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| marytabby |
Posted - 07/27/2009 : 09:07:56
Hi,
I've had a lot of success with ridding myself of most of my back pain since learning about TMS in 2005. What I'm left with is the type of TMS that comes on when I'm worried or stressed. Now, I don't get a neck ache unless I'm worried about a difficult conversation I have to have with someone. I literally will get a neckache the DAY OF the impending difficult talk I have to have, whether it be a situation at work or something personal at home. My neck and scapula muscles will tighten up so bad when I know the tough talk is coming. Since I've had good success so far with ridding myself of old beliefs about bad back, etc. does anyone have any suggestions of ways to do prep work ahead of time to AVOID that awful neckache? I've tried "ok, brain, you're not going to use this situation as an excuse to start a flare up, yadda yadda". Hasn't worked yet. Thanks |
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| Dave |
Posted - 07/27/2009 : 15:27:28
I believe you should just accept the symptoms. Attemping to control them is focusing on them and that is counterproductive to treatment.
Personally, I view your message as a very encouraging sign that you are on the right path to beating TMS. You should take a long-term view and trust that over time, the symptoms will lessen on their own and hopefully, disappear completely. However, whether that happens should be irrelevant to the process. By living in the moment, accepting the symptoms and realizing their cause is psychological, you are carrying out the reconditioning.
IMO the best you can do in this situation is dig a bit deeper -- ask yourself why the impending talk is so difficult. What about the topic is touching a nerve inside you? Try to follow the feeling down to figure out why the 'child inside' is 'angry' about the pressure you are putting on yourself to carry out this conversation.
It might also help, if possible, to get the conversation over with as soon as possible rather than procrastinate. |
| HilaryN |
Posted - 07/27/2009 : 15:12:54
Are you into journalling?
Have you tried examining the feelings which are coming up in relation to the difficult situation? Seeing where those feelings are coming from?
Hilary N |
| marytabby |
Posted - 07/27/2009 : 09:56:46
That sounds counter-intuitive to TMS concepts! |
| patils |
Posted - 07/27/2009 : 09:41:17
One advise is use high back chair while working on computer. Work with head rested posture and see the difference. |
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