were.
AMEN to that! In Western Culture we can be lonely because we can afford it, who wants to sleep in the same room with their brother?
Thanks for the article Balto. When I got "clinically" depressed, it was after having to take care of my father who had taken to bed. I made the mistake of taking the opportunity to rest my hip. I stopped all physical activity for six months to rest it. Biggest mistake of my life! Didn't "cure" a thing, only created depression making life a living nightmare. I quit working out with my coach which I had been doing twice a day and did nothing physical in a stubborn effort to "rest it". I got no real support from anyone but my girlfriend who was spoon feeding me a mixture of yogurt and trail-mix as I lost over thirty pounds in several months. My brother suggested I buy a building and fix it up to come out of it, my coach said let's have coffee sometime. The biggest motivation was a therapist I was seeing was so unsympathetic I got better just so I wouldn't have to see him anymore. The best thing was to start exercising again for a half hour a day, walking or swimming. Whatever you do don't stop exercising for at least thirty minutes a day, mindbody well being requires it. |
| RageSootheRatio |
Posted - 03/24/2012 : 07:12:14
Hi Wavy (and thanks for your post onto the "Berceli/ TRE" thread) ...
I was just thinking that there are probably studies about how living with families can actually be quite enraging. ;o)
Although I do take Balto's point about "FRIENDS AND LOVED ONES" indicating a level of TRUE friendship and love. It's not as simple as it sounds though, at least not for me.
and family violence is not really that uncommon, either. |
| Wavy Soul |
Posted - 03/23/2012 : 23:49:08
I struggle with this - I've lived alone since my divorce 8 years ago, but before that I lived with husbands for 23 years. It has felt like a necessary "drying out" period for me, and I have NOT had worse TMS than when I was in fairly happy marriages.
I have lots of friends whom I see a lot, including a 30-year best male friend who lives next door and is practically my hubbie in many ways. But I miss more of a family feeling. Yet I know lots of people whose families are driving them crazy.
Love is the answer, whatever the question |
| balto |
Posted - 03/23/2012 : 20:34:44
http://www.cnn.com/2012/03/23/health/living-alone-depression/index.html?hpt=hp_t3 |
| shari |
Posted - 03/23/2012 : 09:49:17
One thing worse than being alone is wishing we were. |
| RageSootheRatio |
Posted - 03/23/2012 : 09:29:22
While I agree with this in general, in terms of specific situations, I really think it depends on the individual, and that this issue is more "nuanced" than generalizations can account for. In my own case, at times my isolation has actually been quite protective of my mental health. |
| Wodg |
Posted - 03/23/2012 : 08:38:13
I know one guy who moved in alone to his parents holiday home to go work in the area but ended up completey obsessed with his lungs. Spent thousands of dollars on machines and supplements. He is superfit and handsome but still obsessed. He told me he went to the Doctor and was told his lung capacity was 7 litres which is huge but the results weren't enough to convince him. He showed me the chart but still saw inconsistences in the graph.
Another person I know became convinced he had AIDS when he was left alone when his Wife went to prison for two years.
Both are fine now their situation has changed to be around people again. |
| Back2-It |
Posted - 03/23/2012 : 07:36:26
Bowling Alone....
http://www.amazon.com/Bowling-Alone-Collapse-American-Community/dp/0743203046
"Bridges Freeze Before Roads" |
