| T O P I C R E V I E W |
| greenelvis |
Posted - 02/10/2009 : 20:01:41
So I'm a little pissed. I have not had to deal with any back pain or sciatic tms issues for over 2 years and now I find out I am pregnant and my leg starts hurting me.
Has anyone experienced a return of tms symptoms due to pregnancy? And do I fight this the same way? I am happy about the baby so I don't get it. Part of me wants to journal through like I used to do when I had bad tms symptoms but, I kinda don't want to uncover anything negative about something in my life that brings me joy. Does that make sense?
Part of me is hoping that me just writing this is enough to tell my mind to f-off and let me be happy! |
| 3 L A T E S T R E P L I E S (Newest First) |
| Peg |
Posted - 02/11/2009 : 18:26:38
Hi and congratulations.
I don't blame you for being upset, but I would suggest you try not to fight. Try to accept and let it pass.
I understand you not wanting to "uncover anything negative", but isn't that how we TMS'ers get into trouble?
Ignoring the presence of potential negative feelings doesn't mean they're not there. At the same time, admitting to some negative feelings, be it worry or fear doesn't make you a bad person and doesn't mean you won't be able to enjoy this time. I've read something in several books that would seem appropriate here. The advice is that by embracing and accepting the negative feelings, we are more able to enjoy the joy and positives emotions more fully. If we attempt to hide or dull the negative emotions, the positive emotions will be dulled as well.
This is such a wonderous time for you. I remember being pregnant and having a mixture of emotions. Awe, amazement, joy, and love. The feeling of having your child moving inside you is like no other. Along with the experience came terror (Briefly as in, "there's no turning back now"), worry ("will the baby be healthy?, Will I be a good mother?), fear ("what will labor be like"?)
Isn't it human and normal to have a mixture of emotions?
I would vote for journaling, but do what feels right for you Enjoy this special time and take good care of yourself and baby.
Best
Peg
In questions of science, the authority of a thousand is not worth the humble reasoning of a single individual. Galileo Galilei |
| Dor |
Posted - 02/11/2009 : 13:51:55
First, congratulations! New babies are the best.
I am not going to comment on the TMS thing. I will leave that to others who know more than I do and might have better suggestions. But, yes, it does make sense that you don't want to uncover anything negative about something so joyous. Maybe you are looking at that the wrong way though. Maybe you are just a bit scared - totally normal with pregancy. That doesn't mean that you don't want the baby very much. There is lots to think about and yes, worry about. Most of the worries prove to be just worries, but all expecting moms feel them. And, I must add in too that your hormones are all over the place right now. That too is normal, but it doesn't mean that you aren't going to be more emotional than your "normal". I know and understand that the TMS theory expects us to dismiss the physical and for the most part I accept that reasoning. You are in a different place right now though. Your body is going through lots and lots of changes. Why not just try to accept that that is all it is? Nothing dark, just normal.
Dor |
| mizlorinj |
Posted - 02/11/2009 : 06:36:39
Well congratulations! I am having a nephew next month and I am very excited. My first!
I can tell you the parents though are having anxiety. My bro told me last night he hopes all goes well, has fear that something is wrong, etc. Perhaps there are some fears you could write about. It is a very exciting time for sure; adding to your family is on the Rahne scale of stressors. So I wouldn't hesitate to do some journaling; never know what'll be uncovered and you can have freedom. Make your expectation an enjoyable, healthy pregnancy and delivery!
Wanted to tell everyone something I remembered this morning--since someone with whom I work is re-living the herniated disc episode I had and going the physical route instead of TMS. I remember Dr. Sarno and one doc other saying a pinched nerve dies, therefore, it is painless. It is a dead nerve if it's being pinched. (I like to post the tidbits that come to me now and then)
Anyway Green, I hope all goes well with you. There is no reason to think it won't! Best wishes to you and your little (tiny) one. |
|
|
