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| jaya |
Posted - 02/22/2012 : 05:54:06
yesterday i hit a deer with my car,then when i got home my dad was having stroke-like symptoms again(he had a massive stroke about a year ago) at the hospital my anxiety and tms kicked into high gear, syptoms started coming back one by one--dry eyes,eye floaters,ibs,tingling on back of legs,eye flashers-the works
they said there was no new damage on the ct scan-looked the same as the last ct scan. they dont know what is wrong though. my ocd then kicked in with the "what-if" nonsense. im must have bad karma,everytime i start feeling good-im bounced back to square one. im tired of being at square one...its getting old now. i need the support of the forum on this one-i cant stop crying. i dont have a lot of family to help me. i feel like its only a matter of time before something bad happens to me like: stroke,heart attack, lupus(my mom died of lupus)---little hypochondria setting in here also.
any help or advice would be greatly appreciated,
thanx
jaya |
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| Joy_I_Am |
Posted - 02/24/2012 : 11:18:52
Dear Jaya, of COURSE you have a migraine now! Look at all the stuff going on! Not a good couple of days. They're not all like that, thank goodness.
Feeling unwell isn't life, it is a normal little part of life, a thing that happens sometimes. Bad days aren't Your Life, they are a little bit of it. Find the funniest movie you can, slap it on the DVD, and chuckle yourself better. You'll feel fine soon, I bet!
And don't worry about the deer - nature makes lots of them, there is a natural wastage - some of them are meant to die, and if it wasn't you, it'd be a coyote (or whatever, I don't know, I'm from the UK...).
You've had a wee shock, bless you. We're designed, as humans, to feel a bit shaken up, then get over it. I mean, I don't have diarrhoea... but if I hit a deer, I would sh*t myself! 
Hugs, Joy |
| jaya |
Posted - 02/24/2012 : 05:21:04
so, havent had a opthalmic migraine in 8 months(last time i wasnt getting along with my wife)now dad in hospital and a migraine steps in, symptom substitution is incredible-this migraine was reaally bad, lots of visual crap, very dizzy, pounding headache, hurts to sneeze type/dont get up to fast. the one positive thing about all of this is , further confirmation of the brain way of distracting you. its like your mind says," hey this ibs, eye floater/flasher thing really isnt doing it anymore, lets bring back the old faithful migraine to scare the living crap out of you so you can think there something seriously wrong again, then lets lace it with a little paranoia and health anxiety....oh yeah lets put your under control, ocd out of control.... now lets go to sleep"(good luck with that)and if that dont work, ill try something else... that exactly what i feel my mind is saying--powerful stuff--i dont wish this mess on anybody-thank you to everyone for continued support-i need all i can get-just having people reply is very comforting |
| nycmom |
Posted - 02/23/2012 : 12:44:11
I hit a dear once too, it's really scary. You have so much going on right now, it's good to just take good care of yourself and make sure you are eating, drinking enough fluids and getting enough rest. Hug! |
| Goodney |
Posted - 02/23/2012 : 07:10:50
Darko, man I enjoy reading your posts. |
| jaya |
Posted - 02/23/2012 : 05:02:46
i guess im in the "why me" mode--though its true if i didnt have bad luck i wouldnt have any luck at allquote:
Originally posted by Darko
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its hard to accept events that are out of my control-it really stinks-like a bad hand of cards
This is such a loaded statement! Why is it hard to accept things out of your control?....ask yourself and really inquire deeply. You will find the reason for much of your angst in the answers I would think.
A bad event is a bad event because who says?! YOU! So you hit a deer....it's done, nothing you can do except fix it and get on with your life. Instead what we do is rerun the event a thousand times, which leads to anxiety, anger and whatever else. Plus when we keep running the movie we trigger all those nasty beliefs in our subconscious mind....not enough money, my life sucks, what am I going to do?, I'm helpless blah blah blah. More negative emotions!
At least you have a car, and your dad is still alive ( mine passed when I was young ) and you life in a nice place where deer roam freely. EVERYTHING and I mean everything has a negative side to it....chose what you focus on and change your perspective.....how enjoyable your life is comes down to perspective.
Do the work and focus on your emotions....accept the pain and it will take care of itself.
You're creating the pain and you can uncreate it as so as you get it.
D
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| Darko |
Posted - 02/22/2012 : 15:38:40
quote:
its hard to accept events that are out of my control-it really stinks-like a bad hand of cards
This is such a loaded statement! Why is it hard to accept things out of your control?....ask yourself and really inquire deeply. You will find the reason for much of your angst in the answers I would think.
