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| saralou |
Posted - 08/13/2010 : 02:51:37
Well the last few months i have been having lots of dental nightmares stemming from 3 new white fillings i had..i initially thought that it was tms and i think some of it was but one of the teeth did die and abcess so off i went for a root canal.. my dentist thinks i have been making it all up and actually calls me neurotic now. Anyway yesterday when she was completing the root canal she said to me.. 'you have very fine root canals normally i would expect to see these in a 60year old!!!!' (i am 36 btw) apparently they narrow as we age!!!
I think this makes root canals more difficult and more likely to fail!! So why oh why would she say that to someone who she knows is a worrier about their health and now i have become fixated on that sentence!!!she said because i have fine roots on teeth thats prob why tooth died as when nerve swoll/became irritated after filling it had no where to swell as root canal was fine so it died!!! so now am prob gonna go the rest of life scared that everytime i get dental work the tooth is gonna die off!!
anyway just thought i'd have a rant...it annoys me that some medical professionals are so tactless to people who they know will worry..
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| swmr1 |
Posted - 08/15/2010 : 12:50:17
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...you then have two options 1- cross the mental chasm and act with courage or 2- be a victim - which I believe leads to pain as a result of constant negative thinking and victimisation.
This is the key for me as well. Well said. |
| Darko |
Posted - 08/13/2010 : 22:38:54
Guej,
thank you and I agree with you! I once heard a saying that has stuck with me and that is "to know and not to do is not yet to know" I find this statement so profound, because there are loads of things I know and don't do. However when I truly understand something and believe it completely I will do the thing. I have found my mind has it's own agenda and will continue to worry about things I'm aware I worry about......which becomes tricky. From what I've seem my TMS experience is caused by concern over the future, and the more I have faith that things will be ok and that I can handle anything the more my symptoms abate.
My personal view is TMS is a result and not a cause, it's a result of our screwed up thinking and complete identification with the mind and the squirts of chemicals we get from it.......thus the goal is to separate oneself from the mind chatter. It's always going to be there talking sh*t to us about this and that but we must learn to anchor into our bodies and not the mind, because our minds a neurotic to say the least :-) I have found this especially true of TMSers.
Sorry if this sounds a little deep, but sometimes we need to look closely at things. I have had some interesting challenges in life recently which are still on going and one thing I have truly begun to understand is that I spend far too much time trying to fix the outside world. You know the stuff, make money, tax, blah blah blah. All the while ignoring the chaos in my head.
I now see that if there is chaos in the head, then it's also in the outside world and in the body. If you truly make peace with a future event that concerns you and know that you can handle it if it happens then there is nothing to stress about. You don't stress about running out of milk cause you know you can get more, but what if you have no money?? Well then you must have faith that you can handle it or take some constructive action to ensure the event doesn't occur.
Whenever the mind is stressed it's because it perceives hurt/loss.....you then have two options 1- cross the mental chasm and act with courage or 2- be a victim - which I believe leads to pain as a result of constant negative thinking and victimisation. So the big question is, do you continue to worry because you ultimately are afraid of the future, don't believe you can handle life's challenges??? I know for me this is true........and if I truly believe this how can I expect my mind to be at ease?? Ultimately faith and confidence is a big part of stress free/tms free living.......that's just my opinion anyway. Learn to master the area I call the Mental Chasm and you might find stress to be an insignificant thing you pass through on your journey.
I hope you reading this helps you as much as me writing it :-) |
| guej |
Posted - 08/13/2010 : 17:38:05
What a great post Darko! It is so true. I definitely have trouble implementing what you recommend, but I know it's the path to healing and having a better life in general. It's all about retraining the brain away from its usual habits of worrying. It's a defense mechanism that makes you feel as though you are exerting some type of control over a situation that is entirely out of your control. Those that don't worry obsessively about everything in the future, and don't ruminate endlessly over past events generally don't carry these chronic pain syndromes in their bodies. Everyone I have ever met or talked with that suffers from chronic pain has a worrying personality. |
| Darko |
Posted - 08/13/2010 : 17:21:33
Saralou,
there is much you can learn from this experience. Why would you bother worrying over something you have no direct control over. These are the things that cause pain in the body also. By letting other people annoy you, you give them control over you and your reality.....why would you want to do that? What makes the dentist right? That's just their observation and could be different for someone else. So now you're telling yourself that you're going to spend the rest of your life stressing over something you have no direct control over.
From my experience, the moment I took responsibility for everything in my life, and I mean everything.....I was in a position of power. Stay present!!!!! Have you ever noticed that you only worry about future events.....most of which never occur, and if they do occur you just deal with them?? My point?.......there really is no point to stressing.......it's a useless protective function of the mind.......just thank it for caring and forget about it :-)
Life is TOO SHORT for that crap.....learn to say f*** it and be happy!
Remember, what you focus on expands........
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