A bad event is a bad event because who says?! YOU! So you hit a deer....it's done, nothing you can do except fix it and get on with your life. Instead what we do is rerun the event a thousand times, which leads to anxiety, anger and whatever else. Plus when we keep running the movie we trigger all those nasty beliefs in our subconscious mind....not enough money, my life sucks, what am I going to do?, I'm helpless blah blah blah. More negative emotions!
At least you have a car, and your dad is still alive ( mine passed when I was young ) and you life in a nice place where deer roam freely. EVERYTHING and I mean everything has a negative side to it....chose what you focus on and change your perspective.....how enjoyable your life is comes down to perspective.
Do the work and focus on your emotions....accept the pain and it will take care of itself.
You're creating the pain and you can uncreate it as so as you get it.
D |
| Stryder |
Posted - 02/22/2012 : 14:41:41
Hi jaya,
In addition to all the fine advice already given, try this for a break, be the fish.
Your mind is playing the movie. You can stop it from doing this.
The past: You mind reviews all the past events. What did I do right? What did I do not right? How could I have done it differently. You are in a loop.
The future: Your mind is planning, projecting, trying to figure out a course. You are in a loop.
For part of your day, live in the now. A fish can only remember as far back as 3 seconds ago. Before that, nothing. A fish doesnt plan for the future. After now, nothing. Nothing comes next, this is it. Be the fish. Focus on what you are doing, experiencing at the moment. This doesnt mean to ignore your plans, just dont let them take up all of your thinking time. Take a break and be the fish.
Take care, -Stryder |
| jaya |
Posted - 02/22/2012 : 13:20:43
its hard to accept events that are out of my control-it really stinks-like a bad hand of cards |
| Marlawantstohike |
Posted - 02/22/2012 : 11:04:13
I live in the mountains and hit my first deer last oct at night on way home from nearby lake. I was on hwy but it is rural there and no lighting except for cars. I didn't see it come at all. Scared me, I had two friends in the car, I was scared for them, felt guilty about hitting deer and maybe hurting my friends and then of course about the car and no insurance for fixing the body of it.
Took me awhile to feel comfortable driving around here especially at night. But I am fine now.
I agree with the others it is normal to have things happen after strong emotional events. It sure has happened that way with me... |
| balto |
Posted - 02/22/2012 : 10:37:04
Like Darko and TT said, just show up, go with the flow. Really! there is nothing else you can do at time like this. It is just your body's normal respond to stress. Stress = symptoms. Don't let those symptoms scare you into a fear loop. When your stressful situation resolve, your symptoms will disappear, if you don't let it scare you. goodluck Jaya. |
| jaya |
Posted - 02/22/2012 : 10:29:25
as always, thanx tom |
| tennis tom |
Posted - 02/22/2012 : 09:09:10
Tough day Jaya, hitting a deer and father with serious medical issues. Now you're catastrophizing into the future that it's in your genes. Your TMS is kicking in to protect you from feeling the emotions that it fears would overwhelm you. Best advice I can think of at the moment is : "JUST SHOW UP". Don't worry about doing anything. Just show up and roll with the punches. The alternative many would do in your situation is get on a Greyhound bus to Vegas leaving it to others to clean up their mess. Just show up and let the rest unwind.
Best Wishes |
| jaya |
Posted - 02/22/2012 : 06:42:29
thanx darko-you r always a helpquote:
Originally posted by Darko
Stop resisting Jaya....the situation is what it is, try not to label it. Allow it and make peace with your symptoms.
Be like water, water never gets upset or resists whatever is in it's way....it just sits there or finds a way around.
Take control of your thoughts.....don't buy into the negative recordings...which play everytime you have the "stimulus"
Focus on your emotions, how do you feel about all the events? Feel the sensations in your body....be with them, allow them, then let them go...repeat repeat repeat repeat!!
It's just a day where a few things happened, don't let it burn you up.....you can handle it all. Just say f**k it and do the best you can and if that's not good enough then that's ok.
You are fine! It's just you mind that is freakin out because you're scared, frustrated or insecure....don't buy into the negative thoughts
Hang in there!
D
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| Darko |
Posted - 02/22/2012 : 06:10:55
Stop resisting Jaya....the situation is what it is, try not to label it. Allow it and make peace with your symptoms.
Be like water, water never gets upset or resists whatever is in it's way....it just sits there or finds a way around.
Take control of your thoughts.....don't buy into the negative recordings...which play everytime you have the "stimulus"
Focus on your emotions, how do you feel about all the events? Feel the sensations in your body....be with them, allow them, then let them go...repeat repeat repeat repeat!!
It's just a day where a few things happened, don't let it burn you up.....you can handle it all. Just say f**k it and do the best you can and if that's not good enough then that's ok.
You are fine! It's just you mind that is freakin out because you're scared, frustrated or insecure....don't buy into the negative thoughts
Hang in there!
D |
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